Wives Girlfriends and PE

I have been a member for a while learing and reading when I can. I am interested in the potential of PE but cant thiink of a good way to incorporate it into my life. I dont know what my wife would say, or how I could find the time to do the excercises in private.

What have most of you with live in girlfriends or wives experienced? I am 38, married with two kids, 8 and 3. I measure 6.9EL and 6.0 EG. I want to get to 8” and 6.5.

I have been reading about jelqs, which would be easiest to incorporate but I dont know if this would get me the length. I would like to use a hanger but again.. privacy..

Any insight to how you all incorporated this into your daily lives would be most appreciated.

I started out doing manual stretches in the hot shower that I believe works for length.

Good luck.

789

PS You dont think your wife would be open to the idea?

Well, I imagine she would ask why I am interested in doing it and that she is happy with the way I am. I think change or the idea of WHY I am trying to change would bug her.. but then again.. I just have not broached the subject with her and my concernes may be unfounded.

Hey Talons<

Manual stretching works the ligs quite well. I read here once by someone I don’t remember, to pull your cock down and sit on it, easy with shorts on, also does nice stretch job on ligs and skin. Ball sac stretching is very easy, and gets rid of chicken neck. There was a thread where someone suggested pushing your erect rod straight down as you lie in bed, and pinning it between your legs—start slow on this one, but it does a great lig stretch also. Jelq in the shower. Do kegels anywhere. Cock rings and wraps don’t show under clothes, unless you do that wrist wrap thing, take what you read here and get creative, it works.

My girl helps me all the time from helping assemble my latest hanger to lubing up and pumping up the vacuum on my tube to posting here at T’s. I say get them involved if at all possible :)

Try to approach the wife about her wants and needs as far as length/gerth. But it must be done in a manner in which she will not suspect that you have already started.

Check out this thread:

Seven.

I am 40 years old. Married with 4 children.
I spend 30 minutes stretching and jelqing in the bathroom in the morning and another 15 minutes jelqing in the bathroom in the afternoon. When taking a shower, I do a few stretches.
Works fine for me.

I guess I will tell my wife in the future when I am more sure about how much gains I will have for what effort. I don’t like the idea of telling her now and then spend a year working out like hell just to end up with no gains (well I have some gains so far, but most of it is probably due to better erections)

If I wouldn’t work at home, I guess I would have more problem to squeeze in the 30 minutes in the morning without going up earlier. But as things are right now, my work out schedule works smoothly for me. (If you just have the habit of spending a lot of time in the bathroom, no one will notice)

Oden

‘We have no secrets’ Carly Simon sings. Mrs. Vegas and I have none either.

I accidentally found Thunders while do some research on de-mystifying the myth about penis size. I told her about how I found Thunders and that it costs nothing to try. I have nothing to lose and wanted to see if PE really works. What the heck, why wouldn’t anyone want to see of they could make their dick bigger? She agreed and even signed up on Thunders so she could read the threads. She gave me her total support. But then, I have an extraordinary wife.

I did a quickie measurement this Monday and found I have gained 3/4” flaccid in five weeks. That is way too much to attribute to a measurement error. I like measuring flaccid because it’s easy, it’s fast and it’s very repeatable.

46, just celebrated 25 years of marriage (to the same woman), no kids.

Mrs RBM says that “guys are so silly” when it comes to this stuff, but she supports me. I vote for telling your wife. Emphasize the health benefits of PE (“but one side effect is that I’ll probably get larger.”) You’re getting to the age where we start to worry about ED even if you’ve never had a hint of a problem, right? I bet she wants you to stay healthy in that area no matter what the size.

Make sure she knows that if you start to get too big for her comfort that you’ll stop, but you should be aware that she’ll adjust to your growth. (I had pretty impressive newbie gains and Mrs RBM was starting to complain about the added girth, but the growth has slowed & she has adjusted.)

I don’t see how PE can be kept a secret, really. If you want a trusting relationship my opinion is that you have to tell her, especially since it involves her, too. The last thing you want is for her to think you’re tuning yourself up to get ready to go back on the market.

There have been other threads on this subject in the past few months. Do a search for “wife”.

Before you start, take a GOOD set of measurements (especially bone pressed length and girth) and get some photos. You’ll be glad you did.

RBM

Thanks all for your insight. I appreciate honest feedback.

Very cool, RBM. Congratulations. We have about the same stats, 29 years and no kids.

I told Mrs. Sailboatracer that I was doing more than “just kegels” two weeks ago, but not “too many details”. She said she thought I felt a little “different”,good, maybe a little bigger, but that it was hard to tell after 5 kids, and that I really DIDN’T NEED TO DO IT FOR HER. I replied, that it was a “goofy” male kind of thing and since it has not compromised me, in any way, what was wrong with anything that only makes me better and feel better about myself, like exercise. She has not said anything more about it either way. But that led to some further discussions about other improvements to make sex better and more enjoyable for both of us. She has been somewhat uncomfortable with that topic, I due to her ex-husband and what he did to her. I have been aware of the abuse and how it effects some/all abused women for a long time, so I’m trying to let her go at her own pace. Sometimes that is frustratingly slow, but I do love her and want her to be comfortable with all of it.

Thing is, I don’t think they want us to know that it’s better for them. They’re trying to protect our egos. It’s understandable, I suppose, given the context that “PE doesn’t work.”

RBM

RBM -

I think you’ve hit on something. I wouldn’t say women don’t want to admit it because “PE doesn’t work” - most women, after all, don’t even know that PE exists at all. I would say that protecting our egos is a part of it.

Even with the relatively small growth I’ve experienced, the wife has noticed (I’ve gained ~3/8” girth, 1/2” length). She’s already becoming more affectionate and willing to try things. I never would have believed that previously. I’m not saying there would ever be complaints, far from it. But she said it herself already, “if I can choose between you with a really nice one and you with a really, really, really nice one - well, I’ll take the latter.” She never choose a guy based on his dick size, but she might if that were literally the only difference between the two.