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Originally Posted by tallheart
Personally, I haven’t gained enough to press the limits of what she wouldn’t be liking. (Like a 10x9)

But I do have a theory of what feels good. Since I know my dick feels best when it is at it’s hardest (skin pulled tight) it only stands to reason that a pussy would feel best when it’s skin is pulled tight. How much dick is needed to do that?

I think that the nerve endings are best distributed and brought to the surface the tighter the skin is. A pussy can do that by engorging too. But if you can provide that feeling with a big dick, then she doesn’t have to engorge as much to get the same pleasure. That is a big deal, maybe. She may be able to enjoy sex at a frequency more often than her body would otherwise allow. To her, that just means she doesn’t have to be as ready to go, and she will learn that she can enjoy sex anyway.

Us men know that we will pretty much enjoy sex at the drop of a wink and a smile. But for women, it isn’t always the case, as they feel if they aren’t going to be able to get engorged, it isn’t going to be pleasurable, and so they say “not in the mood”. I believe a bigger dick to do the work could prove her wrong. That being said, of course the wife still needs to be open to sex, and I don’t think you need a 9x7 to accomplish the happy compromise.


Although I think there are a few faulty assumptions in this post tallheart, this part: That being said, of course the wife still needs to be open to sex, and I don't think you need a 9x7 to accomplish the happy compromise. is spot on.

Well said. :up:

Originally Posted by splking1
My size is 7.25 BPEL by 5.5 mseg.

By no means would I consider myself big.


The problem here is that you are big. Not record breaking big, true, but quite big nonetheless. I think your wife’s behavior should be your first clue.

Originally Posted by splking1
We should listen to what they like and feel.


Yes. Yes indeed.

It takes two.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
I think you’re right here. An extremely hard and reliable 8.25 x 6.25 would be a great size to accomplish what you are talking about. I also agree, that, although my wife kegels, (very well), it takes energy to do so. So, in my mind, the less energy she has to exert to get that ooh so nice feeling, the more often she will want to get after it.


Faulty assumption, perhaps?

You think that women only enjoy sex if they don’t have to exert themselves? I’m not sure that’s the issue. And I’m sure it’s not your size either.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
I guess my ego would like to allow her maximum pleasure, without a lot of work.


You’re an honest man, Acid Jazz, I’ll give you that.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
How far past the cervix is the cds in general terms? Anyone?


Depends.

And be advised:the CDS as a pleasure zone is highly subjective. Most of the women I’ve been with just say “Ow” if I get that deep.

The one who likes it… Well, it takes some time for her to work herself up to it. I can definitely feel it when it happens. It almost feels like a little ‘cap’ deep inside of her snugging itself over my glans. She’s had three kids herself, so even though at the beginning of our encounters she starts off very tight, after some moments she lubricates a lot and it’s all good.

She likes to do the work, though. I think for her that’s a lot of the fun.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
I think, if they know about our PE efforts, and we grow, they probably will enjoy it. But, in no way, do they want you to think that it makes a difference in how they think of you as a man.


I know more than a few women who had the response that tntjockey’s wife had. Guys who are a bit on the large side who have now made sex a chore for their gals.

If memory serves, Acid, you are pretty darn well-endowed. So… Be careful what you wish for.

There is another thing too with this: some women react well to knowing about PE, and some are threatened by it. In a similar way that some men are threatened by vibrators. They think it’ll replace sex with them.

Not true, obviously, but be aware: PE can cause resentment. Fear that you’re going to stray either with PE or with someone else as a result of PE.


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Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
Kool,

Have you been doing the newbie routine only? I am still trying to figure out my routine, days on and off etc. (right now, working off of the linear base) What erection level do you use, and how much pressure if you’re jelqing. (manual stretches as well?) Let me know when you can. Thanks

read here :)

My PE beginnings

I use the ‘JonPop’ 90 day newbie routine from PE Forum but I have modified it slightly since I found it a bit too intense at first and gave myself an injury in the first week or so.Also injured myself slightly a couple weeks ago and was unable to get an erection for a day or two.Scary stuff!!!!

So you can see in my log what I’m doing and how simple my routine is.It’s basically

warm up (hot shower)
stretches (circles,helicopters,up-straight out-straight out left-straight out right-up left-up right)
wet & v jelqs
cooldown (cold shower)

I usually complete the whole routine within 30 minutes and have learned to use a light grip and erection level of around 30-40% for jelqing.

Anyways,I won’t take over this thread with all that talk,just check my progress log for more details and feel free to pm me for any further questions.


Starting stats:- Dec11th2008 7.2"bpelx6" meg.Mar23rd09 8.375"bpel x 6.125"meg. Mar10 8.4" bpelx6.125" meg.

Goal: 8"nbpel x 7" A one eyed monster by any standard :)

Good post kooljohn.

I’d only add that people generally seem to believe jelqing at lower levels of erection will tend to benefit length, while at higher levels of erection it tends to benefit girth.


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God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time. - Robin Williams (:

Originally Posted by Mr. Happy

You think that women only enjoy sex if they don’t have to exert themselves? I’m not sure that’s the issue. And I’m sure it’s not your size either.

Mr. Happy,

As I write this reply to your post, I must say I am impressed with your ability see a little deeper into members’ personalities/posts.

I’ll be honest, as usual. I’m not sure whether it’s my size either. I am at the tail end of my mid-life “adjustment”. When my wife and I got together, we were, and are still, like peanut butter and jelly.

Both of us were/are very sexual. (I am much more of an “experiencer” however) We met, and started telling war stories to impress each other about our prowess. Too much was said. I didn’t care until I fell in love with her. She mentioned that one guy was long, skinny and “flippy floppy”. (she likes girth)

Somewhere inside of me, I want to be able to reach as deep inside of her as someone else did. It’s almost as if I have been cheated out of ALL of her in some way. I know this sounds immature, and possessive, but it is how I feel.

I worry that somehow, she might look back on those experiences with some sort of glee. I am a great husband, father, friend and provider. But, I am a high testosterone Alpha Male type. For some reason, our sexual life is, (nearly), the most important part of our lives to me. I don’t want to FEEL like I’m anything less than her best in all ways.

Yes, insecure, a little jealous, even confused at times. I know that I’m a very good lover, but am I the best? Some day I might let this go, maybe not. I figure, If I get to a certain goal in this department, I know no one else will compare to the rest of what I bring to the table. (shit, 14yrs and 3 kids later, I still think this way WTF?)

** yes, I’ve spoken with a pro about this stuff. It is about ME, and how I CHOOSE to think, or not, about this stuff.


Paraphrased: It is not the critic who counts: The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, who, at the best, knows the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.

After 14 years it’s likely the glee-factor is strongly weighted in your favor. I mean… seriously, what kind of confirmation do you need from her? After 14 years and still going strong I’d say you’re the best hands down.

The thing is we do, all of us, look back on certain chapters of our lives with ‘glee’ as you put it. Rarely does this discount the glee we’ve had with others. At a certain point of maturity we stop comparing as much as we compartmentalize, no?

I sort of doubt this statement, though: For some reason, our sexual life is, (nearly), the most important part of our lives to me.

I think the reward you get from the bond is what is important. The bond is often expressed through sex, but it would be a mistake to assume that it was the sex itself, in my view. Not that sex isn’t great, I’m just saying.

To say it another way: sex isn’t the most important thing, but it’s an important barometer of the important things.

Assuming one is not in a casual dating phase of one’s life, I think it’s pretty true.

I would add that this is 100% true: I don't want to FEEL like I'm anything less than her best in all ways.

That means you have room to improve; it’s, after all, a personal best you’re aiming at - one you can top time and time again. You certainly seem to have the invite as far as she’s concerned. Making the equipment bigger is one thing, making sure it’s functioning at 100% is another, and developing your skill sets with it is still another.

A shrink once told me: “You don’t have to be sick to get better.”

How true that is. So whatever our efforts here, as long as we are clear about our goals and open to hearing about our progress from those that matter most to us, we’ll probably do all right.


Before: I'd like to show you something I'm very proud of, but you'll have to move real close.

After: I\'d like to show you something I\'m very proud of, but you guys in the front row will have to stand back.

God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time. - Robin Williams (:

Originally Posted by Mr. Happy
After 14 years it’s likely the glee-factor is strongly weighted in your favor. I mean… seriously, what kind of confirmation do you need from her? After 14 years and still going strong I’d say you’re the best hands down.

I sort of doubt this statement, though: For some reason, our sexual life is, (nearly), the most important part of our lives to me.

I think the reward you get from the bond is what is important. The bond is often expressed through sex, but it would be a mistake to assume that it was the sex itself, in my view. Not that sex isn’t great, I’m just saying.

To say it another way: sex isn’t the most important thing, but it’s an important barometer of the important things.

Well, I think the bond you speak of here, is what we all search for, and hope to have until we die. And, you are correct, it is the closeness that I get out of sex that makes it so important. I do appreciate your comments Happy.

I know this stuff already for gods sake. A little wisdom from an “older” gentleman seems to help put things in perspective.

Back to the thread topic;

I have definitely seen girth gains through jelqing, and maybe a little length. I can tell you, that as I grow, I will be very aware of the actions and reactions of my wife. If she ain’t happy with it, than I’m not.


Paraphrased: It is not the critic who counts: The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, who, at the best, knows the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.

The only woman I’ve been with who enjoyed me being able to reach her CDS could only enjoy it the moment she had an orgasm. When she came she would literally pull me in and it felt like I was being milked.

It. Was. Awesome! :up:


I'm a big fan of 50 Cent, or as we call him in Zimbabwe, four hundred million dollars.

Older gentleman?

Not so much.

It has to do with something else. Training, in a way. Aptitude perhaps.

Or maybe I just make a stab and get lucky sometimes.

Who knows?

I don’t know that I have the market cornered on perspective or any special understanding.

I have my understanding. I can only do my best to express that in comprehensible terms.

If it works for you I’m Happy. If it doesn’t… well, I’m Happy anyway. :leftie:


Before: I'd like to show you something I'm very proud of, but you'll have to move real close.

After: I\'d like to show you something I\'m very proud of, but you guys in the front row will have to stand back.

God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time. - Robin Williams (:

Originally Posted by Mr. Happy
Older gentleman?

Simply older than me. :angel:


Paraphrased: It is not the critic who counts: The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, who, at the best, knows the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
How have you been, Invisible. The longer I’m here, the more I understand how “visible” you really are. You’ve written a lot of really helpful threads/posts. Thanks.


You’re very welcome.

:hide:

How did you break the news that your are PEing to your wives? I haven’t been able to talk about it with anyone in the real world outside of this forum.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
How have your women reacted to your larger units as they’ve grown? More sex, “different” orgasms, LESS SEX?

It takes less time now for her to get sore. She “complained” once that I’d get laid a lot more often if I weren’t so big. Ironically, she likes the size very very very much.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
Also, in just starting out, it’s been a challenge to balance how hard to work out, and still perform to my capabilities. (eg tired dick etc.) How do you work through that with her?

My wife doesn’t like fucking on weekday mornings so I’ve scheduled a bulk of my workouts then. That way I have the rest of my workday to recuperate. If I decide to workout in the evenings or the weekend I ask her ahead of time if we’ll be having sex later.


If girth is king, why the hell does everyone keep talking about length?

Acid Jazz,

Many of the things you said in post # 19 are part of the reason I want to wait until I am married for sex. To a certain extent I think jealous love is a good thing. I don’t think it is possessive or immature. I think it is a God given thing that a man wants to be his wife’s only. Some have by necessity given up the dream of being the only one, for being the best one.

Originally Posted by Acid Jazz
It’s almost as if I have been cheated out of ALL of her in some way.

I can totally see how I might feel the same way. I want to try to prevent my wife from feeling this way about me if at all possible, I wouldn’t want her to feel that pain. I also don’t want to feel this way myself. I am aware that things don’t always work out this way and to some extent I need to let the past be just that, the past. I also know that not all guys feel this way and that if their girl is now with them and only them now, then their perfectly secure, as we should all strive to be.

Originally Posted by Damien84
Acid Jazz,

Many of the things you said in post # 19 are part of the reason I want to wait until I am married for sex. To a certain extent I think jealous love is a good thing. I don’t think it is possessive or immature. I think it is a God given thing that a man wants to be his wife’s only. Some have by necessity given up the dream of being the only one, for being the best one.

I can totally see how I might feel the same way. I want to try to prevent my wife from feeling this way about me if at all possible, I wouldn’t want her to feel that pain. I also don’t want to feel this way myself. I am aware that things don’t always work out this way and to some extent I need to let the past be just that, the past. I also know that not all guys feel this way and that if their girl is now with them and only them now, then their perfectly secure, as we should all strive to be.

Damien,

I think that part of growing up, is understanding what is realistic or not. Had I not been raised in the environment I was raised in, ( taught that sex was/is shameful and wrong before marriage ), I probably wouldn’t have some of the deep seeded, unrealistic emotions, that I do at times.

I think jealousy is not all bad in the correct dose. Flat out, if a woman knows that you’re ok with her spending lots of time with other men, there is a high likely hood, that she’ll think you don’t care about her, and will set out to find someone who will fight for her.

It is a very fine line. I believe it comes down to evolutionary phsycology. The selfish gene wants to survive. Unconscious logic dictates that you believe she might have better mating options. This is normal. How you deal with the emotion is what matters most.

I don’t think you’ll be able to avoid these emotions altogether, even if you are her only one. Many women, as human animals, wonder how something/someone else might make them feel. Saving one’s self for marriage does not change the drive and instincts we are born with.


Paraphrased: It is not the critic who counts: The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, who, at the best, knows the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.

This is very individual, not all women want or need big length or girth.
I discussed this with my gf the other day, and she is perfectly happy with my
unpumped size of 8.6” x 5.7”.
But “You’re just perfect for me” isn’t doing it for us, right?
So I asked her if it isn’t better when I’m pumped, at 8.6” x 6.3”. She said that it’s different, more intense,
but not better. She even said that she’s glad I’m not permanent at my pumped size.
She couldn’t care less if I’d never PE again.

Our fear is that our wives or partners are dreaming of that huge dick, their es’s, a dick much bigger, or just a little bigger, than ours.
At lest that has been MY fear.

Now I know that she doesn’t.

However, I don’t think I’ll ever stop doing PE. It gives me great joy to see that my dick is slowly getting bigger, and I really
love the temporary girth pumping gives me.

Ahund


January 2009: BPEL: 8.6" EG: 5.7"

Goal for 2009: BPEL: 8.75" EG: 6"

Ultimate goal: BPEL: 9" EG: 6.5"


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