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The guy who never gets hard.

Hey Guys!

Need some advice about a serious mental issue of mine. I can’t stop thinking about it, and it’s really bothering me and making me depressed.

Let’s start from the beginning -

The first time I had sex: I was 17, and my girlfriend and I were home alone in her parents house. We had pretty good foreplay, but when we entered intercourse I just thought about how to please her, resulting in a semi-erect penis. I thought there was something seriously wrong with me. Later on I know that the problem was all in my head, but I still have that creepy feeling about being impotent or something. The relationship ended before we had even had sex 10 times.

My last relationship was actually great (ended about a year ago), and the sex was amazing. I could not have intercourse with her for the first three months, but she was really understanding and eventually made me feel secure enough to have sex with her. From there it only went one way, and the sex was amazing for booth of us. But I still needed to get head every time.. Making out and stuff doesn’t do the trick for me. But eventually this relationship ended, and it wasn’t pretty. I still think about her a lot, but there is no no way we can get back together again.

But anyways, now the insecurities are back. I can’t even make out with a girl without thinking about it. It really sucks, because I am missing loads of fun and pussy when I should be having the time of me life. I am a very attractive guy, and get tons of female attention - so no insecurities there.

For the last six months I have had about 10 girls in bed with me. On two occasion I thought “fuck it” and went on with it, which ended with me not getting it up - total humiliation. On the last and other eight occasion I’ve just spooned with them or something, avoiding having sex. I know I have to face my fears to conquer them, and get up no matter how many times I fall.. But I don’t want to be known as the guy who can’t get hard. Dilemma!

I just needed to get some weight of my shoulders, since I have no one I can talk to about this.

Regards,
Zeye

I have a long shot theory. It may be that your penis is to big to enter the vagina at first. If the erect penis is forced to go in a hole;e to small it wilts. Are you larger than normal say larger than 5.5”? Or thicker than normal say 5.25”.

Also it could be that you need time to get use to the lady you are with everyone is different. You may have a shy boner. Shy boner is not a medical term by the way I just made it up a few seconds ago.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

Thanks for the reply KP.

My size is about 7.5x5.3, so I know I’m a bit over average. But the problem is that I don’t get hard at all when with a girl, since I’m always thinking about it. Then I can’t get turned on.

Hehe, maybe I’m a shy boner, but I refuse to be one. I want to have the time of my life while I’m still young.

Foreplay does not get it up for you, right? Length wise your in the large category by the way.


Speak softly carry a big dick, I'm mean stick!

Nope.. I just can’t relax. A blow job MIGHT do it, but not all girls do that on the first date. And it’s so embarrasing to pull out my flaccid penis, which is kinda small since I’m a grower. I also hate the fact that the moment she sees my flaccid penis, she is gonna think I’m not turned on by her, which is not the case.

Yeah, I know my length is large, but there is no use having a long penis if you can’t get I hard, so I’m only going to focus on EQ with light jelqing and edging from now on (And hopefully face my mental issues)

My size is the same. When I can get turned on 100% to the point where my cock bends upward at erection and feels like it could break glass I’m around 7 3/4” with 4.5” girth. With my girl (I also have no insecurities about looks or my girls) I can even go limp inside her. My erection length with any girl is only about 6.5 and I’ve had great sex without this prob before. Id rather just have a big 8” 6” limp dick than what I ahve now. At least with 8-6 I could fill her up and be big.I know exactly how you feel bro

Try some resisted kegels (erect 110%, pushing ur erection to ur abdomen and keeping it there as you kegel hard to reps of 10-15 seconds). They put my EQ through the roof (so hard it hurts).


Decemeber 2007: 5.8" BPEL x 4.9" MSEG

Current:-------->7.7" BPEL x 5.7" MSEG (7.2" NBPEL)

Current Goal:--->7.6" BPEL X 5.8" MSEG Do or do not, there is no "try".

Tkilla: Yeah, with a 8x6 it would be enough to get a semi and wrap a band around the base or something. Haha

Man-of-10: Thanks, I will definitely try those together with towel raises. But my erections can get pretty hard when masturbating, but then I often have to rush to the PONR to reach a 100% erection. My problem is getting the erection, but when it’s there, it’s rigid. I usually have to use about 5 minutes to get an erection.

Why not just jack to an erection with the girl there? Take control of your body.

Light weight hanging gives great EQ for me. Kegels never hurt anyone.


10/2008 BPEL= 6.5" NBPEL= 6" EG= 5"

6 month goal: NBPEL= 6.75" EG= 5.25"

Main Goal: NBPEL= 8" EG= 6"

You just need to learn to relax. You’re putting way too much pressure on yourself. That leads to premature ejaculation.

It’s hard for us younger guys to calm down. We’re just so excited when we get some new pussy! :)

There’s nothing wrong with you. If you REALLY have a hard time getting over it, you might want to try some Cialis or Viagra. It’ll give you confidence later.

Originally Posted by man-of-10
Try some resisted kegels (erect 110%, pushing ur erection to ur abdomen and keeping it there as you kegel hard to reps of 10-15 seconds). They put my EQ through the roof (so hard it hurts).

Awesome tip! I was doing stretch kegels, this sounds a little funner, hopefully it should do the trick.

Originally Posted by 10inchadvantage
You just need to learn to relax. You’re putting way too much pressure on yourself. That leads to premature ejaculation.

It’s hard for us younger guys to calm down. We’re just so excited when we get some new pussy! :)

There’s nothing wrong with you. If you REALLY have a hard time getting over it, you might want to try some Cialis or Viagra. It’ll give you confidence later.

I’ve tried to get a hold of C or V, but in my country the regulations for use is very strict. I’ll have to get a medical prescription to buy them.

Performance anxiety is more common than you might think! If you are able to get it up watching porn, or masturbating, that proves that it’s just a psychological issue. Not that it solves your problem, but it’s the first step to overcome it. Just be convinced that your body is perfectly OK and forget the “impotent” bulls**t!

You are not alone, many of us were there too! :) You will eventually control this anxiety and manage to relax. The key is not to think about it: don’t monitor your boner, forget you have to get it up! If you focus on getting it up, you might forget it as well, because it won’t happen. Instead, you should just enjoy being with the girl and let things happen.

To get more confidence, it would be a good idea to use some pills for the first time. It’s far more important to you to get rid of anxiety than the embarrassment to see a doctor for a one time prescription!


Starting BPEL: 6.9" (Dec.1st, 2008)

Current BPEL: 8.11" NBPEL: 7.63" BPFSL: 9.09"

Current MEG : 5.6"

Do you go soft during masturbation? Porn? During both, if I don’t keep an eye on my penis and if I stop what “feels” good to me or I get some more lotion, by the time I put my hand back down there, it’s soft again. If my girl gets in a position that feels good to her but maybe I’m not getting the in and out motion, I go limp inside her. Because even when looking at porn and masturbation, along with my fine ass girl during sex, I can’t keep it up, I saw my doctor. She has referred me to a urologist and ill see him friday. I can’t say that it’s nerves though cause I have been having sex with some of the same girls since 2006-thats 4 years! And all the sudden a few months ago I just lost it.

I will say that it is strange that I took horny goat weed and coulnd’t get it up

Originally Posted by tkilla
Do you go soft during masturbation? Porn? During both, if I don’t keep an eye on my penis and if I stop what “feels” good to me or I get some more lotion, by the time I put my hand back down there, it’s soft again. If my girl gets in a position that feels good to her but maybe I’m not getting the in and out motion, I go limp inside her. Because even when looking at porn and masturbation, along with my fine ass girl during sex, I can’t keep it up, I saw my doctor. She has referred me to a urologist and ill see him friday. I can’t say that it’s nerves though cause I have been having sex with some of the same girls since 2006-thats 4 years! And all the sudden a few months ago I just lost it.

I will say that it is strange that I took horny goat weed and coulnd’t get it up

Maybe you just need some new pussy. The penis becomes tired of the same thing, my friend.

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