Wish I had found this place years ago intro.
Well first off wanted to say hello from Ottawa, Ontario (Canada).
For years I’ve been embarrassed about my penis. I’m an above average (6’1) muscular built guy. I have huge feet (13-14) and large fingers too. I’ve often had jokes especially from women when they see my shoe size that I must have a huge member.. Well things couldn’t be further from the truth. While I do apparently have an average penis (I don’t have a proper measuring tape, but it’s about 6” long and about a 5” circumference very erect) when its not hard it looks extremely small. Even hard I’ve seen much bigger (not in porn which is obvious but I’ve browsed over the years just average nudity sites out of curiosity and most guys seem bigger).
I’ve been embarrassed over the years in locker rooms and never want to change in front of my friends. I’ve had comments made from friends, and even once by a stripper that my penis is tiny (all times while flaccid).it’s absolutely destroyed my self confidence over the years in bed, and lately I’ve even been having ED with my wife.. For years I’ve wanted to have sex one and done, been very selfish and only made her cum once and a while (using my tongue - only made her cum through vaginal intercourse maybe twice in 14 years). Part of the problem is I find that when she’s really wet I “lose” myself, and then I start thinking about it, and then of course you can guess what happens. So for years I’ve been not taking the proper steps and just kind of wanting her only semi-wet. She’s never complained, bless her, and I’ve asked many times over the years if she’s satisfied with our sex life and she always says yes.. But what’s she supposed to say? Some times she’s been like “fuck my deeper”, and I already am as deep as I can go.. Another wood killer :(
Anyways this forum seems like a great place to be. I look forward to reading and educating myself on PE. I will try to read as much as I can (there is SO much info here) and I do apologize as some of these questions have been answered I’m sure in other forums, but again this would really help me if some mentors can help out (and I promise I will try to read more and more and ask less questions).
1) I have a very hard time doing Kegel exercise, especially holding. Is this normal? For me to get any kind of “hold”, I have to close my eyes. I definitely struggle with 5 seconds as per the newbie routine suggests. Is this normal or is that muscle possibly really underdeveloped?
2) An exercise I read to improve erection strength is to hold a Kegel, and try and think of thoughts that would turn you on and get a semi or full wood. I haven’t been able to do this at all. I’m not sure if this falls under PE per se, but has anyone heard of this and able to do?
3) When I do measurements, should I press the tape right into the skin (for length)? Should I be as erect as possible? I guess as long as I’m consistent its fine?
4) Has anyone else experienced what I have as far as “losing” themselves in sex, and do you think a girth improvement will help?
5) I’m looking at the Penis Master (or some other multiple hour per day hanging device) as well as these exercises. One of the huge things I struggle with is my flaccid penis, and according to the ADS (on their site mind you) says that this is one of the biggest things that this does.
Anyways guys thanks so much, this seems like a really supportive community and I’m glad to be a part of it. I’d love to walk into a locker room naked and not be embarrassed.