Telling the Girlfriend

Joy abounds!

ballistictip, that’s great. Everything you said. :)

Have fun next week!

Thanks man

I had to wait for about a year with my wife because we were over 10,000 miles away from each other. I have to say during that time without sex in mix we got to know each other on a deeper personal level. The finally when I flew back to the US lets just say we didn’t leave the house for a good 24 hours at least. Now we’re happily married and having the best sex ever because we fully trust each other.

Dang man I couldn’t imagine not seeing my woman for a year. I know what you mean though about the trust. If you can’t completely trust someone from a distance it will never work. I hate that I don’t see her all the time but this distance has allowed us to know each other on a extremely deep level. I mean all we have is the ability to talk to one another, and we have talked about every aspect of our lives. I have always had trust issues due to previous relationships, it seems like every girl I talk to ends up being a pathological liar.

However, this one is different. From the beginning something inside me told me I can trust this girl. Its an amazing feeling, I have never trusted anyone like this and I surprised I was able to with this distance. Well I am at the airport now about to head out and see my woman. Good luck with your gains everyone!

She was happy that I was doing it, and only wants me to continue if I don’t show or share the results with any girls. I like how the exercises make my penis healthier. I also like she noticed before I told her. She is supportive and that has given me energy to do my exercises every morning and night. I stretch, exercises, and pump. I try to do it in the shower or bath. Thanks Thunder

Ballistictip, good luck to you, I actually do hope it works out between the two of you. I never said you needed to have sex to know someone. I was referring to the OP that said his gf he met online wanted to have sex but he wants to make her wait several years. I foresee trouble in that situation.

That should not have been grouped in the same post as my comment to you. It wouldn’t have taken this thread in the direction it did regarding whether or not sex is important before marriage.

For you, I only wanted to point out saying a person is “the one” after so little time together requires a whole lot of faith. Just be aware how big of a difference it would be going from visiting a person periodically to sharing a bed with them and seeing them in your daily life.

I also didn’t say long distance relationships can’t work. I said they prevent people from spending necessary time together to learn about each other. Adult relationships are those that have to function around daily life such a work or hobbies, not those that function like mini-vacations away from life. That was my point regarding that. And forgive me for assuming that is what yours must be like. That’s just what they typically are.

No, I don’t know anything about you but it should be a consideration for anyone in your situation even if it seems like just (un)friendly advice. But if you feel you can trust each other like you do, then you can make it work.

CroneStranger and Ballistictip, all the best with your relationships, and your PE’ing. I don’t think relationships are black and white, so whatever feels right for you guys!

This explains perfectly what i want to say…

But i respect your decision yet be conscious it might bite you in the ass.

Apologies in advance if this is considered necro-ing a dead thread, and I will gladly comply if the mods take offense, but now that I am active on the site again, I thought I should post here and give everyone an update. (I vanished not long after I posted this thread, got very busy with real life business)

The girl and I aren’t dating anymore, things broke apart in August ‘13. It was all very amicable and we are still great friends, with the possibility of getting back together eventually. When I said before that we were going to wait until marriage before “going all the way”, I was under the impression that we would go up to 3rd base, maybe, then wait until the wedding for a home run. :P However, she was interested in saving everything from heavy petting upwards for after the marriage. There was never an implication on her part that she wanted to have sex right now; she was saying, rather, that when we were married and that we did have sex, she wanted to “practice” with me and work on accommodating herself to my increased size from PE. My reason for waiting was, at the time that I posted this thread, I didn’t think I could get the money together to move out there before two years or so had passed.

Funny enough, I didn’t wait two years to see her after all; I actually moved out to where she lived just around the time that Chard and Frutimax posted on the thread, and around two months later, everything had ended. I am still single, still working on my PE (although a long hiatus has brought me back to where I was when I started, stats-wise), and I feel reasonably confident that things might be patched up and we will get back together. Anyways, just in case anyone was wondering for over a year, that’s what happened. Apologies for not doing this sooner!

I’m curious, what were the reasons for breaking up?

She had been in a 3 year-long relationship which had broken apart shortly before we got together, with her going so far as to move out to where he lived and live with him for a while. She has an autoimmune condition, so her health took a nosedive towards the end of year 2 and she had to move back and carry things on long-distance, but eventually, it was clear that he wasn’t going to take charge and move out to where she lived. After we got together, she was still in grieving for the relationship with the last guy not working out and, anyways, I had a lot of baggage from bad friendships/relationships to sort through on my end; at some point, she felt like she couldn’t handle her baggage, dealing with my baggage, and her health all at once, so she broke up to keep herself from taking another nosedive. Since then, I have sorted through most of my baggage, and she has sorted through a fair deal of hers, although there are other reasons why we haven’t gotten back together yet. Staying hopeful, though, and even she has said that she’s curious to see where things go. :)