Totally reamed by what girlfriend said

My (now ex) girlfriend and I were on really bad terms, so that may be one reason she said the following. However, I think she meant it in a physical sense too for the most part. Are you ready? This is a whopper!

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Disappointed in your desire to fuck when your cock is nonexistent; your perpetual desire for fornication when you have no tool to create said desire.

Your cock is actually the smallest penis I’ve seen in my life
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Hence the reason why I joined this forum today. Lol

My penis is really small when flaccid. Maybe 2” long and 1” in diameter. That brings a lot of embarrassment to me in general. I avoid public showers at all costs, and I hold off on sex with any girl I date because I’m too worried about what will happen the first time she sees my dick.

HOWEVER, I’m a grower. My dick gets to 5” length and 1.3” diameter when hard. It’s a HUGE difference (is this typical?). So I’m glad about that! I’m 43 yrs old, and my dick actually used to be bigger. Getting older sucks. To top it off, my erections are really soft these days and I often have a hard time getting it up at all (partly due to the nervousness I feel in terms of being inadequate). By the way my (ex) girlfriend also said, “I’m not fucking you again because I prefer men who can get hard and are good at fucking, and you aren’t good at either”. What a BITCH she was, for several reasons.. Also, I’ve had girls tell me, “how did you get so good at that” after we’ve fucked. You can take this two ways — A) you have a small dick but you use it very well, and B) you have a nice sized dick and you use it very well. I’m a very sensual person, good looking, give great oral, and I honestly think I’m one of the best fucks out there for my dick size. Lol. However, due to my size, I often have a hard time cumming unless the girl’s pussy is really tight because there’s not enough friction (that sucks for the girl too, but there are sex positions you can use to help with that).

I’ve been jelquing for a couple weeks now and I definite notice my dick is a little fuller and a little more stiff when hard. I can feel it in my grip. I haven’t measured it but it’s maybe an eighth of an inch thicker, but mainly it feels “fuller”. I’m optimistic.

I really don’t care if I don’t gain length (although I think I could gain an inch or more after reading some of these posts). My main concern is girth. Boy it would be great to get to 1.5” in diameter, but to be honest my goal is 6”. I’m definitely below average girth wise, but no where near what my bitch ex-girlfriend said.

Can anyone give me hope and a timeframe for getting from 1.3” diameter to 1.5” diameter? Will it be possible to get to 2” diameter, and how long (assuming I’m diligent about it)?

Also, I worry that jelquing will soften my erections, can this happen? If I use a cock ring I can get my dick pretty hard, and it stays hard (I also have problems losing my erection during sex). So I hope the cock ring route will always be a solution.

Finally, I just bought a penis pump. I used one in the past and I remember my dick grew huge. It went up to nearly 7” and definitely gained girth but not as much as I wanted. I have potential. Lol. I think a pump in combination with a cock ring will be a great way to start off sex. What I’m wondering is, what’s the best way to use a pump to gain permanent girth? Is it safe to jelq after pumping, and if so what’s the correct way to do it?

Thanks!

We mostly see reported gains in girth, not width; supposed that 0.2” diameter increase means 0.6” girth increase, it will require at least 1 year. I would just do the newbie routine forgetting pumps and cock rings for at least three months. Overdoing will be detrimental for both gains and EQ.

Relax and do the newbie routine for the prescribed 3 months and we will support your efforts here.

Do not get pushed into extreme and premature exercises before your dick is conditioned, especially while you are still reacting to the selfish comments of a woman who knew how to hit your weak spot.

I initially came here because my ex made comments about big black dicks and how she and her nurse friends used to like to wash the bigger dicks to see if they would get hard. After getting a bigger and fatter cock and being away from that silly bitch I don’t feel hurt by the memories as much and rail my new wife two or three times a day with a bigger fatter longer-lasting dick.

Doing PE works when you do it for your self, not to fix a problem already in the past.

Just imagine what you will do with your new dick with a woman who deserves to get done proper.

You are reporting measurements in a non-PE standard way (BPEL or NBPEL length? / girth instead of width) but it sounds like you don’t have a penis issue. Your ex is just a real succubus. Go have a party now that the b*tch is gone!

In response to Roseanne saying he had a small penis, Tom Arnold replied “Even a 747 looks small if it’s landing in the grand canyon!”

oppo77, don’t let your ex’s comments get to you. I totally agree with your assessment of her and have a few comments of my own for her (which I’ll keep to myself). You will find that doing PE will help increase your size as well as your erection quality. If you have some time, read my rather lengthy story here: My Story: Losing And Regaining My Confidence

Good luck and keep us posted as to your success. I think you’ll find that Thunders Place will be a great help for lots of things, not just increasing your size.

Sounds like great motivation ;) . Could use such a bitch to motivate me everyday.

Start slow. Dont get overmotivated in search of getting bigger as fast as possible. That can end in injury.

Ease into a girth routine. Very low intensity jelqs.

For girth and espacially temporary flaccid gains a waterpump will help tremendously.

I gone from grower to a shower just with using a waterpump.

Haha! Right.

OP. Don’t pay that girl any mind. She’s just trying to hurt you. PE for you, not her.

Your penis is perfectly normal and PE will give you the boost you need.

In case you have a chance to see again your (former) girlfriend tell her that your willie was big enough to let her bark like a dog.

Happy gains.

How can a 4.1 circumference be normal? From everything I read, 4.75-5.0 is average. My length is 5.0, but pressing down on the fat pad it’s nearly 6.5. I’m in the process of losing weight, so I’m happy with the length. But the most important thing to most women is girth, and I’m 2 inches below the 6.0 I’d really like to be. Jelquing has made my penis feel fuller, but I think it’s going to take a miracle to go from 4.1 to 6.0 girth. That represents a width increase of about 0.5 inch.

I know there are girth covers you can put on your penis to gain girth, but the idea of fucking a girl with something artificial on my dick makes me feel even more inadequate. It’s really hard dating a girl like my ex who tells you explicitly she prefers much thicker cocks, let alone rip me on my size. I knew I was thinner than most, but when a girl makes fun of you like that, it takes a piece of you away. I don’t even feel like having sex anymore, ever. It’s going to bother me to no end, and I know that when I get into my next sexual encounter it will be on my mind the entire time, I probably won’t be able to get hard. Has this ever happened to anyone else on here?

Any woman that comes with a thick penis can come with a finger. Look at vibrators sold in sex-shops, rarely those are thicker than 4”. Gaining 2” of girth is near impossible, but 1” is not althoug it will require a lot of time.

If you are 5 inches erect and get nearly 7 inches when pumped that sounds your issue is about EQ. You can maybe ask your doctor.

It’s happened to plenty of people here,that’s how they found this site. I’m going through something kind of similar right now not a size thing but still. I shot off in like 2 minutes with a girl and I haven’t been able to last since. I find comfort in knowing I never had that problem so it’s most likely a psychological thing. That’s the same with you and your anxiety of your next sexual encounter. Somehow you got to let it go (easier said than done), but jelqing should help with a lot of that for you. You said you had erection issues. That’s usually the first sign of improvement from jelqing is better EQ. A lot of guys complain about size, but I think if you gave women a list of what’s more important and size and hardness was on the list I think hardness would be over size in a majority of cases. You might want to look into a kegel/reverse kegel routine to help with that too.

Such a shitty succubus.

She’s an asshole.

Man, a lot of us (myself included) are here, at least in part, because some evil (or ignorant) girl made hurtful comments about our size. It took me almost two years to get up the courage to try sex again after my first experience because of a comment about my girth.

And you know what? When I finally got back on the horse it didn’t take long to realize that I had made way too big a deal of it. Any chick that would tell you something like that is either too stupid or too much of an asshole to be worth listening to, much less keeping in your life.

If you want to increase your girth, there’s plenty of info here to help you with that, so do it. But DO NOT let your EX’s comments prevent you from getting quality pussy. She’s not worth it.