Long Enough?

After a year and a half I have achieved an erect length of 8.6” bone pressed. After losing a little weight, my non-bone pressed increased from 7.75” to 8”. BP stayed the same. During our last several sex encounters, I have noticed my wife “wincing” when I penetrated her all the way. At times, I hit her cervix even when I try to avoid it. I feel it sliding over or under my glans. The only position that we can do without me hitting bottom is missionary, and I can’t always do it that way. My wife has had three kids and her vagina is consistent with a woman who has had three kids (although I have to say that it is a terrific vagina and I like it very, very much).

So, what do I do now? I had planned on going for 9” nbp. I don’t see how guys like Bigger, DLD, Phat and secjay can screw without causing at least some level of pain, especially DLD. She has been hinting that I should stop. However, she knows that I want to get to 9”. Maybe this is a wake-up call for me. I’m very goal oriented, so the thought of stopping short of my goal bugs the crap out of me. Well, I guess that I’ll continue on and pay close attention to make sure that I don’t stab and produce pain. Any thoughts on this matter would be welcomed.

For all the shit I have given you on the hanging and getting caught, I must publically apologize at my jests. I had some fun at your expense. But your like a hero to me of sorts.

I say I relate to you as a tall fellow with a shitty starting length. I believe your 6’5” or so. I have six inches over you but not in the right place. ;) If I met your goals I would be avery happy man. I think you should hit the 9nbp mark. It would look great on you. I would continue onto your goals best you could. I would see exactly where you want to go with it first. Your not toofar off and set a reasonable and plausable figure. Your way up there but not into Monster Sized. 10 to me is monster sized. I don’t know if you need the spare money but holding up Ringling Brothers tent with a DLD sized pole shouldn’t be an option next time they come to town.

Until your wife says no more, I would continue on. She is very supportive of you and will only voice a concern at the greater than nine inch mark. If that means more foreplay or lubing I guess she may win out after all. Compromise and try and make your goal and her satisfaction a win-win situation for both.

A lot of girls said to their boyfriends or husbands I like you the way you are. Then they add inches and they work around it. Your a tall dude and want that reward you feel you weren’t blessed with. I am the same way. Any comments post here, email me or Pm me. I always check in at least once a day.

The cats out of the bag in your neighborhood you might as well get all you originally wanted. Find a way to work around the situation with the wife. God Bless you and your gains. TT

What is more important to you, reaching an arbitrary goal or being compatible with your wife?

I’d like to hear from the really large guys too - do they ever worry they are too big?

My girlfriend told me her ex-husband was just way too big for good sex - she had to be very turned on and well lubricated, otherwise it was very painful. She loves giving blow jobs and she told me she could barely get it in her mouth. And she generally prefers well endowed men.

I believe that she will tell you directly, when the little jelktoid is big enough for her. If I was you, I continued as long as she says that thing. On the other hand - if sex is getting too complicated for you because the size, maybe you should take a break learning how to use it (In sense that you wouldn’t have to think in bed how not to hurt her). Her pussy would also have more time to adjust for even more to come :)

Jelktoid,

I’m 8.5 bone pressed and my wife has always got a scared look on her face, winced, etc.. Most guys I’ve read on the forum say exactly as you do about the cervix issue… I would try dog style.. My wife can’t take me in missonary position hard without pain and wanting to change.. Seems that in dog style the cervix moves a bit and allows the penis to go past it.. I can sink to the balls with my wife as long as the angle is right.. Dog style is her favorite… I’m certain that my wife could take 10” in the dog style provided that the angle was correct… Give it a go..

I’d also say you should do it, if you want to do it. It’s for you. Once you have a sword, you just have to learn how to use it safely. ;)

I have never understood the whole cul-de-sac idea. Is it past the cervix, to the side, or what? I thought the cul-de-sac was underneath and behind. Is there a good position to hit that spot without hitting the cervix?

Aye, “The ‘toid”, I wouldn’t worry too much about hitting some magic number.

But keep in mind that the vagina is extremely flexible. Chances are she will adapt over time. But not that much, it’s not like you can gain indefinately. If that is her limit, then that’s it.

The other day, we got our timings right for the first time ever (doesn’t happen often because we only see each other on weekends pretty much) But my girl was in a state of zero soreness. It was the opposite to period time.

I pushed in as far as it would go. I got about 8” in before I came up against a “wall” so to speak. I bottomoed out without hitting her cervix. That is the key - the cervix is the bruisable bit, so avoid it at all costs.

Sometimes I hit it unintentionally and it’s like “ouch, careful”.

I think you should not worry about length any more unless and until you feel she can and will take more. Give it a rest for 6 months. You deserve a break.

Work on girth! That’s where my money is… You say she has had 3 kids and has a vagina consistent with this fact, make her think she is having another every time you make love to her! Now that you’re over 8 in length, go for over 8 in girth ;)

I can relate to what you’re saying. If you’re happy with your size, is 9”nbp that important to you? I guess I would of stopped too if I wasn’t so goal oriented. When you have a goal number in your head its hard to give it up, even though you’re happy with where you are.

Ah screw it, go for 9” nbp. :D

Your wife may be too sensitive to your feelings. Perhaps she is in pain, but is trying to learn to live with it because she feels the alternative could be your unhappiness, (in not reaching your goals). Most woman I’ve known will do almost anything to keep their man happy.

If I were you, I’d have a candid conversation with your wife. If it is causing her pain, I’d stop. Pain, as we know in the PE arena means stop. Pain, as we know in the PE arena means there is something wrong.

If your sexual goals are getting in the way of your wife’s sexual health, I think I’d be anxious to re-evaluate my goals.

Perhaps your new goal should be, 9inches BPE or being “Just at the point of comfortable” for your wife, which it looks like you may have already nudged past.

Just My Humble Opinion.

And if she is wincing in pain then what is the point in making it bigger?

What’s the point in having a huge cock if you can’t get it in all the way and do some grinding “balls deep”?

If you are thinking of leaving your wife to shock and astound some other women in the bedroom - go ahead and take it to 9”. If you want to stay with the woman you have - is making it bigger going to impress her?

I agree with the post above and reckon you should take a break for a few months and see if she stretches out to your new size. If she does - you can maybe keep going until you get 9” nbp.

If not then you have to question why you want to take it to 9”, and if it is a good idea to do that when one of the people that you are doing it for is in pain because of it……

just some thoughts…

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BigJ, you were reading my mind.

I’m at a tad over ~7” BPx~5.5”, and that’s probably where I will be staying now. I’d rather be able to do some grinding with my dick, and still go reasonably deep, but I think I’ll rely more on girth.

I mean, it’s your choice, but she might not want to say much about it because she wants you to be you happy… Don’t overdo it.

Do not quote me on this, but I remember reading/seeing somewhere that women can develop cervix cancer from getting hit there a alot. Can anyone confirm this?

Mac

Exactly Krowax, I’ve decided the same thing. GO FOR GIRTH! I’m the same size as you but would like girth around 6” or so. Wife says the length is long enough. She’s a tiny lady and has never had children plus I’m only 5’4” so any bigger dick would probably look freaky on me.

I would say, taller guys go for it but make it a good fit for your lady. Sounds like you’re about there Jelktoid. Get the 9” she could most likely handle that little extra bit.