Those who yet to see the secret garden

I’m going to do that ^

If you begin dating a woman and are unsure if she will ‘laugh’ at the size of your penis, here’s what you do. If the topic of sex comes up, somehow casually mention that you wish you had a bigger dick. If she says that size doesn’t matter, then no big deal. If she gives you a funny look, then I wouldn’t bother trying to sleep with her.

I was a virgin for 25 years. Mainly because I was so shy and nervous around women. Now I don’t have as much trouble talking to them. I have a lot more confidence then I did back then. Sure my penis is getting bigger slowly and that has something to do with it, but I was also feeling depressed all the time for more reasons then just my penis. One plus side is I could last for awhile in the sack. That can be good or bad depending on the girl.

Most people are virgins for about 16-18 years. So 25 is not that bad.

DUDE I ABSOLUTLEY AGREE. When I’m horny, I don’t know the words “shy” or “what if”.

Okaaay,

what we seem to have here are some virgins, some, such as dxshern are a bit smaller on the penis scale whilst others such as Aim High Willis are packing some serious size and yet the commonality is a perception of lack of confidence…

Does penis size matter? Only to a very small percentage of the female population (like maybe 5%) are genuine size queens. The rest are much more interested in the whole man. Is he kind, does he dress well, does he have manners, will my parents like him, does he make me laugh, is he a good kisser? These are all questions a woman / girl will ask herself waaay before she ever thinks about “I wonder how big his dick is?”. Indeed for most girls it won’t even be a question in their head at all (I’m 50 and I’ve asked a lot of them).

The dick is nearly always part of the package. If women like the package they will like the sex.

Now the other thing that is present in almost all of the replies to this thread (and also in dxshern’s own entry) is the constant negative self-realities.

When you say “That’s my life story - most people around where I live are unfriendly”….

When you say “I just don’t have confidence. All the girls I find attractive I think see me as disgusting. So I’m too much of a pussy to approach them or say anything”…..

When you say “I’m 24 and still a virgin too, oral included. No one is really interested in me, and I’ve pretty much stopped caring”…..

When you say “I can picture how disappointed the girl’s face would look”.

When you say all these things and for as long as you keep saying these negative things about yourself, to yourself and to others, about your reality (that you have created for yourself) you will continue to get exactly what you expect to get over and over and over again.

Henry Ford said that “people who say they can and people who say they can’t are both right”.

What people just don’t get is that we create our world with our words. When you say “I can picture how disappointed the girl’s face would look” I can tell you now dxshern, when you finally meet that beautiful girl who sooo wants to be with you, is nervous as a kitten that SHE won’t measure up, you’ll both be all heated up from kissing and touching and you will go to remove your pants and you know what? You will see a look on her face that will probably relate to a thought in her head “I am so nervous” but YOU will see that look and do you know what you will think she is thinking? “She is disappointed; she thinks my dick is small. I knew this would happen”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is alive and living in our heads. The more we empower it by what we think and what we say the more we will get exactly what it is we are saying about our self.

Now for the good news! As soon you start empowering good thoughts about yourself and truly own those good thoughts your world will begin to change. This, by the way, is not just positive thinking (although that does play a part). This is more about creating your world by what you say, by what you want and by what you do.

I’ll explore this a bit more in my next post.

LWH

“Louie, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship”
- Humphrey Bogart to Claude Raines, Casablanca

Interesting. Maybe you’re right LWH but I want a girl to feel good when having sex. What’s the point if she’s faking an orgasm?

But that is just the point dxshern.

If you want a girl to feel good when having sex then focus on her feeling good. The touching, the caressing, the words you whisper in her ear, running your fingers through her hair and gently across her face.

The problem is when you are a (male) virgin you are so focused on that one thing that ‘officially’ gets you to not be a virgin (your dick), you totally miss the point of what the vast majority of girls really want.

They want to feel loved. Yes, they want to feel passion too but girls are so much more ‘body and emotion sensory’ than guys. For us, especially when we are young and inexperienced, it mostly begins and ends between the waist and the tops of our legs.

For a girl, it’s the ears, the hair, the eyes, the nose, the mouth, the neck the breasts (don’t forget the nipples) and so it goes all the way down to her toes. One girl I was with years ago would get totally off just on her hips being caressed.

It’s also the flowers you bring, the fact that you noticed and commented enthusiastically on the perfume she’s wearing. She’ll notice the fact that you cleaned and trimmed your fingernails and wore a bright red tie (you knew it was her favourite colour because you remembered to ask) especially for the night.

You wind a girl up by doing much or all of the above, focus all your attention on making her feel special, and I promise you she will climb on board whatever size heat you are packing and ride it for all it is worth.

Now just a warning. If you have shouted to the Universe that all you are capable of giving her is ‘fake orgasms’ that is EXACTLY what you will get. Even if she is bouncing up on top of you going through her third multiple orgasm I am telling you that in your head you will be saying to yourself “hmm, good actress”!

Your tag line espouses your determination to be able do anything. By all means use that determination to build your penis with PE. But also turn your determination to build your self esteem and self worth. Give up negative language about yourself and begin to determine what you want by what you say and what you think.

Say to yourself and to the World (or in this case Thunders) that I am going to smile and I am going to laugh; I feel good about myself. I’m going to make myself attractive and I’m going to attract a beautiful girlfriend because I deserve the best. I am going to be a great lover and I am going to make her feel like a princess in my arms.

If you really think a bigger Penis will alone give you what you want read again ‘Aim High Willis’ reply on page #1 of this thread. Over the next 1-2 years PE may indeed give you a bonus of a bigger penis, but don’t wait till then. There’s stacks of girls out there just waiting to be swept off their feet by a guy who knows how to make them feel good. Start being that guy dxshern.

LWH

“Louie, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship”
- Humphrey Bogart to Claude Raines, Casablanca

LWH you make a good point there I must say. Guys out there read his post.

You’re right LWH. Much thanks for those wise words.

I’m so glad i came across Thunder’s.

Thanks once again..

Don’t stress over being still a virgin. Instead, concentrate on learning to talk to the girls and how to spend some time with them getting to know them. Start dating them and spending time with them because you enjoy their company. When the time is right, when you are really into her and she’s really into you, then sex will happen. If you are looking at them simply as someone to get laid with, then it’s not right anyway.

I, just as everyone else here was once a virgin too. Believe me, there is no rush. I had a rule as a younger person that if a girl or woman wasn’t someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with, I didn’t have sex with her. Going about it with that attitude, I got much closer with them, sex was great in spite of my small size. The woman I eventually married really likes a big penis. So what? We make do with what I’ve got and have for 15 years. We use other methods to see that each of us is satisfied. When you really care about the person instead of just caring about getting your dick wet it works that way. If I was just out to get sex and hit it with what I’m packing at first without friendship, compassion, and feelings for one another first - she would probably have been very disappointed in what she was getting and it wouldn’t have gone any further. Instead, she got someone who loves her, who she loves, and someone who is quite happily planning along with her to spend the rest of our lives together.

Anyway, that’s how I’ve looked at it and I’m quite happy with the way things turned out for me. Best wishes for you to get what you want too.