Gains, Size & Perceptions - NOT a size survey
Don’t worry, this is not a size survey/speculation thread, just a look at the differing perceptions that started popping into my head the past few days; coupled with stuff that has filtered through my mind over the years.
One week back into PE, I sat admiring my unit visually before I took some measurements this morning (I decided to workout later in the morning, so this was definitely a pre-workout measurement, and I’m not doing the nightly session anymore). I could tell that it actually looked thicker, but not longer. So, I fully edged and took some measurements. In less than 1 week, I’ve regained about 2.5mm erect midshaft (1/10”). And I could honestly see a difference. It looked puffy, I would say. When I measured my length - which appeared the same to my eyes - I also gained the same amount, to my surprise. A volumetric gain from 21.29 ci to to 22.30 ci (a full cubic inch - in one week). All in all, a damn good week. :)
After noticing these differences, and reading that penis thread from the credit forum, I got to thinking how much girth really affects our visual assessment of “size.” And especially, width (which I lack, having an almost perfectly circular unit).
Men tend to think of everything in a linear way: how tall are you, how much do you bench, how long is that porn star’s cock, I drive 46 miles each way to work, I had to have a 38’ tree removed from my yard, etc. Women actually see a penis in a more honest way than we do. We get so hung up over length, but they know the penis from the business end - they are the ones getting them shoved into their bodies, not us (no offence intended to our gay members). So women more honestly appreciate the value of true size. And as many here have acknowledged - it’s the volumentric value, the amount of displacement. Long & thin spears the cervix (ouch!), but stout spreads em out.
And often it is we who press women on the length of some past lover. In reality, most women don’t really know. They know dress sizes, shoe sizes, the weight of their sister’s newborn, etc. But how many are cock length afficianados? I think very few women have ever actually measured a guy, or watched him measure. Sure, they could narrow it to between 5 and 10 inches, lol, but that’s hardly precise enough for us.
If they are using a particular guy as a reference point, they are either guessing (based on feel - i.e., volume), or they’re repeating the lie he told them. If he was thick & hard, and really gave their box a drubbing, he must be BIG. And, of course, women don’t think 7 length sounds “big” (in fact, he may’ve been 6.5 x 6.2, lol). So, they’re more apt to say, “He was huge!” And if you press them, they’ll toss out any number that sounds appropriately huge - 8, 9, 10 inches, etc.
I don’t deny that some women are cockologists, size queens, etc. They may have measured for themselves. But the reality is that most women will assess the value of a man’s “bigness” based on his girth - especially if he has good width and they visually spied that width beforehand. We men somehow translate that into length - and then get defensive about their claims. But the fact is, girth can be more easily apprehended visually than length - which relies on so many other things (taking in the entire view at the correct distance, the relative size of other body parts - upper leg, his hands, and also the ratio of girth:length, etc.). But a man’s girth can be seen at any point along the unit’s axis - and I immediately perceived my girth gain even before I measured. But the length gain was totally unnoticed by me until the ruler announced it later.
Consider than we have two guys exactly 6 x 5 each; that translates into roughly 11.94 cubic inches. Suppose they embark on PE and the 1st gains no girth, but 0.5” EL, and the second guy gets no length, but gains 0.5” EG. Who is now bigger? They’re certainly not the “same.”
6 x 5 = 11.94
6.5 x 5 = 12.93 (1/2” more L = 8.3% “bigger”)
6 x 5.5 = 14.44 (1/2” more G = 20.9% “bigger”)
So, while they both “gained a 1/2 inch,” they guy who gained his in girth actually experienced a volumetric gain 12.6% greater than the guy who got his 1/2” in length.
While a man would say that the guy 6.5” is “bigger,” a woman who’d been with both would say, Oh, contraire mon ami, I'll be the judge of that.
So, rather than disparage women’s views on size, maybe we should acknowledge that they actually have a better understanding of the value of various sizes. Because they’re not looking at a penis as a yardstick but as a beef cylinder that gets stuffed into their bodies.
By the way, I still think the “big boys” are out there. But there’s no need to get so defensive, paranoid, or frazzled when a woman is talking about the “size” of a former flame. She’s most likely thinking about the “feel” - the girth & the hardness. If he had extreme length, it would’ve probably caused her pain. Just get to work on girth! :) And do lots of kegels so you stay hard as a rock - then you’ll be the “big boy” she might end up talking about.