Tell Your Son Your Penis Size

My son asked me how big my penis was. He’s almost 14 and starting to realize that some guys are bigger than others. I kind of danced around the question and said “it doesnt’ really matter.” In reality, I think you are much better off with a bigger dick for alot of reasons. I’m sure he’ll ask again. What would any of you say?

Well I would talk with him about it. Maybe he’s very late in puberty and som steroids will fix his unit big?

I regret (not too seriously anymore) that I didnt talk to my parents about this

That’s some dynamic relationship you have with yoour boy……. I almost wish I was close enough to another man at that age to ask that kind of question. I wouldn’t tell him my size. If he is asking questions, maybe its time to introduce him to Thunder’s. Only thing about that is, once you open the flood gates it might be hard for him to focus on much else. Only you know your kid, try to think of what his next step would be regardless of what answer you give him. That should help

My son is 2, but I have already thought about this.

It will depend on his age when/if if asks, how our relationship is at that point. I imagine there will be many times that he will see me naked as if grows up. I am not very bashful around the house. The obvious difference if will notice when if is old enough is that I am circumcised and he is not.

In the end I plan to be as honest as possible with him when we get to that bridge, and if he is old enough, I would probably talk to him about PE.

Let up know how it goes.

I’m only 23 so my curious teenage years aren’t that far behind me. Unless your sons adolescence sprouts a natural gift he will probably have some sort of insecurities about the matter. Maybe look up some articles on the internet and let him read those, personally that might have curbed some insecurities for me. I can’t give sound advice for I don’t have a son(2 year old daughter, totally different scenario) but speaking from my own experience as a kid an article or book on said subject might help.

Also, it sounds like you two have a pretty open relationship you might be in a unique position to give good advice on other things. Either way it’s a sensitive subject.

I’m a father of two males 19 and 22. If they asked me now I would ask why and if they gave me a good reason I would point out TP"S.

If they asked me at a younger age no way. Teens have enough of issues with body image and I would not want to plant a seed of insecurity. Especially when it comes to the penis. Anyway this has been discussed before:

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Bad idea.

Whatever you may think about the issue of size, steroids do not hold the answer.

First of all, they will not grow your cock - even if you’re pubescent. In fact there is evidence to suggest they may do the opposite.

Repeat: bad idea.

To seriously answer this question: be very careful about passing on your own insecurities and issues to your son. Check yourself before you do that.

It’s one thing to talk about this subject frankly (it’s really just a small part of the basic Birds & Bees conversation), and it’s another to put thoughts of inadequacy by comparison into his head before he’s had any chance to develop his own relationship to the wonderful world of sex, independent of you.

Adolescents have enough to deal with without the adults in their lives (who they look up to) loading them down with arbitrary ideas about penis size.

The issue of size has been debated on these boards ad nauseam (what else would you expect, I guess). The one thing that seems indisputable is that size matters most to men. A lot of women don’t care about it as long as it works, and others care about it to some - based largely on their own experiences of the men who are attached to said organ, rather than the organ itself.

For 14 year-olds, the mystery of sex isn’t loaded up with porn-fed fantasy (or at least it shouldn’t be).

Some guys are big, some are small. Some boobs are big, some are small. One way or another people find a way to get naked and have a good time with each other no matter what they’ve got.

The real question is: is your son going to make good choices about who he gets involved with on that level. Is he going to make good choices with girls who will treat him well and who he will treat well.

Sex is about a whole lot more than the parts.

With regard to male competitiveness in the locker room and such, my answer is the same.

The big challenge that adolescence presents to young people emotionally is all about self-acceptance.

Once that is achieved then self-improvement can be grappled with. If that entails Thunder's or the like, fine. But it’s not your job as a parent to give him this kind of ‘help’.

Your job as a parent is to lead him to a healthy self-acceptance; regardless of size.

I wanted to add: if I felt he was very insecure, I would emphasize to my son that his penis is perfectly normal, and might just share with him my pre-enlargment dimensions, since if he’ll inherit anything from me, it would be that, not what I have achieved. I would not want him to have a complex about this. But who knows, he might naturally be bigger than me anyway! Too young to tell.

As others have mentioned, I was never close enough to my dad to talk about these things. I intend to be more available to my son, and I hope the trust will always be there. He’s already watching me “go pee”, which is normal.

Good plan.

Mostly they are.

If there were some exceptionally great disparity I’d talk it over with a health professional before bringing it to my teenager.

The time to learn about size is when the boy is too young to worry about size. Watching your father pee once in a while, while it sounds strange is a good thing and a good time to speak about such things. I would suggest showering occasionally with young sons. If they are young enough,they’ll ask the questions and if they don’t then it’s the father’s role to tell them. We tell or teach our sons everything else, why make them wonder or agonize when they begin to grow. Then at that time they will ask you everything else. It’s a shared privacy that can only take place between father and son, a bonding, a surrender to each other.

Rhadames

I’m 18, and here’s my $.02. Tell him your size, and tell him that as he goes through puberty his penis will grow to probably the same, if not larger. Tell him to keep in shape, eat healthy and practice healthy habits, and take his vitamins and he’ll grow big and strong. Emphasize to him that it does not matter, and that it’s how you use it (furthermore, the way he carries himself - I think this would be a good time to give him a few lessons on picking up girls). For good measure, further emphasize that his penis is still going to continue to grow naturally for a good while (so he doesn’t worry). Just my thoughts of what I would’ve wanted my pop to tell me.

Great post! Very true and wise words.

I agree that this is a good way to motivate them to pursue a healthy lifestyle and living habits. Wadatah pretty much nailed it, I also wish that my father would have taught me to pick up girls, as he was a bit of a player.

I was really insecure about my size. I’m now 21 so my teenage years aren’t that far away in the past. When I found out that there was something I could do to increase my size it gave me confidense. Now I don’t have to have the biggest cock in the world to feel confident.

Therefor I would tell your son about TP. I would also tell him that size doesn’t matter but it will help him to know that he can do something if he wants. Plus like we all know here at Thunders there is a lot more than just ways to increase size.

You don’t see anything contradictory about telling someone “size doesn’t matter” on the one hand and then pointing them to a penis enlargement site with the other?

Talk about your mixed message.

I would not share any information about Thunder's Place until such time as he were an adult asking the question… and even then, it would have to be very carefully handled.

I think a parent offering certain types of guidance is appropriate, but getting too deep into the idea of “picking up girls” is slippery slope.

A big part of adolescence is about discovery; self-discovery. As we move from childhood toward adulthood it is important for us try things out on our own and make our own mistakes - which also means when we have success it is our own. It’s hugely important to our development as adults.

I’d agree with wadatah510 when it comes to teaching the importance of self-confidence, and keeping oneself strong and healthy (basically taking good care of oneself), but I would strongly advise against pointing any child toward PUA literature, or spouting such techniques unless it were balanced against ideas about how to have an honest relationship. A lot of that stuff is really manipulative and superficial; taken too much to heart at an early age and the child would basically learn how to be dick-head player at best. Not a good idea in my opinion.

A bigger question is: how do you teach self-confidence?

In my view, it has to be grounded in real life experience to have credibility, especially for a young person. Merely talking about its importance makes it elusive; a lecture that ends up being all theory.

One simple way toward self-confidence is sports, or any activity that you learn step-by-step and are put to the test on. As we learn we naturally fail until the moment where we “get it” and it begins to turn around for us and we start succeeding; that’s the genesis of self-confidence: the “I did it!” moment.

With regard to relationships, which is what the first exploration into the wonderful world of sex should be about, it should be about having respect for boundaries (both oneself and others). Real golden rule stuff.

As a parent isn’t the goal to teach your kids to be the best people they can be?