Would appreciate some advice
I’ve been single for a while now and I am getting older. I’ve dreamed most of my life of finding a good girl to marry and have kids with. On the other hand, I like having the freedom of being single. I have dreams of writing a book, continuing to go school for philosophy—a field where there is very little to no money to be made, and lifting. My job is good but I could never support a family with the money I am making—I still live with my family.
For a little while now, I have tried to stay pure and not pursue any relationships. It takes a lot of pressure off me to talk to good looking women without having a hidden agenda. I am wondering if I am missing out though. I ask myself if I should be more pro-active in trying to meet someone. My beliefs don’t permit me to go online, or to bars, or to clubs to meet women. So, I am limited in how I can meet women. Also, I have been told, I am not very good at making out and my skills in bed are probably pathetic because I have only had sex twice. My beliefs don’t permit me to have sex outside of marriage either. People have been telling me that unless I compromise these beliefs I will never find anyone. It just makes me a little depressed to think that I would have to change who I am and what I believe in order to have a relationship with someone.
Lately, I have been thinking that I should stop looking and focus on my education, my book, and training. Is this a cop out? Should I date more? Also, I am afraid of women sometimes, especially if I think they are interested. Should I postpone looking for someone until I get my act together?
