“I wonder how she would like it if, when next talking on the phone to her, I mentioned how big and beautiful that woman on TV’s breasts are. Is this too immature? Hmm.”
Yes, you need to step back and look at this from a detached viewpoint. I know this is hard but you can train yourself to do it.
I had a very fucked up childhood; worse than tv movie material. My interactions with people as a teenager were very unhealthy. I decided that I want a normal healthy life. I started studying people and hanging out with people who seemed to have their shit together. It was rough at first, I was shocked at how they saw situations. I thought a lot of them were dumb but they were just naive to some of the sadder aspects of life. I also realized, as still do regularly, that I was naive to some of the happier aspects of life. I started to emulate them until I understood them. I am now a lot happier. I realize that I control my life. I am reaching my goals. I don’t have conflicts with people like I used to. I am in a healthy relationship. I am still rough around the edges, I might always be in some ways but I am learning, you can too!