Will I ever have a normal sex life

OK sorry this is long but I am kind of down right now. I am 26 and I am a virgin. Well I was, until a few hours ago. I went and saw an escort, I thought it would build my confidence with women. Now that I’ve kind of come out of my social shell and am meeting girls, I wanted to be more physically confident so I know what I’m doing when I first have sex with a girlfriend. The escort was great, very pretty, friendly, ‘built me up’, didn’t comment on the size of my penis, etc. Classy and great all around.

However, I couldn’t cum.in fact both in her mouth and vagina I felt basically nothing on my penis (was wearing a condom). She and I went at it for literally 45 min and it didn’t even feel good for me. It wasn’t impotence, I was rock hard the whole time.

My worries are these,
1) Do you think all those years of masturbation damaged my ability to respond to anything but a hand (I was able to cum when she gave me a hand job)?
2) My penis is average length (5.5”) but very thin (4” around), do you think part of why I felt nothing was because it was so thin that there was too little friction from the mouth or vagina?

I’m really worried here that I won’t ever have a normal sex life I mean I guess this is better than the alternative, cumming the minute I put it in.but it wasn’t a lot of fun. I have been doing the newbie routine for a few weeks. I would like to start massive girth work. Do you have recommendations?

Answer to your 2 questions:
1. No
2. No

Wearing a rubber with a woman you don’t even know while having sex for the first time is hardly a way to judge sex for the rest of your life. Rubbers take a lot of sensation away. Your size shouldn’t matter. That mouth or pussy should feel really good.
Imagine that you were with a girl you really loved and she really wanted you! Not a whore but a girl that wanted you to fuck her. A girl who loves you. Don’t you think that would change your arousal level just a bit?
The first time I had sex was with a whore. It was similar to your experience. My sex life has been nothing like my first time. Most guys do not have first fucks that they are proud of. But you are lucky you stayed hard for so long. That should be a real confidence booster when you finally get a real girl friend.
Now tell us the details about the escort. Where did you find her? How much did it cost? Where did you go? What happened?

I wouldn’t take too much from it except that you now know that you can go 45 minutes. Look at it positively, most of my friends girlfriends would be happy for over 15 minutes of sex. And you probably got your moneys worth.

Hmm. It’s kind of hard to accept what you guys are saying, because it didn’t feel good AT ALL. When I jack off, it usually takes me like 5 min for it to start feeling good. In those 5 min, it just feels like movement, no pleasure. The whole time I fucked her, it felt exactly like that..

Well, I guess I shouldn’t judge on one incident.maybe I’ll try masturbating with a condom from now on, to get used to it.

I went to Canada to find the escort. It’s legal there. It was $200 CDN, 90 min. We spent probably half an hour talking, fingering her, eating her out, etc. Then blow job and sex in a bunch of different positions. After a while it was clear she just wanted me to bust, kept switching positions to find me one that felt good. Eventually she just finished up with her hand.

Ha! You know, I have lived here for over 20 years and I didn’t know it was legal! So I googled it, and sure enough it seems like it is. (See World Sex Guide)

Anyway, yeah, you can’t judge everything based on your first time. Christ, I think it is amazing you were able to get it up at all, with it being your first time, later in life, with a condom, and with a hooker! Bravo!

I think if you get a normal (clean) girlfriend and start having sex without a condom, after a few romps in the sack you will be enjoying it a lot more than your hand. Cut yourself some slack and pat yourself on the back for getting a boner at all! And count yourself lucky you live close to a country decent enough to have socialized healthcare for everyone and hassle-free hookers!

Don’t worry about it. My initial measurements were 5.5 by 4.0, and I have made my girlfriend orgasm. Even if you can’t, love transcends the orgasm, so don’t worry about it. You can still get her off in other ways, and sex CAN still get her off.

Since you have no experience, you didn’t know how to use that girls body to get yourself off. You probably were waiting for her to come up with the magic move. It takes a little practice thats all.
Also, when you have a real girlfriend, she will enjoy your fucking her and that will get you more aroused than anything!
And the condom makes a huge difference. Especially since you have no experience with how that feels either.

Stop moaning, at least you’ve finally done it, be happy!

Quit jerking off so much, and when you do, use much less grip force…you are desensitizing your unit.

Don’t worry, it will come back. Try not touching it for about 2 weeks and see for yourself!

Some recommend the fleshlight for guys that use too much grip and are desensitizing their dicks.

I personally stay away from it…I think I might enjoy it way too much!

For you young guys that are having trouble connecting with gals….STOP JERKING OFF!

If you take that sex drive and quit wasting it down the sink, and let it build up…trust me… you will LEARN to talk to women!

Let that sex drive do what it is supposed to do…drive you to establish relationships with women.

If you jerk off any time you get horny….you may never develop the skill.

Do this long enough and you risk it becoming a permanent condition.

1. No
2. No

I’m a late cummer too, it’s frustrating at times some times even when masturbating and if I’m using a condom forget it, it’s almost impossible.

Two things you have to know:

1. Get use to it, chances are, if you are like me, it’s not going to improve, I was worried when I was your age even asked a doctor but it they told me it was normal.

2. You will never be frustrated because even if your girlfriends at first will think there is something wrong with you or with them, because you take eons to cum,
they will get used to it and the only thing you have to tell them there is nothing wrong that it has always been like that and that it takes time and effort to make you cum.

Once they know if normal, like the second time you marathons sex them, they will get it and you are up for the time of your life because two things immediately happen.

1. If they have experiences before you they will start to compliment about this especial feature you have, and how different and better is having sex with someone that will let them exhausted every time the fuck, because of the many orgasms that they can achieve in all that time.

If the girl is inexperience they will never forget you and will remember you as the guy that fuck her for two hours and let them feeling like they fuck a whole football team.

2. In either case it will become a challenge for them to make you cum.

BONUS : if you find a multi-orgasmic chick you will become her god because it only happen me once an she had like 30 orgasms she stills calls me from time to time and that was like 10 years ago and now she has tree kids and a nice hubby.

One more thing…modest pumping or modest clamping (like 5 minutes) tends to increase sensitivity in many guys.

Use modest routines…think in terms of making your dick work better…get harder, not getting bigger.

The other thing is kegels tend to increase sensitivity in many guys also.

Damn good advice my man

I have two things in return

1) Like said earlier; you can go for 45 minute’s. Good job man.
2) You’re penis is a little below average. Although it’s good enough for good sex. If you want you can pe your way up.

Make sex your project and you will be allright. Practise with woman. Realise that if one woman doesn’t go good, she just was a practice for the next one were you will find yourself in a better place, because of it.

I suppose masturbation and porn can cause desensitization for some people. I know it is blamed a lot. But I have to say that I have been beating off like a mad man, daily, my whole life, still I am horny and fuck my wife every day, and I still have a sensitive penis. I often come before I want to, but overall I think my stamina is ok.

So I think that when guys start having sex drive problems, erection problems, or orgasm problems, masturbation and porn are the first things to be blamed. I’m not sure how often it really is the problem, or how often guys see improvement after laying off the jerking off. But I think often times the problems are unrelated to masturbation.

Man dont worry about that, when i first make love (actual girlfiend) six month ago (i am 23) i didnt cum. And I didnt cum for 2 or more weeks (making love a lot i have to put excuses) The 1st time i cummed was i jerking and the glans in her mouth :D , but now i cum every session of hard sex :D . But sometimes i take more time.. why? because i have made PE recently.. pornography + edging causes insensibility in pennis and little less “motivation” 4 sex.

Sorry 4 my english

Now after 23 years im very proud of my sexual live making love 3/4 times per week.