The final straw!

I have just taken the worst possible blow. I was just getting confident with my size, I’m always looking in the mirror an lately I’ve been ok with what I see, but when I was sat in my chair and I put my mirror to the side to see what I look like erect from side on, I look so much smaller!!!

My penis went limp in seconds! Why do I look ok front on and when I’m looking down but side on I lose an inch and a half! This has broken me and it really does feel like the end of my world! I hate this so much!

Stop looking.

One might assume, since you’re here at Thunder’s Place, that you’re actively working on changing things? If not, why not? If you are, then keep working and stop measuring, looking, or evaluating so often. Obsession is not helpful in this situation. Put more of your energy into making changes than crying about your present situation.

Get used to it. Everyones erect dick looks bigger straight on than from the side. Go by what the ruler says.

How much have you gained?

There are two issues here, one trivial and one serious:

1) The apparent decrease in size might be due to your brain playing optical tricks on you. If not, then it probably has to do with the angle of your pelvis when you are sitting in a chair vs. standing up. Either way, nothing to worry about.

2) (Now for the serious issue.) Judging from your melodrama, you seem to have the habit of mentally projecting into the worst possible interpretation of everything. That’s a habit you would be better off breaking for the sake of your own peace of mind.

Here’s an exercise: Carry a journal around with you. Every time you have a thought that causes you anxiety, immediately write it down as well as some notes on how it makes you feel. Do this for two weeks. If you carry out this exercise honestly, I would bet money that at the end of it you will have a journal filled with negative and depressing thoughts, many of which you are now unaware of because they are so fleeting and pass unnoticed. The exercise should convince you that you are the primary architect of your own misery. Moreover, it will also teach you to recognize self-defeating thoughts in real-time. Noticing the problem is the first step in changing it.

If you need motivation to change, think of her (Can’t cope):

The greatest gift you can give her is to fix your mind, not your penis.

Whoa there! Don’t worry how it looks from the side. EVERYONE looks smaller from the side because you see it compared to the rest of your body and because you’ve probably got a little “turkey neck” going on the bottom, like most of us. The ruler is what to pay attention to. If you’re gaining, you’re doing something right, so don’t worry about it. Even 9” can look “little” on some guys from the side depending on height, build, etc.

At least you’re not going bald!

Man, you need to just chill out. Don’t be so obsessed with how it looks from what angle; it’s the same for me. Sometimes when I look down at my dick, it looks like a rather biggish dick, and when I look from the side, it looks smaller.

Try this - sit in a chair, get an erection. Now try to bend to your penis, like you were trying to suck yourself. If you can and like it, knock yourself out. If not, look at your dick from much closer. Doesn’t it look big? That’s the view that your girl gets when she is blowing you. You see my point?

Yes my friend, you definitely need to chill. Don’t let that brain of yours get the better of you - you know it will if you let it!

Just get your head down and work at it like a crack addict.

I love this line— and it is so true.

The only thing you need to fix countdown, is your head.