The wife found my p.e equipment

If you don’t want to say anything don’t chances are one she has no idea what those things were or two she is more embarrassed than you and hopes you don’t bring it up.

True enough yoshinator, those are both normal human reactions, but each woman is different and its difficult if not impossible to predict how she will react to such news.

I PE in private (wife doesn’t know), but if she ever finds my supplies, I’ll just say that I read an article about how you could maintain your erectile function into old age using a regimen of regular dick exercises. In other words, I would talk about the penile health benefits without mentioning the PE aspect.

I think it’s great that some of you are able to speak to your spouses so openly about PE. I can’t bring myself to discuss it with my wife because I can’t shake the feeling that it would make me seem self-conscious about my dick (even though I’m not). When we first started dating, she casually mentioned that her most recent ex was 9”. She’s probably wrong about the number, but it’s clear that he was a fair amount larger than me. It never bothered me, but I would hate for her to think that my PE was an insecure reaction to that.

Only someone not married would say don’t tell. She’ll feel hurt if at this point you’re not willing to share with her. After all, it’s for both of you isn’t it :) ? I won’t let mine see me do it but she knows every day when I say it’s time to pump. Actually she loves seeing it when I walk out of the bedroom, lead to some real decent BJ and a couple of good fucks.

I would never tell anyone about my PE. I think you should let this go unless she brings it up.

I don’t know why some of us guys are so uptight. I feel the same way I don’t want my gf or if I was married my wife to find this stuff. I guess I don’t feel comfortable about it. Women have all kinds of toys, vibrators etc and talk about them all the time yet us guys are all uptight abut a penis pump.

Once I told my girlfriends, you know I think there is a way I can make my penis bigger … Do you know what did she say? An answer most people would hear for sure, she said you do not really to make it bigger, the size does not matter for me, as long as you are with me and we love each other, it is fine… So I was like Ummm … Ok, then I just did maintenance routine … and after a while I bought my pump :D so we will see I will see her again soon after a while :)

She still hasn’t mentioned anything yet, I am not that worried about discussing this with her but agree with C.C.Deville that I don’t want to come off as being self-conscious about size so I will tell her it’s for penis health and foreskin restoration, If she ever brings it up. The fact she hasn’t said anything might mean she’s liking my hobby, yes it would be very cool if she participated.

Hell, they sell “medical” penis pumps on TV as an instant erection fix. Pumping is just the in thing to do these days!

I told my wife that I do it, and even let her watch me one day. Maybe I’m lucky in that it got her excited and we went for it afterwards. When she asked me why, I told her it was for harder erections and more girth, which is both the main reasons I’m doing it. She seemed quite happy that I was willing to get thicker for her pleasure! Of course, every woman is different.. But lets be real here, I’d say most of us are doing this for our partner’s pleasure. Having a big stick swinging between the legs is pretty worthless unless it causes orgasms.

I hate feeling like I have to hide something. And let me remind you something about females: she analyzed the shit for a good 30 minutes before she put it away wondering wtf its all for. She probably drew some biased worst case scenario conclusions. I would talk about it.

My wife was a comer before I began PE and is the same now.

I PE for me.

I’m not gonna tell my wife since my stealth routine is working. She will just keep being surprised as it gets bigger. But if she found out I wouldn’t feel bad or awkward talking to her about it.

I would use the same excuse telling her its for penis health and getting the blood to flow.

I think it is different for every couple. For me, honesty is a key value, or I’m too old to hide or “semi-lie” about things that matter to me and expect the same from Madame.
I had sorted things out for myself a couple of weeks before approaching her with the PE question - and I did it before I started to PE.

That was quite a tense moment for me, because I was afraid of being laughed at. But she took it very good and told me she fully understands if I wanted to change my body because she wants to change it too.
That’s a different story but you might imagine: loosing a pound here or there.. Sigh, I love her curves, but I do support her efforts in loosing weight because that’s love.
So that was a lucky draw for me, and well, this is us with our way to talk things through and to their very ends.

It might be extremely difficult to generalize and conclude any advice out of this.
The only thing I may say: the bait has to please the fish, not the fisherman.
So wrap your need for PE in an appropriate story and she/he may swallow the bait with ease.

Just do whatever feels right for you and your partner.

Warm greetings

Richard65