Dear fellow PEers,
I would like to share with you my recent bad experience doing PE, and would like to ask for your advice.
I am a healthy man in my mid 40’s with the usual poor parameters like so many of you on this forum (FL: 2.75”, EL: 5.25”, with proportional girth). I have heard of PE about three years ago (the’hanging’ method), and although it sounded great to finally alleviate my ‘locker room’ anxiety, but at the time I considered it too dangerous to try, and kind of forgot about the whole thing.
About 5 month ago, I stumbled upon the stretching and jelqing method, but still decided not to do anything. In late January of this year, however, I decided to give it a try. The reason that finally convinced me, and which I don’t want to talk about here in detail, was my marital problems (both sexual and non-sexual). Anyway, the decision was solely mine, I haven’t even told my wife about it. I have done my preparation reading both by looking at this excellent forum and paysites, and I thought I have had a pretty good understanding what the routines were.
I have started my exercises during the first week of February, with hot wrap, stretching to the five directions for a few minutes each, followed by jelqing. It went fine, although I felt ‘stretched’ but not too much.
On the second week, I settled to a different routine. During shower in the morning, I started with a straight forward pull ‘stretching’ for about 30-60 seconds x 5-6, with 20-30 second massages in between, for a total of about 7-8 minutes. After a 10 minute break or so, I did the jelqing for about 10 minutes, about 200 strokes 2-3 seconds each. I did this for 4-5 days with the weekend off. The only thing I did not do was the hot wrap in the end. This was the routine I also followed on the third week, but I missed one or two days that week, I don’t exactly remember.
After this first three weeks this is what I observed: First of all, I felt absolutely great. Although I have not seen any gain in my flaccid length, in an erect state and during sex (during the few times that my wife was actually willing to go to bed with me), I felt both a bit longer and wider. My general self-confidence also got much better. Another thing I noticed that my nighttime erections, that were getting weaker in the last few years, got much much better, as if I was in my early 20’s again. On the downside, one of my veins got dilated and a bit painful, and my skin also felt stretched. During jelqing I tried to avoid that area with the dilated vein and that seemed to be OK.
It was in this spirit that I started the fateful week four. I started with my routine above, but during the second half of the week I started to do both the stretching a bit stronger, although not as strong as to feel hurt, and increased jelqing to 300-400 strokes and did it about 50% stronger than before for about 15-20 minutes total. This I only did for two days. After the second day, however, I woke up to not having a strong early morning erection, which got me somewhat worried and I only did a light jelqing that morning. During the day I also noticed an almost complete numbness in my glans.
In the last seven weeks since then, this is how it stayed. Of course, I immediately stopped any PE and since then only had sex 4-5 times and masturbated manually about the same number of times. The experience in all this is the same. I don’t have much of a feeling in my glans. I haven’t lost all feelings, but sensing light touch and warm water is almost completely gone. This lack of sensation involves almost all my glans with the exception of the bottom side, and most severe in the middle. All in all, this looks like a dorsal penile nerve injury.
As you could imagine I am pretty devastated, occasionally almost suicidal, although I am trying to maintain my composure. I don’t want neither the kids or my wife to know what happened (although I guess eventually I have to tell it to her). I am also going to see a specialist in 10 days time.
One other thing: Ever since I was a teenager, I was always numb in my glans for about 30-60 minutes in the morning which I attributed to my early morning erections. I always thought that this is normal, but I am not so sure of it any more. Could it be that I always had an anatomy that made this kind of injury more likely?
I have thus two questions to this forum.
1. Did anybody had a similar injury, and what was the long term outcome? If yes, have you been treated in any ways (if it can be treated at all)?
2. My previous ‘usual’ morning numbness. Was it normal?
I would appreciate comments. Best wishes to all.