I had the same problem, but a couple of days ago I started to getting used to jelqing and I don’t get SO easily erect (I’m a newbie).
My solutions:
1. Don’t be horny. Your mind and penis have to know the difference between playtime and jelqing. I find it really enjoyable to jelq and I don’t think of it as playing with my dick. Although an engorged dick could be a turn on sometimes (we crave what we don’t have, eh?). :P
I guess frequent sex/masturbation helps with that too as you won’t have the need to play with yourself.
2. Two words. Wet jelqs. Lube really helps, I wouldn’t dream of dealing with getting hard when jelqing if I did dry jelqs.
My 2 cents. :)
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