Older guys

How can I be lazy after reading this :D I’m wish older life in my native country would be that active.

Around my neck of the woods, the older farts here are more active than the young bucks.

P.S. Thaanks for the compliments guys.

Hi all
Excellent thread Avocet 8
I’m in my seventh decade and been involved with pe since the late 1970’s.
Still feel young at heart and try to keep fit/healthy by visiting the gym every other day and ensure I maintain a balanced diet[not the triple cheeseburger on each shoulder type]
Apart from loving my wife and family very much I have a deep affection for music; books; movies[arts in general];news;current affairs;new technology and life itself.
I play electric guitar in a blues/rock jam band and perform weekly at a local pub.
The musicians I meet vary in age and I still learn a lot from the younger element…no age barriers in music; and I like to think they benefit from my experience too.

Throughout a long marriage my wife and I have enjoyed an active loving sex life and for the past few months have been practising non - ejaculatory intercourse.
I’ve been researching the Taoist approach to lovemaking and health and my findings are turning out to be very enlightening.
I’m still at the learner stage and aiming for control of my sexual energy in order to be able to move it from my genital area to other parts of my body.

Not having spent my seed for a while has left me feeling more energetic and more enthusiastic and available for sex.
My wife is adjusting well to this new routine because the pace /rhythm of congress is very slow and relaxed.

Learning new things is stimulating and exciting whatever your age.

dixie;

Spend your seed every now and then. It’s good for your prostate.

I think, in general, that aging is not a bad thing if one stays involved with the life going on around and the lives we all live, privately.

Years back, my Dad retired. He really looked forward to that and planned carefully for retirement in the financial way. But he forgot that he had a good friendship network - so relieved not to do corporate things anymore, he bought one of those Barkalounger chairs and watched TV all day.

Our mother managed to gather all us kids together and say, “Your father is making me crazy. He’s in my kichen all day, under my feet; friends call to play cards, do other things. He watches dumb things on TV, even cartoons. And he’s getting fat.”

Well, it wasn’t easy but we got him (somehow) enthused about playing cards with his friends, then going out and shooting his guns, and fishing and hunting again with friends; and walking around in the woods alone for no reason other than enjoying being there. He wore out at least one dog, even. The dog finally refused to come out of its house for Dad, his little, short legs probably arthritic from climbing trails. Dad dropped 30 lbs. He began to read again. He was quite active. Mom died; one of those diseases. He learned how to do all the household stuff she had done for him during their lives together and lived successfully alone for years.

One has to stay connected.

I have learned a few other things as I have grown a few gray hairs.

Lovemaking is far better than sex. Making sexual love to someone you love is perhaps the greatest human experience. Bodies united, fused in sexual ecstasy , while the souls are equally united in unconditional commitment and love is the most profound of human experience. The giving and receiving of sexual, emotional, and spiritual pleasure is sublime beyond words. In no way compares to the shallow, selfish pleasure of a trist with a “fuck buddy.”

Beauty transcends the physical. There is an inner beauty of character, trust, selflessness, and commitment that far surpasses breast implants and black lace panties. As 2 people grow old together they lose some of their youthful physical attractiveness. But when the lights are dim, and the penis is lovingly probing the depths of the one you love more than yourself, the inner beauty shines brighter and clearer than fading physical beauty. When the lights are dim and the fireplace illuminates our lovemaking, my wife is as beautiful to me as she was in her twenties. I desire no one else.

I know this sounds trite and cliche’ but it is true for me. Perhaps this sounds a bit “girlie”, but I love sex with my wife of 35 years. It is as passionate and as beautiful as it was 3 decades past. MXL

Guys,

I love to read your posts and I find a lot of wisdom in them.

What do you do about boredom? I know PE has help create some excitement for me (hopefully for her too) but what do you do about boredom in sex, relationships and life in general?

Yes, boredom can be a problem, but when you are really horny the problem is far less. Wait until you really want to do it. Don’t just do it according to some schedule. Also variety helps. We have made love in many different locations…even at our age (I am 60 but in great shape). I love going to the Rocky Mountains because we walk up some little trail or creek, find an awesome vista hidden behind a large rock or bush, spread out a blanket, and make love in the great outdoors. I love doing it from behind with my arms spread wide open to embrace the sky and the warm sunshine. We also have a favorite pic nick table in the Smokey Mountains. We can see anyone approaching long before they are near. There are great gravel bars along some of the rivers we canoe. I love sex in the woods. It appeals to the “wild man” that lives in me. We often do it on the balcony of motels or condominium rooms (if no one can see) while people fish, walk, or swim below. I remember “coming” with a very loud grunt and bellow one time and someone in a boat in the marina below said…”What the hell was that, a bear?” We laughed and laughed. But my favorite spot is in front of the fireplace in the den. Tomorrow we are going up in the mountains for a few days. You can bet there will be some….”adventure” to enjoy. I take pictures of these locations. They will bring good memories when we are too old to fuck. We love to look at the pictures and remember. I used to keep some pictures (of fuck spots) on my desk at work. People would ask about them. I would just smile and say it was a pretty spot I like to visit. Those pictures helped me through some tough days at work. MXL

You’ve got some great posts on this thread, MXL… thanks!

Hope you enjoyed your weekend ;)

This is incredibly valuable advice. When I was younger I would masturbate everyday, often several times a day. As I got older I would wait maybe a day or two without orgasms if I knew sex was iminante. Reading about tantric sex and kama sutra got me started but then I met a women who clearly explained many of the other benefits I would receive if I saved up for several weeks. At first it was not easy and after a few days I would give in. I was not ‘master of my domain’. Once I did finally manage to wait several weeks, 24 days to be exact, I spent many hours receiving oral and doing everything imaginable with my wife before finally having my release. Words cannot describe how great and wonderful it is and how it has changed my life for the better. Even outside of sex I have much more vivid dreams, lucid dreams and occassional out of body experiences. Eastern meditators and people for thousands of years found the value of sex without release for the man. Some of them will go months or even years without release and it’s not something they are denying themselves but energy they are building and it allows them access to vivid energies outside our physical reality. For westerners who don’t understand imagine the vivid and realistic qualities of dreams but with complete control and the ability to manifest anything you want with that kind of detail and immersion. So I should say what we are talking about here that sex is only a tiny part.

Still I don’t do it as a religion. Sometimes I will only go 10 days without release. Other times weeks. I still ‘edge’ all the time and enjoy the pleasure of being near orgasm for hours on end.