Finally virgin no more, but...

I’m kind of reassured after hearing all of your comments. Besides, I wish she won’t get it wrong either :)

The key point in this situations is not to let something which doesn’t seem ideal drag you back into insecurities. You will enjoy the trip, if you are ready to deal with things going wrong. And first sexual encounters seem to have this rule : a lot of things going wrong.

So what?

It’s just started and it can only get better, go for it.

As for the girl, perhaps at the moment you can’t have the confidence of being perfect or good, but you can have the confidence of the right mindset that will bring you closer to perfection. Being confident for the right reasons is what women like after all…

As Salvador Dali used to say : “Have no fear of perfection, you ‘ll never reach it.”

Leave perfection outside the picture and enjoy :-) .

Better than my first time.

Same here. When my wife and I hooked up, it took 5 times before I came — although that was all in one weekend :) And the very first time I had sex (or should I say, almost had sex) I couldn’t get hard either. Combination of nerves, alcohol and too much masturbation I imagine.

As others have said, relax, don’t worry. It will just get better and better.

Thinking about it in terms of “wrong” and “right” is not recommended. It’ll only put undue pressure on you. Pressure will cause anxiety, and anxiety will make you unable to perform like you want. Plus, the experience won’t be fun.

I think I speak for most everyone when I say that the first time for most people is not fantastic (even though, culturally, we’re taught to believe it’s magical). You’re over that hurdle now, so relax and have fun. It sounds like your first time was fine, anyway. (As for me, I was a one-minute wonder and, needless to say, was pretty frustrated. But it’s better now, smile.)

Jet

Yeah, I get that with new girlfriends too. The emotional connection really screws up the wiring eh. Some get frustrated, and to be honest, so do I a little bit. Orgasming sometimes becomes a chore for me.

daboogies, who is the girl in your posting icon? Super hot.

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Hi everybody.

I sort of have the opposite problem. The loss of my virginity is far more recent than I’d like to admit, but what happened was that I fucked her and fucked her for hours and still couldn’t cum. The first session lasted for 3.5 hours, I didn’t cum and had to leave due to time constraints. During that time there was a blowjob (I’m too girthy for her, she can’t help the teeth) and a handjob.

Then the next time I fucked her for 5 or so hours (which she thoroughly enjoyed, so it wasn’t a total waste) still just wouldn’t cum, she’s become fair at giving me a handjob (more enjoyable than her pussy until she get’s too excited and starts choking my cock) finally I put on a wank show for her (which she also seemed to enjoy) and spouted all over myself.

Think she’s too loose? Or am i just too used to my own hand?

By the way, she says my cock is quite large. :)

Damn, you are one crazy animal :) . You fucked her for 8,5 hours on one day? Damn, that’s sick, in a good way :) .

daboogies,

take your mind off of yourself next time, focus on pleasuring her. No matter what happens, she will love you for putting her desires ahead of yours, and will be infinitely patient. Let her be your guide, take it slow, and do not PE for two days before your next encounter. Yeah, the first time is always awkward, and you are lucky if you don’t blow your wad in 15 seconds. Another reason to take care of her first. How many women under 20 never have an orgasm because of selfish and ignorant young guys……

Slezak

No those were on two seperate days. My problem is I probably could fuck her for a straight work day without cumming, and I say what’s the point? (aside from the huge ego boost coming with being called a stud) I can find better things to look at online and get myself off in a fraction of the time.

My first time (or should I say almost first time) was worse than that. By the time I got the condom on I went soft, and nothing would get it back up. I credit that to being nervous and anxious, all was well the next time though

Hey folks!

I’m glad to see all of your comments. They are really helpful!

baywatch, she is Ashley Simpson :)

Guess I was not good at penetration, but probably good at licking her pussy and sucking on her nipples ;) She asked me where I learn that? I told her from the Internet, LOLZ!

Regards,

I just want to congratulate you on losing your virginity; that’s a big step, and it gets only better from here.

Just enjoy it and don’t worry about your performance. That’s the best thing for your erections.