Originally Posted by Dino9X7
Now you know why so many guys have issues, and how most of them end up here.
True.
It’s not that all women say negative things, but it’s those comments that get my attention the most.
I’ve heard “is it in yet”. After I paused for a moment, she must have realised how it sounded and then she followed it up by saying she thought she might be too wet.
I’ve been called pencil dick once during an argument.
I had an ex tell me “Deeper!” in a moment she seemed the most turned on I ever saw her. Until then, I was willing to believe her that she enjoyed my size better than her big ex. She had found him quite painful and she did have a rare occasional vaginal orgasm with me, so I believed her even though she was always quiet during intercourse with me and I had been told by a friend of hers that she made extreme noises with her ex during sex. Even after her “Deeper!” moment I figured that perhaps it meant a size inbetween my size and his would be optimal for her. She was a sweety so it was easy to want to believe her when she said I was better than him. Even when there was another time that she and I were in a store and she said something that indicated what she saw my size as: I had caught a cashier look me over, and half jokingly I told my ex I bet she thinks I’m packing. Even though I wasn’t, the pants I had on sort of give that impression. My ex says ” Well,wouldn’t she be in for a surprise”. Knowing her well, I knew she didn’t mean anything harmful and was simply stating a fact, but it still sucked realising she considered me less than big and perhaps even on the small side. I don’t think she realised the negative power of those words, because after all she was the one that had told me she liked my size better than her big ex. This is the only woman I’ve had anal with and the anal occurred as we were about to break up. She had as many orgasms with anal, during the two times we got together with that, as she had during intercourse the entire time we were together. Having heard the stories of women preferring small dicks for anal and big dicks for vaginal, this made me feel smaller than ever.
I had a one night stand that I thought I had perhaps performed fairly good with: After about 10 minutes of pumping doggy she let out a “Ohhhhhh”, after having been quiet up till then. Then after another 5 minutes of quiet doggy she let out the same sound again. I didn’t really think of them as orgasms, but a release of some sort it seemed. Afterwards, we are laying there and after a little while she says “Your forte is oral, you are very good at it”. Even though she was giving me a complement it was unfortunately not a complement to the intercourse as far as I was concerned. She didn’t have squat to say about intercourse and it was all too clear she was avoiding mentioning that part. We had done missionary earlier and then the doggy I spoke of, and I understood about varying stroke lengths and rhythm and grinding. I was pretty sure she just wasn’t feeling my size much. If I got a couple of ohs from her, I could just imagine the sounds a bigger guy would have brought out of her. My performance wasn’t anything special at all to her, and to think I was for a brief moment in time proud of myself about it. She was a big woman and had big hips on her and I actually started feeling like she was too much woman for me, that I didn’t have what it takes to handle her. Yeah I had my tongue and hands, and she had even complimented me about that, but to me oral was just the side dishes and not the main course on the plate like the intercourse. So for me it wasn’t just what they do say, it was also what they don’t say.
For me it has also been about not getting the sounds during intercourse that I’ve heard big guys get. While my experience, of seeing the difference in a woman’s reaction from having sex with a small/average guy and then the same woman’s reaction with a big guy, is not as up close and personal as Russell4’s is, I did see a direct comparison when I lived in an apartment and my neighbor switched from her hung boyfriend to a smaller guy. The difference in her during intercourse, and how turned on she became, when with the big guy was astounding and burned in my mind. I never knew her well enough to know whether size ranked high or not on her list of what she liked about guys, but I do know it made a big difference for her when in bed. I thought she was very sexy, but I was too intimidated to ask her out (when she wasn’t dating anyone) for fear she would be quiet with me during sex and would be disappointed in my size. The extreme reaction the big guy had gotten out of her was a tough act to follow as I realised for sure when she was quiet with the new guy. I was glad then that I hadn’t asked her out. So in this case a woman added to being me insecure by being so loud during sex with a big guy and seemingly not caring who heard it. Among all the grunting and gasping shriel sounds coming from her, she would find time to hollar out how big he is, though her words in the sentence would be broken up ever time he went deep. I didn’t have to see it, I could tell by sound as to what was happening.
As can be seen, there are many different ways women make us feel insecure about our size. It’s not just what they say, but what they don’t say. It’s also about women having stronger reactions with the big guys, and while some women say they are no different in response with average guys than they are big guys, the stories through the grapevine, my overhearing the comparison difference, the up close and personal story of Russell’s, the guys that have been in groupies that say the women moan much more with the big guys, and my knowing I have never gotten the sounds and reactions that big guys get, all adds up to indicate to me that many women (I’m not saying all) may be just sparing our feelings when they say “You’re fine” “You’re perfect”. Ok, but am I the best size. What a woman says and how she reacts may be two different things.
