Well I do feel lucky that I dont carry guilt about sex around now!
I guess I never had a reason to.
If I was a flamboyant cheat to my husbands or I went after other womens men. I think I would feel guilty about that. But I decided a long time ago that I woulnt walk on anyone to get where I am going. Not because of their feelings as much as my rotton feelings about myself in going that route.
But i am allowing myself to make that choice. It would be hard if I felt like I was stuck in guilt anyway.
I am sure you have by now tried about everything to get your wife to open up & not have to feel guilty for doing so.
So where does her guilt actually belong? It has to belong to someone else down the line. Especially if you dont represent or encourage her to feel it. I wonder if she knows that its not really hers? But someone has made her feel that it is her burden. Probably way before you ever came along. Its sad that she has to inherit something like that. A tradition that imprisons a part of you when theres no real reason for its existance.
I hope that somehow that will change for you both in the future & you can be open with her without her feeling anything but good about it!!