Any more suggestions about talking to the wife about my PE?
I feel for you dude. Remember this, she is with YOU now. Not the dick with the big dick. So if I am you I would do my best to believe her. I think working on the relationship is more important than anything.
Now…to STEALTH or NOT to stealt..THAT is the question….hmm. I used to stealth, and saw a little bit of gains but I wasn’t consistent. I wanted to be, but we had 2 kids in the home at that time, and there was really not much time or place to PE. All that changed this year. Kids are married and out. SWEEEET! We are on our second honeymoon. No kidding guys. I will tell you that I have one of the best marriages on the planet. We have been married 25 years and we’re stronger than ever before. However this didn’t just workout that way. We’ve worked our butts off to make it so. Here is what I believe is the key to an awesome marriage. Do your level best to out serve the other. I know that can be difficult if you only have one person doing so, if both of you don’t pursue each other more passionately (not just sexually) then I believe the relationship can’t reach its true potential. I seek to make my girl happy every day. It works. She wants to please me and I her.
What do I mean by out serving? What I mean is I am just short of worshipping the ground she walks on, and she is the same way to me. If she needs or wants something I’ll try to get or do for her. You know how that first couple weeks of a relationship when you’d do just about anything for her? THAT is what I have after 25 years together. We both share a lot of the same values and I think that is also a big piece of the puzzle. I don’t think that I could be loved more fully by any other woman. We are each others best friend, soul mates and our sexual passion is absolutely freaky. Now some might say I’m “whipped” because they see my love for her, and I would be if the relationship wasn’t based on complete respect for each other. I am totally blessed because she doesn’t belittle me when I make a mistake. She doesn’t bring up past speed bumps that every marriage goes through and she’ll hear me out on anything even if at first she doesn’t agree. Guys, my woman ROCKS!! And everyone who knows us have said we have the best marriage they’ve ever seen. Now I’ve said all this to preface what I’ll tell you next. Stealth?
I am 6’2” and built like a line backer. My dick is now a little over 7 BPEL and I believe just over 5” girth. Haven’t measured recently but can tell visually and by her comments things are growing. I know that I am somewhat above avg length and I think avg in girth, however because I am as big as I am, I believe I am not proportionate to my size. This is probably my biggest factor for PE’ing. I want another inch in length and 1/2 inch in girth. When I started messing around with “abusing” (as she calls it) my dick, LOL, some years back, she said I was silly and I am great just as I am.
Now I am going to I get off track for a second and brag a bit that I REALLY AM a freaking stud in the bedroom. I set out to be that way a long time ago. Not really for an ego boost but because I wanted to pleasure this woman to the limits of doing so. I can touch her in 5 different places to make her cum, and no joke she typically does so 5-10x’s (more sometimes) when we are rattling the walls. I’ll usually use my hand (I covered some of what I do in an older thread on here a few years back if you want to look it up) and that will provide you excellent instructions on how to make her melt and keep her going off like a firecracker. She will typically orgasm 3-5’xs with my hand and the rest is penetration in a few different ways. I think if you don’t know exactly how to please a woman with your hands I’d say do some research. You’ll feel like you’re the stud of studs and she’ll love you all the more.
So…once again I’ll tell you she really poo-poo’d my concerns about changing my dick so things remained somewhat “stealthy” but not really. She knew what was up. Now she was never degrading or judgmental, but was also never entirely on board until this year. I told her when the kids were gone I was hitting the “weights” so to speak. She’d just chuckle and call me crazy. In my mind I wanted to be out in the open (literally) but wasn’t exactly sure of the response I would get so I decided to sit her down and explain why it was so important to me. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Here’s what I did: First, I found Bibs story on here and printed it off (not looking for a discussion on whether people believe his story or not). Second, I told her early in the day I wanted to have a sit down and discuss a couple things. Our communication is fantastic so she didn’t have any concern about the topic. When she got home and we had the time, we relaxed in bed and I read it to her. I emphasized and likened it to a woman wanting larger tits. Now she is equipped with pretty good size tits (38 DD)…yes I love them. LOL!! And even though a lot of woman view their larger sized girls as a burden, and so does my wife from time to time, she listened and completely understood where I was coming from. Next I took out all my exercise equipment and showed her everything from my attempts to make a homemade hanger to my new pump. I showed her my clamp and different things I used to try to enhance my girth. I showed her the bib hanger I bought last year and various other things I have experimented with.
What happened next blew my mind. She looks at me and said “I get it”. Now I knew she would be gracious no matter what, but I did NOT expect her to ask me to “demo” everything. I did, and she watched…she asked questions here and there and when it was time to clamp? She asked if I wanted help, and then she sucked me to an erection. She felt it clamped and mega swollen and cringed. She asked if it hurt..I told her it doesn’t and she started getting very turned on. Cracked me up because she started moaning. Loved it…So did JV..Didn’t expect that!! But of course I welcomed it. I asked did she want to try it and she was on board. Off the side of the bed as our bed was built to be the perfect height for me to stand up and I fucked her with it for the remaining clamp session. About 8 minutes. I was a happy camper as you would imagine.
We talked more about it and I answered more questions. One being her concern it would get TOO big as she feels like I max her out at times and doesn’t want to mess up her ability to ride. Her favorite position. I seemed to alleviate her concern when I told her it won’t happen overnight (damn it) and she’d get used to it. A couple years ago I had bought a toy that we enjoy occasionally and it is 8x5.5. I said that is where I’m going and she said no problem as she enjoys that very much. Additionally I told her the hardest part of doing my workouts is getting hard for my clamping. I don’t use porn and sometimes I am not as successful as I’d like to be with my erection. I am 49 and things don’t jump quite as quick as they did when I was younger. She asked if I would like her help anytime I clamp. Uhhhh…well…okay…I guess. ROFL…Now, whenever I clamp she gets me hard and I am good to go. She’ll do it anytime I ask. She’ll stop whatever she’s doing (within reason) and pull her tits out and go to work on me….I’ll tighten my clamp and she’ll go back to doing whatever she was doing and help me with additional sets. Needless to say I am that much more amazed by this lady. She jumps right in and helps, BUT, sometimes she DOES get in the way of my progress. She’ll want me to cut short my sets sometimes for some fun….VERY FRUSTRATING!! LOL…NOT!!
Well, I’ve rambled on long enough here guys. I hope you can get it out in the open and I hope your woman is as supportive as mine has become.That’s my 2 cents…Later…JV