Why do you guys hide PE from your wife?

I personally think sta-kool and Naab have raised a valid point, which is fear for the information being spread either now or later. This should be a very realistic possibility for a significant portion of the board’s members…a good portion of you married guys will eventually get divorced (unfortunately).

In addition to that, I’d add that people generally have less respect for accomplishments when they know how much work was put in. I’m sure people have heard the phrase “oh he’s not that smart, he just works very hard.”

Here not only do you get the advantage of not showing how hard you worked for it (appearing naturally smart, which is generally more impressive to people I think), but you also avoid the pitfalls of showing insecurity - which is generally a sexual turnoff, I think (detracting from what may be your original reason to enlarge your penis).

So, there are two more reasons.

I didn’t tell the girlfriend. She caught me. We talked about it after and was actually pissed that I didn’t tell her. Now she knows why I take hour long baths every other day. It’s actually easier now because I don’t have to hide my clamp and wrap. I just leave it in the shower. Unless, of course, if we have company.

OK, here goes, I expect major backlash but I cannot help myself.

Women hold everything you do against you, not all, but most do. If you fuck up in life they will bring whatever you do up and try to belittle it to fuel an argument on their side. Do you want your wife having this baby in her pocket?

It will sound like this, Mid argument.. “Oh shut up, you pathetic little man, go and pull on your winkey for 2 hours you fucking weirdo freak, whats a matter? Not big enough? Too small haha you make my skin crawl you limp dicked insecure little waster”.

Or something like that.

Brutal.

Umm… Where the fuck did you price this out?

A pedicure shouldn’t cost more than $20 - maybe $25 if you tip big. Your lady is getting ripped off.

As far as keeping PE from your S/O or spouse:

It is an unusual woman who is on board with this. And more to the point, some things should just be kept private.

PE is a personal quest, so I don’t think it’s something that one needs to share.

It is detrimental to a relationship if personal boundaries are not established and maintained - whatever they are.

PE is just the domain of man. If ever there was ‘man time’ PE would definitively be it.

Just my thoughts.

Makes me wonder why even get married or attached in the first place? :shrug:

There is one single advantage in telling your wife about PE: no need for excuses staying so much at the bathroom…

There are 1000+1 possible disadvantages:

- lose of respect from wife

- sexual turnoff from wife

- wasted time accusation

- selfishness accusation

- get labeled as insecure, weird, stupid

- get totally exposed in case of arguments, or revenge

just to mention a few.

I consider PE as a private matter, like cleaning your ass. Even if my wife would be OK with it, I wouldn’t be comfortable at all. But I know her, even my gym program makes her mad…

Right?

For some any private time is cause for jealousy.

What is it with these people?

There’s truth in that.

It’s certainly not impossible for that sort of thing to happen, should your relationship with a woman go that far south.

I wouldn’t say that women have the market cornered on keeping score and throwing things in back in someone’s face (I know some men who are champs in that regard, for sure), but there are certainly women who do have that ability. So a scenario like the one 17ml describes could easily happen, no question.

I mean… the thought of discussing PE with my divorce attorney is a sobering thought.
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Hey there happy! (:

Guys I am not sure about the types of relationships you guys have, but I have little to no hairs on my toungue. Before engaging in any meaningful relationship I have a list of things to bring up, ex addict, blah the blah blah, so by the time I get to PE, well, it looks trivial.

But, in all honesty I couldn’t care less about what someone thinks about me tugging on my dick. As mentioned, PE is my time. I’ll tell you what I do during my time, but I won’t really make note of any reference you make.

Also, I leave no doubt in the bedroom, so, that might be working to my advantage.

I can understand why most would opt not to tell, but I personally just don’t give a shit enough to hide it.

That’s just so bullshit! I mean you do PE for self improvement just like going to the gym or getting counselling/therapy for personal issues.

Based on that logic nobody should do anything that makes them feel good about themselves or improves their life in any way. You’re selfish if you do. :rolleyes:

Dude, I’m so with you on that one :D

But, in all honesty I couldn’t care less about what someone thinks about me tugging on my dick.
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I can understand why most would opt not to tell, but I personally just don’t give a shit enough to hide it.
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Totally.
I have told loads of people about my PE practise. Who gives a damn? Not me. I mean, what is wrong with the sort of gossip that goes like this: “Do you know, Marky777 has made his dick bigger by doing weirdo exercises”? Maybe some of the women might want to see the results, first hand…

Yeah. If you have the sort of marriage where you NEED to have secrets, your marriage is crap as far as I am concerned. Either get a new wife, or better still work on being a better person. This will either cause your wife to fall even deeper in love with you, or she will run off with a loser/user leaving you free to find a BETTER person.

A lot of posts here point to why so many marriages end in divorce. If you’re in a relationship already worried about how it will end, you’re not really in it. And the guys who believe every woman is petty and vindictive … well, the only person who has been in every one of your relationships is you. If every person you’ve ever been with is like that, either you choose people who are that way, or something you are doing does that to them. I’ve ended a lot of relationships, both male and female. The way people treat you after you leave has a lot more to do with what kind of person you are than what kind of person they are. This is the only reason banning gay marriage annoys me so much. The people who are opposed to me getting married are so obviously horrible at it themselves.

northmiamitop, the PO asked a question. He didn’t invite us to judge other peoples’ marriages!

I’m in a happy relationship for more than 29 years and part of the merit is knowing what to keep to myself :)

I sounded judgemental, and maybe I was. But there you have it, that’s my opinion.

It’s like wiping your ass. I don’t need anyone there with me while I’m doing it, that’s private. But I’m not hiding the paper, making excuses, and lying about what I’m doing in there either. There is a line between privacy and being deceitful. My rule is always that if they don’t care either way, there’s no need to point it out, but if it’s something they would be worried or upset to hear it from a third party, you should tell. No one else is in your relationship, so no one else can make that decision for you. My comments aren’t directed at anyone who does stealth PE, they were for people doing it for (what is see as) the wrong reasons.

Wow, looks like we have a spirited discussion going on here.

I’m also married to a nurse and she found some of my tools (Monty’s weights, pump, etc.)
She was mostly concerned that I was going to hurt myself and afraid that I wouldn’t be
able to perform as a result. She also kept saying that she was happy with what I already
have. She also said that she hears horror stories from her peers about guys damaging their
cocks trying to make them bigger. I told her that I’m extra careful, have done my homework
and that I know what I’m doing. She won’t budge on this so I have to be convert about it now.

-=Ironbird=-

Well, I’m not married but I haven’t told my gf of 5 years about it. I haven’t been doing it very long (since August). I don’t know exactly the reason I haven’t told her. I guess part of it is I think she might be against it, say things like “why worry about it, I like it how it is”, and maybe think I’m weird or lack confidence for doing it. I don’t know. Plus most of our friends are married and some women talk about sex just as often or more when they’re together than men, so I guess I wouldn’t want it to slip out of her in a conversation with one of my friends wives, even though I know I’m bigger than some of them.

I think for some people it’s just a more personal issue that they would rather keep to themselves. I mean everyones different, as we can clearly see just in the posts on this topic. I also can’t wait for the day when she says “wow you feel bigger”, cause if she knew, she might just say it just because.

Tell you what though, not telling her has made it VERY hard to keep a consistent schedule, which is one reason I’m contemplating just telling her. Again I just think everyones different about it.