i could’ve written the exact same post word for word (age and all). I understand the difficult situation, because like you I am much better with the women after I’ve been drinking. It’s like a catch 22, because the alcohol gives you confidence, you need the confidence to get the women to come home with you, but once you’ve drinken enough alcohol to get that confidence you’re past the point of getting a good erection. (and the nervousness doesnt help either). I felt helpless for a while, but came to the realization that less masturbation has helped. Also PE generally causes periods of short term desensitization for many of us, but there’s no way we’re giving that up. Anyway I’d suggest as little masturbation as possible, and never masturbating to porn. You’ll come to a point where you are truly thinking with your dick, and being turned on easier…… i can finally jack off to my own fantasies again.