I agree with gprent. Do what you think is right. Most vaginas can adjust to a large penis. Take it from me. But, then, I never dated women who couldn’t take it all, and I certainly didn’t marry one.
What was your size when you married one? I was only 7+ when we said “I do.” I am now a tad under 8 1/2, so I didn’t marry her with that size. She is a small woman and likes girth. Just trying to give my opion to the man’s question.
Do what you want Biffy, but there are consequences to getting what you wish for.