Telling the wife

I have been at it again for about 6 weeks, all stealth in the shower. I’ve been going back and forth with wether or not to tell the wife. The first time I half assed it for a few weeks and she caught me. At first I told her I was jerking off, that didn’t go over well. Then I told her I was doing exersizes for a larger unit, she was less than impressed. She went on about me being perfect, size don’t matter and all that wife type talk. She doesn’t want me to be in competition with her fling who was larger. Even though I’ve always felt small, she knows deep inside I wouldn’t be at this if she never had another. Anyone have any suggestions on where I should go with this?

I hate to say it but by what you described you have things much more screwed up now. Before you only had the choice of “Do I tell her?” and “O.K. I will tell her but say it’s for a healthy penis.” Now you threatened her ego being adequate for you sexually by saying you were jerkng off. Many women get threatened by the fact that you would still jerk off when you have them. You then compounded this error by telling her you were doing it for a larger unit when she knows/senses your insecurity about her fling.

There are only two options now and neither one is great. In fact one may get you in deeper. The first and safer option is to say nothing, act confident and show her affection like you did when you were dating. The more dangerous option is to try to explain to her that it is a body image thing in the same kind of way women go through all these plastic surgeries like breast enlargement even though their partners don’t think it’s needed. Best of luck. That’s my two cents.

Here’s the thing, not every woman will respond the same way. I told mine about it and I haven’t regretted it since. Assure her that you are already comfortable with your size helps. The best policy to a healthy relationship is honesty. Mine said she loves me for who I am and I don’t need to be any bigger for her. Show some confidence and forget about that clown she was with before. Take her to bed and make passionate love. Give her an amazing orgasm with tongue then pound her hard into submission she won’t be thinking anything about your size if you show compassionate love-making and most always “take care of her needs” first. She’s your wife man, show her that you love her and treat her right and 99% of the time everything else just falls into place. Good luck and happy gains.

Well she should realize its perfectly normal to jerk off its not that you don’t want her its just a way a man stays in tune with their body. My ex-wife use to make me feel bad about jerking off but really its your body you should just take control of it. Tell her that you enjoy it and has nothing to do with her. Did she have the fling while she was with you as in she cheated on you?

That in my opinion is the most important piece of information of this case. If she did cheat, then EVERYTHING changes about telling her or not about PE.

I suppose she would also disapprove if you went to the gym and started building up your biceps,
Or disapprove if you studied higher mathematics or law to build up your mind,
Or joined a biking club, or went hunting, or .. WTF?

If it doesn’t directly affect her life then what can she possibly have to say about it?

And the next time she tries anything new to improve herself, tell her you disapprove and to stop doing it.

She didn’t cheat, even though it feels like it. We split for about two months a few years back, that’s when she hooked up with the other dude. We were each others firsts, and she is my only. She only has seen two dicks, and I’m on the losing end of that one. One thing she brought up is bigger isn’t better, and she didn’t enjoy sex with him. I know he wasn’t good to her, and took advantage of her so that may be why and not the big dong. I have no idea how much bigger he was, my mind has always said monster. She did tell me he was longer, but I’m much thicker and he had a lot of condom left over. Other things tell me he’s not that much longer than me. It hurts enough that someone else enjoyed her, but knowing he touched places I haven’t kills me. I know this isn’t healthy and I should just PE for myself, and I am. I’ve never been happy with my size.

So, what is your size?

Knowing its only two dicks and you are on the losing end of that must not help matters. Also knowing that others have touched areas on her that you haven’t also must not feel good. I mean what makes you feel special in this whole thing?

Special? Hmmm. In that department I don’t know. This was a long time ago and a rebound she used to try to forget me. I’m thankful that it backfired. It was a bad point in both our lives. Doesn’t make it any easier though.

Hey guy I know what you are going through. I’m going through a similar situation with my wife. She made the comment one day about her ex looking very short but she swore he was at least ten inches long. Now with that being said she also tells me I give her the best orgasms she has ever had. Now I’m definitely no pony size, but I’m 6.5bpel and 5.5mseg. You may not be as long, you may even not be as thick; but you should walk around her like you are the next John Holmes. Women like confidence. When you walk around lean back a little bit, poke it out there like you are Big John. Talk to her like you’re gonna make love to her the only way god could. Make her believe she couldn’t have better sex with him. Just be tactful.

A lesson all men should learn. I never wanted to let her in on my insucurities, but she knows me all too well. I know I’m not hung like a porn star, nor are my goals that high. However, I do give it to her like one.

That’s the way to approach things, just remember if your wives/girlfriends could massage, squeeze, pull and hang shit of there tits to make them bigger they would be at it non stop. We would also be right there watching, wanking and encouraging it.

Now I just need to figure out if I’m going to keep the PE on stealth mode.

Telling your wife about PE is as risky as any other form of gambling, you run the risk of losing.

And finding yourself talking with woman you love about another guys dick is a nightmare.

Drop the idea of a supportive wife and continue in stealth mode, for yourself.