Oh man, I’ve gone down that route too - only for my Madame it’s illness related and in your case I guess it’s looking like an approaching climacterium.
We are a couple which discuss things a lot and that helped. What I found out is that my Madame had problems with her libido and besides her specific medical condition it is mainly because she feels less attractive. I think that is to be considered too - not how you are as man and lover, but how she feels as woman and sexual being.
I am still suspecting that her self image is shaken, so this can be adressed.
On the other, more practical side, it is (at least for the two of us here) very important to keep the body contact and tenderness up. Even if it’s non-sexual. That is key to regain or kee the confidence and for you it’s a great way to show her that you find her desireable even when it does not come to sex. Even verbalize it - she needs the confirmation that she is attractive for you!
Maybe she has gained a little weight - weight is to women what dick size is to men, just in the opposite proportion. If she compalins about that, DO NOT SAY it’s no problem for you. Or even say you love it that she is a bit rounder at the right places. Tell her you SUPPORT her whatever her decision is!
Just some thoughts which crossed my mind…
Maybe it’s useable for you. At leats I hope it is.
Thanks for the great and useful response. Yes she is self conscious about her little weight gain and constantly trying to get back in the gym. I have tried your advice by talking about it and telling her that I support whatever she needs to make herself feel better. I have an idea. I am going to go out of my way to watch the kids and try to make time for her to go to the gym and see how that goes. Thanks
Starting date 5/14/2015
Staring size: NBPEL 8.0 BPEL 8.75 Mseg 4.9 BEG 5.25
Currently 5/17/2016 NBPEL 8.3 MSEG 5.25 BEG 5.7