Suddenly feeling inadequate

So, I’ve been on this forum for a while now but have never became serious with pe because after joining and learning more I was fairly happy with my size. Now all of a sudden, despite what the numbers say, I feel like I’m way below (wow below does not look right =/) average, especially in girth. Let me explain..

I’ve always been much more concerned with restoring my foreskin than enlargement, so I recently bought a dtr. For anyone who is unfamiliar: DTR main page

On the various forums dedicated to restoration I’ve seen many pictures of guys wearing the dtr, obviously it fits some better than others. And I’ve read a few complaints that the dtr is too big. Well if you explore the dtr website there are tons of images of the inventor showing how to wear it and what not; he looks good sized but not obviously huge, and the dtr is just slightly smaller around than his penis. Well now that I have the thing and I’m using it, either I’m much smaller than I thought, or the vast majority of people I’ve seen wearing it are huge. The push plate and bell that you roll the skin onto is exactly 4.25" around.. I’m no where near that flaccid! My average flaccid is about 5x3.75/4.. The numbers tell me this is good, but in comparison it must be very small.

I know that flaccid size doesn’t necessarily correlate with erect size, and people who look at my photos always think I’m larger than I am, but this has really started to bother me. I think that I look above average because I’m a slender build guy, but in reality I’m average or maybe smaller. Having an object that I can directly compare my size to others seems to completely disprove everything the tape measure tells me.. Since when do tape measures lie?

I don’t know what to do. I’ve casually jelqed and lightly clamped (after several months into this) and have seen zero increase in size. I’m not necessarily looking for advice on how to get larger in this thread.. I’m more interested in what you guys think about how it’s possible that the numbers seem completely wrong.

Imo, for the same reason you see more above average guys posting their stats here, posting their picture on the net, shooting amateur videos, walking naked in the gym-showers etc. With the whole Porn and media brainwash about size, many many people feel various degrees of inadequacy and the last thing they want is to post a picture of their “not huge” dicks.

I guess.. But I’ve seen many pictures of guys who I would not call big at all, yet fit the dtr better than I do. Looking at pics of myself I think “yea I’m much larger than that guy”.. Yet when compared alongside this device it’s like wtf.

I’ll backup what MarkPe said. People who consider themselves big, or bigger than normal, are more likely to post pics online than people who don’t. So comparing your dick to online pics is like comparing your height to basketball players on TV, then moaning that you’re short.

Maybe you should indeed give PE a shot. But careful, because it may just fuel your insecurities. Since you’ve been on this forum for a while, you’ve probably come across guys with large dicks who still have larger insecurities about their size.

So, to get back to the point where you were fairly happy with your size is best. Then, if you do decide to practise PE, you’ll have a healthier mindset, and feel better about your gains. And as you know, it’s can also be good for foreskin restoration.

Oh, to answer the question you asked: The numbers aren’t wrong. They may not be perfectly accurate statistics, but they are just that - statistics. You have an above average flaccid, you didn’t say anything about your EL. But if you suddenly think your flaccid is small, don’t.

Oh, my erect is 7x5.. There are pics in my intro thread, on phone so it’s a pain to link, you can find it under my profile though. I know my length is okay, but this seeming lack of girth is bothering me. Are most guys around 4” flaccid girth?

Hmm.. Occured to me I never put up measured pics, I can if needed.

Dude, I’m about 4.5” girth when erect. You have a decent girth, from what I understand. I’m not telling you that you shouldn’t try to get bigger — that’s up to you.

I don’t think it’s anything for you to feel insecure about though (that’s me speaking from my perspective, though).

Titan,

With the erect length you have you should not be feeling inadequate. Do you see any room in the depths of most pussies? Maybe some work on girth but you’ve got a great package to offer any woman. That my friend is what the penis is made for. Having fun and breeding! 4-3/4” girth -5-1/2” is a good goal range and jelqing will more than likely give you that as long as you have a firm grip on your dick. And to think I worry about getting a new foreskin. Are any of us happy with what we have? :) Good luck and PE safe on your journey! :)

Honestly, I haven’t been with a girl in a long time. :/ It’s not necessarily due to size insecurities, more a matter of avoiding relationships due to an ugly past one. Which I know is not healthy.

I would be thrilled to be able to get to 7.5x5.5.. It’s only a half inch both ways but it seems impossible. When I clamp I never see this expansion that people talk about, it’s just really really hard erection everytime. How hard are you supposed to squeeze when jelqing anyway? Like how small should my “ok” be?

Myself, I do it with the palm out and when I grip the base I adjust to get the blood pushed up the length of the shaft until the end gets hard and will just start to feel some stress in the head. If you start with a semi-rigid shaft then you may only get 1/4 of the way up when it gets really hard. Hold the pressure going up the shaft until the hand is near the crown/glans. Then release and quickly regrip at the base just as you kegle and repeat the motion.

There are some instructions on the site here for newbies. Also remember to not physically hurt your penis but make sure you give that sucker a good workout! Once you get used to the discomfort you will start to actually enjoy and look forward to jelqing. Be patient for gains as it may take a few months before it’s measurable. I first noticed it started to feel heavier and thicker and then measured for gains.

Good luck! And don’t let women fuck with your head! You’ve got a great tool so stand tall & feel good about yourself. Women like the confident male. (Unless they want to run your life in which case it is wise to dump them before you get attached) :)

I’d say the stats are fairly solid. They’re not 100% accurate, but when a size survey takes thousands of people and measures them, it’s not going to be completely wrong. A survey of a million people would obviously be better, but we don’t have any of those available. As for comparing yourself with what you see, you aren’t going to see pics or vids of many people below average because they might be slightly embarrassed, while those who are large feel less inhibited to show themselves off in porn or pictures, talk about it, list their stats etc. Remember that there are billions of guys in the world, so even if you watched every porn and penis video ever, you’d only be seeing a very small sample (like .004%) of the guys in the world.

That said, this is the place where complaints about your penis size can be met with the option to change, so if comparing yourselves to others is going to bother you, step up your game. I know you’re not asking for help, but if months of casual and light work hasn’t shown you any gains in size (I’d venture to say it rarely does), either change up your routine or go at it more aggressively. My guess is you’re too gentle and cautious with your unit. From my own limited experience, I’ve been doing stretches and jelqing two weeks and seen over 1/2” gain in fsl by not being gentle. Many guys here are quick to tell you to be cautious and share horror stories, but I think it’s a judgement call to figure out what you can handle to avoid injury to get gains.
As an aside, why would anyone care about their flacid size? It seems completely irrelevant to me. You’re not going to be having sex with a flacid penis, right? Maybe I just have a different motivation to get bigger than others?

Yea, I am pretty easy on myself when jelqing and clamping. I want to avoid serious injury at all cost, which is probably limiting what I could be gaining. I also have an extremely hard time not going 100% hard when jelqing.. Even if I start at 20% after maybe 5-6 strokes I’m flirting with a raging hardon.. I don’t get much accomplished like that.

The bigger issue for me right now, or at least it seems so to me, is that I could swear I look bigger than the guys I’m talking about (although not the dtr inventor from the website) until I see them with the dtr. Then it seems like they must be way bigger than I was estimating, or I’m way smaller. Have you guys explored the website I linked? Does he look that big and I’m just misjudging?

Wow it’s amazing how quickly threads get lost in the pages.. 4 days and it’s way old, lol.

Ok well I’m over my “little dick freakout”, as I’ll call it.. I think perception is playing a huge role, especially because I’m always impressed when I put the shaving cream bottle next to my dick, yet just my dick alone doesn’t look quite so large.

So I’m starting a more serious routine, every other day jelqing, now with a much tighter grip and slower strokes. We’ll see if this does anything. I do have a concern though; as my dick is now, the head is very large in comparison to the rest of the shaft, especially right below the head. Is there a good way to help focus on shaft girth without making the head more huge than it already is? Anytime I jelq the head swells up like crazy, to be expected, but the shaft doesn’t really look like it expands much.. Anything different I should be doing?

You should be happy with that alone. And then the shaving cream should make you even more happy. So if a thing fits better on one guy than it does on you so what? I rather have that then look at most guys and know they’re bigger than me.

I deal with that because they are bigger than me, so I’d love to have your issue. Enjoy what you got man. Im much smaller and still enjoy it. If that’s the issue buy a different thing that fits better. Thats like being upset because Magnum XXXXXL condoms don’t fit when you can fit nice and snug in a Magnum XL. Enjoy life and your dick. Or enjoy life by letting someone else enjoy your dick.

Thanks hung21.. That’s a nice piece of advice that I really need to follow. I have a bad tendency to compare myself to everyone I see, and I don’t mean dick I mean physique in general.. It’s something I’ve really been working to stop. I guess I should take comfort in knowing that I do fit into a magnum pretty well, lol.

So any advice on shaft girth?

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