I am new to PE and thought that it was a bunch of crap based on the medical reports I have seen. I was quite skeptical of the pay PE sites, and all the spam I get concerning it, but now that I’ve found Thunder’s Place which doesn’t try to sell you anything, and has many success stories which I have been reading, I am willing to give it the good old college try. Let me tell you my story so far.
I’m 47 years old, 5’10”, 185 lbs of Irish and German descent, and in good physical health, although I do suffer from viscous long bouts of depression. I take Wellbutrin for that and it has a modest leveling effect. Unlike Celexa and Prozac, it does not cause me any sexual problems. I was quite athletic when younger but now only take walks and do yard work for exercise. I’ve been happily married for 25 years to the only woman I have ever had sex with. I am also her only lover. We have two great children, ages 17 and 14, and I had a vasectomy about 7 years ago. I have been very self conscious about the size of my penis for as long as I can remember. My important stats are BPEL=14.7 mm, EG=11.0 mm. As you can see, my penis ranks in the lowest 10% or so. My girth is just miserable (4.25 inches). This has caused problems when making love with my wife. For several years she was unable to have an orgasm, even with oral sex. She doesn’t like me to give her oral sex because she thinks it’s dirty. Of course I rationalized the lack of her orgasm in my own mind as due to my small size, and this nagging negative thought has continued till the present day. I’m sure it contributes to my depression. After 5 or 6 years, I purchased a small vibrator for her, and this helped a little. She initially didn’t want to use it, but quickly liked what it was doing. What really helped was a vibrator called Eroscillator 2 which is very quiet but very powerful and has a multitude of attachments. She loves this thing and it’s lasted for years. So our current lovemaking routine (maybe twice a week) involves her using the vibrator while on her back. I help by sucking on her breast and very gently caressing and fingering her pussy. She is able to achieve an orgasm most of the time this way in ten or fifteen minutes. Once that’s out of the way, I get to have my fun. Sometimes she lets me slip into her while lying on my side before she has her orgasm. She can continue to use the vibrator since I’m on my side. I can last for 10 or 15 minutes, sometimes longer, and we can both have an orgasm this way. Certainly I always do, but she bats maybe 0.500. However she has never had an orgasm from me in her without the vibrator going. So my goal is to increase my size so she does. If I could get to average (6.5”x5”), I’d be overjoyed. I’ve got the time to spend PEing. Five days a week during lunch I can be alone for an hour, plus those hot showers several times a week will give me some time. I’ve just started doing the Newbie routine and will give that a go for a month before I start to change things. I’m still not comfortable with jelqing but I think I am doing it correctly. The stretches are pretty straightforward. The videos on the site are really helpful. I’m not going to tell the wife I am doing this so I need to be discreet at home. I would be delighted to receive any suggestions about routines especially to massively increase girth. I would be willing to do the hanging or traction, or other mechanical methods if they would help. However I am starting with the manual methods.
In the meantime, I have just purchased a couple penis extensions/girth enhancers so it will be interesting to see what that does for the wife. I didn’t get anything too big to start (7”x6”). She will probably be reluctant to use them at first, but hopefully will go for it since it’s really just like a condom with some extra meat. (At least that’s how I’m going to sell it to her.) She is dead-set against any dildo. I would be very interested to hear tales from other penis-challenged individuals who’ve tried the extension or girth enhancer route while PEing.
Finally, for those who are interested, my handle “Diatoms” refers to microscopic algae that have hard shells, a reference to my small erection size. I’m very grateful that there is such a forum to discuss one of life’s big issues. I’m looking forward to learning from all of you.
Just trying to become average.... "There is ALWAYS hope" - Aragorn start 11/25/04 BPEL= 14.7 cm (5.78") EG= 11 cm (4.33")