Older guys

They are trying, seuntjies; they are trying.

This, the “attitude”, if you will, that comes with aging, is one of the things I would like for us all to explore in this thread. When I was 36, I thought I knew it all (how things work) and I did not. When I was 48, I was sure I knew it all and I did not. At 56 I was absolutely positive that I had it together. And so on.

At 51, I echo Magnum and others about getting older. I’m in almost as good a physical shape as when I was a college athlete (I work out 3 times a week), enjoy my job, and love my family. I just wish I had started PEing at 20, although I had constant wood then and without the internet I wouldn’t have found out about it.

50 is the new 30, as far as I’m concerned.

Funny.

You are he.

Do you take it off, just cover it, or pretend it is not there?

Likely you’d do the right thing.

Is 60 the new 40? When you are 60, it is rare you look like 40, though it is possible you could. Instead, you have creaks and aches and some wrinkles and you lose patience with things that you used to tolerate, because toleration no longer makes sense to you.

I think I’d leave it be.

Ok I have a question, a slightly retarded one:

As you get much older, do you find yourself being attracted to women/men of your own age? (presuming you wouldn’t have been in your youth)

avocet asked:
Is 60 the new 40?

I’m blessed to look 10 years younger than my age (so far) and I have fairly young kids (12 and 9) to keep the clock running slower, too.

The biggest part, it seems to me, is to enjoy life. That part, I’ve got down.

And Klayton, I’ve been surprised at how younger women seem attracted to older guys now. The ones that didn’t notice 10 years ago now seem to. (Maybe it’s desperation!)

You really wouldn’t care. After the initial giggles were over, no one else would care. They probably wouldn’t even know what an ADS was.

I am 49.

I read that some people believe that anti-aging should start at 50.

I am still in great shape, athletic, working out every day. I have sex every day and still can’t get enough.

The first question is: anti-aging: yes or no.
The second question is: if so, start no (still in great shape) or later (once the body functions start to loosen a bit).

I have not yet started to give it much thought, so I would appreciate your impressions and experience.

Wow good thread. I concur with Magnum, The happiest age group is their 50’s plus.
Most men at this age there life is satiable, and most major things (family, home, money) is good. Time to enjoy life a little because kids are out of home, and most debts are clear, now we can become kids again because now I can play with big boy toys.

The old saying, the only thing difference between men and boys is the price of the toys is never truer than now. But now I have the time and funds to get toys and do things I couldn’t do before.

I’m finding old friends and starting to do things with them we all did years ago but stopped to rise family and careers.

I too see most unhappy men in the 20’s. It’s a rough world out there; I wouldn’t want to start over again at that age (20) today. I’m involved with students in Voc tech schools today and its alarming what today’s kids believe the wages are out in the real world are.
There living in a fantasy, most kids think starting wages with no skills can get 50,000 plus.

I love being an old fart. I’ll be 55 this year, and still growing.

I believe that a life extension program should start at 35 or 40.

Not true for me (56 next month). I am now and have always been attracted to college age men. Those in their early twenties still have the desire and ability to do sports and work out, thus giving them hard bodies. They’re old enough to drink, drive and vote which gives them a degree of independence and the ability to make their own decisions. They’re often fun to be around. I just can’t get into men my own age. I don’t know that it will ever change.

Now, being attracted to a certain group and being able to attract them are two very different things. I do not look my age, but I do have my self doubts about being able to actually hook up with those I find attractive. So, I guess, one must eventually settle for what one can get regardless of what really turns one on. For the moment I’m being hermit-like and not dating or doing anything sexual except jerking off to Internet porn.

Yes, old guys (if 56 is old) do jerk off and with some regularity. We have gray pubic hair, too. :) Things most people don’t want to think about.

I’ve noticed this in myself. I’ve just hit 33, and I definitely prefer women in their late twenties on into their forties to college girls. Maybe if I met the right one I could get along with her. (It’s all academic though, I’m happily married.) I haven’t cared a whit for teenagers since I was in college myself. A big part of it is the feeling “ewww, it’s like dating your little sister”. I suppose as I age, the “eww, it’s like dating your daughter” response will kick in.

I find that I’m like westla, in that I’m attracted to younger women in their mid-20’s to mid-30’s. I had assumed that I was just having an extended mid-life crisis. Being just on the other side of mid-life this has been a little disturbing.

I can still pass for 30-35, until I open my mouth - especially on subjects like music or politics. These kids don’t ‘remember’ John Belushi on SNL, or Judge John Sirica spelling out ‘harassment’ in exasperation during the Watergate hearings.

There’s a 25 year-old woman I have been seeing since October who is ambivalent about her attraction to me - I’m close in age to her father, though I don’t look it. The first time she brought me home to her apartment she pounced on the age question - I know it had been bugging her. I was honest with her, because I believe in truth, but it hurt me: I know she’d have been willing to commit to me if I hadn’t 15 years older than her first guess of my age.

Now, there’s another woman who is crazy about me and I’m sure would love to form a long-term bond; she’s 49. I just can’t do it. Part of it I think has to do with my own immaturity (I will grow up someday, just not now). But I’m a never-been-married bachelor: I want kids. My 49 year old is past that. I also find that I don’t turn on to her as hard sexually (literally), I need more work to get there. Which makes me feel old.

With my 25 year old she can get me hard in an instant.

I obviously need years of psychotherapy.

I do think there are biological imperatives (but I also think I need therapy).

Interestingly there’s a model who is sort of peripherally in the picture, she’s 23 and she didn’t even ask my age. But she’s European. It’s different than being a Jew from Rochester with a mom who approves or disapproves of everything you do.

I have no gray hair (ok I’ve found 3, but you really have to hunt for them) have had the same hair line for 20 years, but I do have a few white pubes.

What I’m I saying?

I think I’m saying that I’m not far from 50 and I’m fighting it

As the great Diamondwinds says “you only live once… but if you live it right, once is enough.”