What are the points to Porn detox

It’s not really about being single or not. Is about having a problem or not.

I mentioned my ex because that was the situation I was worried about. However there might be a lot of other reasons for wanting to quit porn. They might be poor EQ, inability to get a rock hard erection from imagination alone, loose of sensitivity, etc etc. I have not had those, but I have read of people who did. If any of that happened to me I would quit again, single or not.

My way of looking at it. If there’s a problem, quit it. If there is not and you like it, then don’t. :)

I think that there are many categories of persons who find intimacy with another person, but it is the liberal or alternative thinker that would introduce porn into an intimate relationship in order to “spice” things up.

I believe the default setting sexually is between two people of opposite sex who are driven to be intimate for many biological reasons. In our modern, technologically advanced society many get bored with the “same old” and go looking for variety, mostly because of the barrage of increasingly pornographic imagery in the media. This is normal, but when it comes to sex and intimacy it can be damaging to the powerful connection that sex between people creates.

The conservative view of many things has been vilified recently, but these things are valuable for a reason. They work.

This thread is about people struggling with the need to be functional and intimate with their partners, and I have struggled with my issues of loss of libido with my wife, and run the gamut of age-related issues (I’m 53) the thought that I have veinous leakage (no) and the refuge I found in porn while my marriage struggled.

I found that of all the things that was damaging mostly was my consumption of porn. Porn had neuro-chemically altered the way my brain received pleasure. I had gone from being turned-on by my sexy beautiful wife to needing more and more videos of lesbians, blowjobs and virtual lapdances to get hard. Eventually I even struggled to get hard while watching videos and so I quit the porn, and within a week or so my rock-solid morning wood returned, and soon after I could get hard from my wife’s blowjobs again, and you have to understand how important that is for our relationship.

This detox may not be needed or even work for some, I would be presumptuous to assume that this is true for everyone, but in my case and for many reading here, dropping the porn will allow them the powerful pleasure of being turned on by the person they are with without the need or thought of “aids” once again.

Being able to talk about and share things other people might condemn as “dirty, nasty, or pornographic” is what real sexual intimacy is all about. You’re here trying to make your penis bigger, I’m guessing because you believe it will “spice” thing up with your significant other. Stop trying to paint everything as “liberal” or conservative”. Life doesn’t work that way. Your hanging around a penis enlargement site is already a rejection, even if it’s a small one, of the vanila flavored sex life you seem to wanna foist on everybody.

Vanilla?

A lot of assumptions there.

I do PE for me. My size issue came as a gift from the mother of my children who was way more liberal than I when it came to sex and sexual entertainment. She was into teasing men and blowing male dancers. Not my thing. She liked to sing about big black dicks and tried to get me to watch porn with her, so I camped out on the couch until we seperated.

My PE hasn’t effected my wife’s enjoyment one iota. She doesn’t really notice when I’m rock hard or playing average when tired or drinking. She is happy I’m fucking her and comes when I begin to come. She’s a keeper.

Regarding liberal and conservative, maybe that’s too black-and-white, but it seems that the politically liberal tend to be athiest, pro-porn and interested in exploring sexual boundaries more than the traditional family-values sorts such as myself.

I wouldn’t describe my sex life as vanilla though. And I’m not foisting it. Merely pointing out to some that an “anything goes” approach might have repercussions, especially when it comes to porn consumption.

And I don’t consider discussions about the dirty, nasty or pornographic sexual intimacy, they are merely what they are. Between two partners who have a taste for such things it would be a natural extension of the pre-existing taste, but in my view one partner trying to introduce such things takes the risk that it won’t be accepted by the other partner, thereby ruining any chance of intimacy.

We clearly have different definitions of intimacy.

So instead the anti-liberal alternative thinker why would introduce porn in a intimate relationship for? What I see is that the vast majority of porn is an anti-liberal fantasy, porn is (always been probably) very conservative-oriented. Even the domination/submissive fetish is something you can find way more often in right oriented people.

FYI, one research was done and came out that couples who regularly see porn have more intimacy than ‘conservative’ ones. You said that porn was lowering intimacy with your wife. I wonder if porn has different effects on extremely conservative people.

I thought that way too but what I’ve found in my experiences is that porn will detract from my drive to pursue women that I might be interested in. I’m assuming that is due to artificially fulfilling a natural desire for sex with another person.

I dig your user name btw :D

Hope you don’t mind my jumping in here but I found this site to be very informative (links to and quotes from studies).

Your Brain On Porn -

-Wa

That site is a travesty, we spoke of that before.

Maybe it does.

I just know that fucking my real wife is far more pleasurable than any porn orgasm I’ve ever experienced, and I certainly don’t need those images to be with my wife.

I could understand if a man or a woman finds their partner less than appealing sexually, then introducing porn or toys could make the “difference”, but in my case my wife is more than enough.

In your opinion.

I have backed up my opinion with something a bit reliable in the past. Those people don’t even have clear the role of dopamine. Don’t let me search please.

No worries mate.

I think people have different sensitivities to dopamine and seratonin, which is evident when we see differences of opinion regarding the effect of porn on the ability to get hard with your partner after porn use.

I personally lose the desire for my wife if I watch too much porn and I absolutely hate that, because it means I won’t be able to bang the shit out of her like she and I like.

The message I bring is that if you are having ED and you watch porn chronically then do the detox and your erections will return.

Really? That woul estinguish most of andrologists of the world. And no need of viagra anymore. If you are having ED than it’s the porn. Like a God’ punition.

You’re symptoms were the same as mine. Loss of desire and decreased ability to perform. In my case losing an erection before I can climax. All of this is discussed in the your brain on porn site. I wouldn’t expect everyone to like the site but I found it very informative and helpful.

I’m sure ditching porn is not the answer for everyone but I would think its worth considering if you’re having ED issues. Plus it’s free to try.

Of course it’s free to try, but it takes willpower, and for some it’s easier to betray intimacy by bringing it into the bedroom.

In my case my wife knew about my porn problem and even offered to allow it to be part of our sex.

I told her that I just wanted her.