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Why Can't I Edge?

Masturbating, when reaching the PONR I stop. I try to edge, Ive stopped even for 4mins having my dick go completely flaccid, and when trying to go again.. I have the need to cum right away even without a full erection..

Anyone know what I can be doing wrong?

ps: PONR is when u feel like ur going to cum right? Or is it any point when you KEGEL without wanting to?

Psst, it isn’t ur or u, its your or you. Please and thank you.

And yes PONR is point of no return, can’t stop ejaculation even if you wanted to.

As far as you not being able to edge, practice practice practice. It isn’t something that will come naturally to some guys.


sunny A day without sunshine is like a day without laughter :sun:

PONR is the point where you are going to come whether you like it or not - when it is no longer in your control. With edging, you want to get as close as you can to this point as many times as possible, and gradually you will be able to stay near it longer without going over.

It just takes practice.


"Sometimes a scream is better than a thesis." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

ups! thanks I know how anal some of you guys get when people abbreviate, sorry for that. (I have been trying to avoid it believe me ;) )

Originally Posted by MakeYouScream
PONR is the point where you are going to come whether you like it or not - when it is no longer in your control. With edging, you want to get as close as you can to this point as many times as possible, and gradually you will be able to stay near it longer without going over.

It just takes practice.

Ok so should I, grab a porn movie…. go at it, when getting to the PONR stop (how long?) then go at it again until PONR stop…. like that lets say… 30min? 1hour? Then cum?

If I do this its going to be a stopping fest, which was what annoyed me the most when trying to edge…

Doing this sometimes makes me feel that its worsening my chance to last around the PONR more than helping it =(

I don’t usually stop, I like to just slow down when I get close. Normally it takes a fast, steady stroke to get off (for me anyway), but when I get close to the PONR, sometimes the lightest touch can make me do those involuntary kegels like crazy.

Porn usually works for me, but sometimes I like to do it without because porn can mess with your head a bit, if you know what I mean. I’d like to be totally off of it someday (probably need a steady girl for that though…).

But yeah, you don’t have to stop, and I wouldn’t recommend it. Just keep going lighter and lighter to make sure you don’t come. Some suggest that it’s best to not ejaculate afterwards, but I usually do because it would drive me crazy to just walk away. Plus when you’re with a girl you’re going to want to come at some point, so why not practice that way?

Hope this helps.


"Sometimes a scream is better than a thesis." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Originally Posted by MakeYouScream
I don’t usually stop, I like to just slow down when I get close. Normally it takes a fast, steady stroke to get off (for me anyway), but when I get close to the PONR, sometimes the lightest touch can make me do those involuntary kegels like crazy.

Porn usually works for me, but sometimes I like to do it without because porn can mess with your head a bit, if you know what I mean. I’d like to be totally off of it someday (probably need a steady girl for that though…).

But yeah, you don’t have to stop, and I wouldn’t recommend it. Just keep going lighter and lighter to make sure you don’t come. Some suggest that it’s best to not ejaculate afterwards, but I usually do because it would drive me crazy to just walk away. Plus when you’re with a girl you’re going to want to come at some point, so why not practice that way?

Hope this helps.

Well just tried it and failed was going well but on the 7th time I got to PONR I couldn’t stop and 3 drops of cum came out of my dick… I tried to keep going but that did not feel good at all.
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Just a note that i forgot to mention, when stopping after PONR i tend to do a STRONG KEGEL, should I be NOT doing this? By doing the kegel i can feel the sperm go back down with my thumb.

I don’t do any kind of strong kegel to my knowledge. To me, it sounds like the wrong way to fight off coming.

Sound pretty good for a first try, and it will get better as you practice. What I would suggest, if you want your edging to last longer, is don’t get so close to the PONR. Take it easy. Tons of pre-ejaculate can come out, and probably will if you do it right, but try not to let it get so close to actually coming.

When you say only 3 drops came out, I would think that was pre-ejaculate. My pre-ejaculate is the same color as my semen and sometimes makes me think that I did come. If its a relatively small amount, then it’s probably pre-ejaculate and you should be able to continue.


"Sometimes a scream is better than a thesis." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Originally Posted by OneGg
Ok so should I, grab a porn movie.. Go at it, when getting to the PONR stop (how long?) then go at it again until PONR stop.. Like that lets say.. 30min? 1hour? Then cum?

If I do this it’s going to be a stopping fest, which was what annoyed me the most when trying to edge..

Doing this sometimes makes me feel that it’s worsening my chance to last around the PONR more than helping it =(

Don’t watch porn while edging it is to much of a distraction.
Relax, lay down listen to music. The only thing moving should be your hands.
Don’t even curl your toes.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

Originally Posted by MakeYouScream
I don’t do any kind of strong kegel to my knowledge. To me, it sounds like the wrong way to fight off coming.

Sound pretty good for a first try, and it will get better as you practice. What I would suggest, if you want your edging to last longer, is don’t get so close to the PONR. Take it easy. Tons of pre-ejaculate can come out, and probably will if you do it right, but try not to let it get so close to actually coming.

When you say only 3 drops came out, I would think that was pre-ejaculate. My pre-ejaculate is the same color as my semen and sometimes makes me think that I did come. If its a relatively small amount, then it’s probably pre-ejaculate and you should be able to continue.

Well I’m using strong kegel to stop ejaculation, what came out was cum not pre cum I’m pretty sure of this.

So then for edging I shoulnt use kegels I’m guessing…

ARGHHH Ok I’m getting a bit stressed with this I’m not sure if I’m doing it right.

When reaching PONR I’ve tried without using a strong kegel, and by doing this my dick feels like the cum fills all the tube all the way to the head and just stays there in the head.

( this doesn’t feel really good to be honest but maybe its how the dick needs to feel to achieve this. )

After a couple of edges, lets say about the 10th or so. Going past the PONR was impossible without a STRONG kegel else my cum would come out intensively.

What I did was the strong kegel and after I felt a bit like an ejaculation without cumming.. But when picking back up the stroking, the sensation wasn’t so good, and when i finally came it wasn’t a huge burst like most people describe… after that, a bit of ball hurting which I expected.

Anyone know what I can be doing wrong? or its just the right way and I should continue like this.

Let’s start from the boggling.
First, forget every thing you had learned about edging (not saying that the others opinions are wrong, I just think you need to have a fresh start.

Start by masturbating as usual. You need to be relaxed and focused on what going on in your body. And the most important thing, FORGET about kegel. Actually, you should forget about your BC muscle and try to keep it relaxed without any contraction.
As you continue masturbating, you can feel the sensations build up in your penis. With every stroke you’ll be closer to the PONR, and for the ejaculation. Now you need to identify the feelings that you have just before this point. You need to practice, if you don’t already know how it feels like. You can practice by normal masturbation, but with slow strokes. This way, you can observe all the stages toward the PONR.
(I describe the feelings that precede the PONR as a tingling sensation at the base, with a hard urge to contract the BC muscle, regardless of how hard you try not to.)

It seems that the problem with you is that you reach the PONR then stop stroking, where you should stop before this point in order to stop the ejaculation process. As a start, when you identify the stage that preceding the PONR STOP completely for a couple of seconds. And REMEMBER, keep your BC relaxed and don’t do any kegels. Then resume stroking in slow motion and light force. You can go for this for some time, depending on your conditioning level. Then, again, stop if you reach the point before PONR. And repeat as long as you can or want. Then let it go if you want.

Hope this was clear enough, and helped you.

Originally Posted by pegain
Let’s start from the boggling.
First, forget every thing you had learned about edging (not saying that the others opinions are wrong, I just think you need to have a fresh start.

Start by masturbating as usual. You need to be relaxed and focused on what going on in your body. And the most important thing, forget about kegel. Actually, you should forget about your bc muscle and try to keep it relaxed without any contraction.
As you continue masturbating, you can feel the sensations build up in your penis. With every stroke you’ll be closer to the ponr, and for the ejaculation. Now you need to identify the feelings that you have just before this point. You need to practice, if you don’t already know how it feels like. You can practice by normal masturbation, but with slow strokes. This way, you can observe all the stages toward the ponr.
(I describe the feelings that precede the ponr as a tingling sensation at the base, with a hard urge to contract the bc muscle, regardless of how hard you try not to.)

It seems that the problem with you is that you reach the ponr then stop stroking, where you should stop before this point in order to stop the ejaculation process. As a start, when you identify the stage that preceding the ponr stop completely for a couple of seconds. And remember, keep your bc relaxed and don’t do any kegels. Then resume stroking in slow motion and light force. You can go for this for some time, depending on your conditioning level. Then, again, stop if you reach the point before ponr. And repeat as long as you can or want. Then let it go if you want.

Hope this was clear enough, and helped you.

That’s better then as they get use to the feeling then they can add in a gentle steady BC kegel.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

Originally Posted by OneGg
ARGHHH Ok I’m getting a bit stressed with this I’m not sure if I’m doing it right.

When reaching PONR I’ve tried without using a strong kegel, and by doing this my dick feels like the cum fills all the tube all the way to the head and just stays there in the head.

( This doesn’t feel really good to be honest but maybe it’s how the dick needs to feel to achieve this. )

After a couple of edges, lets say about the 10th or so. Going past the PONR was impossible without a STRONG kegel else my cum would come out intensively.

What I did was the strong kegel and after I felt a bit like an ejaculation without cumming.. But when picking back up the stroking, the sensation wasn’t so good, and when I finally came it wasn’t a huge burst like most people describe.. After that, a bit of ball hurting which I expected.

Anyone know what I can be doing wrong? Or it’s just the right way and I should continue like this.

Sounds like your doing a good job going to 10 PONR. Now when you decide it is time to cum release the kegel. If your balls hurt you need to cum. It is not designed to be painful but pleasurable.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

Ok thank you guys pegain and kingpole, will start this asap on my next session. I think the slow stroking should give me a new kick into it. Will let you know!

thank you again =P

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