I’m going to disagree just a little bit. If you’re married, or in a serious and committed relationship, you (and your body parts) don’t belong to just yourself. What you do with them matters a lot to someone else, and that should influence your decisions, even if the extent of the influence is just considering the other person’s point of view.
Let me give a non-PE example. Before I was in a serious, committed relationship, I kept my hair quite short. My hair is not great hair, and short means lower maintenance and longer time between necessary haircuts. My SO liked my hair better a little longer. No one would call my hair long now, but it is longer than it used to be. She has to look at it; I don’t. It’s still not a lot of work to care for.
Someone who wants to rip their dick off or get giant silicone boobs against the wishes of their partner is saying that ripping their dick off or having giant silicone boobs is more important than their relationship. I realize that those are extreme and absurd examples. I’m just saying that if you’re in a relationship, you, your body and your life are not entirely your own. If you think they are, then you’re not a couple; you’re just two people who happen to be together.
Well… I must say that this makes no sense at all to me… honestly.
In any case, anywhere in the world, if you don’t own yourself you’re a slave of someone else. :(
As a father don’t OWN his children since they’re not stuff, they’re ‘free’ people, a wife or any partner can’t own anything of anybody’s body.
I do agree that it’s selfish, if you’re on a relationship, to don’t care and step over your partner’s opinion without giving any consideration.
BUT it’s even more selfish to PRETEND you own something and to VET somebody’s action assuming that you own that person and have rights over his actions on himself!