Size Performance

Well, I guess I’m just going to hope for the best. *shrug*

I’m not experienced and don’t really know much about any specific technique or method of reaching certain spots or whatever helps a girl get off. Some of you are saying that you need more technique if you’re big. Maybe I won’t need as much special technique since I’m average? Really don’t know, but I guess I’ll find out.

Hey Travesty. If you can focus your attention on a lady, mentally & physically, you are already ahead of many guys. Don’t worry about specific technique. She will derive immense pleasure from you just because you are focused on her needs.

As far as needing more technique if you’re big, I believe that to be a farce. If anything, I’ve heard you may need more technique if you’re too small. I’m just talking physically, because as I said, the mental is more important. If you’re HUGE, well you don’t need more technique either. It would just be more important that she gets adequately aroused, nice & wet, and proceed slow & cautious so as not to hurt her or cause discomfort.

I also believe that the key to amazing sex, is foreplay. Cuddling, touching, putting your fingers through her hair, kissing her ears and up and down her neck. Rubbing her arms, and the slow curve of her back. All of these things are very sensual to a woman. It’s not about pure animal sex. It’s about getting into her head, and making her feel special. The actual act of penetration comes after she’s so aroused that she’s begging you to put it in. Pay attention to how she responds to what you do. You’ll know, and learn for the next time you’re with her.

Keep the faith my friend. You’ll be great!!!!

Thanks, Charliedog.

What if a girl doesn’t really like foreplay? I know that sounds odd, but what if she just likes kissing and having sex?

Then kiss her and have sex with her!

THIS. All of what Charlie Dog said is true. If you don’t take the time to find out what pleases a woman, big or small your are probably NOT going to be a good lover. When I was 14 I had an older girl teach me all about oral sex. We never had intercourse. I would go down on her, she would tell me what was right and what was wrong. I got really good at it. My wife says if she knew where that person lived today she would send her a Christmas card every year. I also read all I could on intercourse techniques, on how different positions stimulate a woman differently. In 32 years I have had ONE woman claim I was bad in bed and I have had sex with a great number of women. For women sex is FAR more mental than physical. To prove that point, my wife’s ex-boyfriend was very well endowed and she says she came with him less than half a dozen times. He was lazy in bed, wanted to be on his back all the time, and never lasted for more than 5 minutes. I honestly think that many guys born with large dicks think that is all they need and they are the world greatest lover. The brain is the most essential part of sex. Never forget that.

Wow, socrtease. Nice information there…

I would differentiate between technique and skill. If you are below average then all sorts of tricks and specific techniques are available to help make up for that. (I know that some guys won’t like hearing that being small is something to "make up for".) If you are noticeably larger than your partner is used to then having a high level of skill in basic in-out is more important. You need to be spot on to not cause injury, which means you need to be able to read your partner.

Travesty, the guys have been giving you the absolute low down. No matter what your size, the most important thing is being a responsive partner. Once you get inside her head, you are golden.

For you, reading the advise being given, your response may well be: "OK, that is kinda obvious…now tell me the specific techniques!" The thing to keep in mind is that for easily 19 out of 20 guys the advise being given is NOT obvious. A vast majority of men will not only have a hard time understanding the advise you have been given, they will actually fight it! The "kinda obvious" stuff that the guys are sharing with you is advanced theory for most men. It is just that you are a natural, lol.

No joke: your mindset means that, limited experience and all, you will often be giving women better sex than her x-husband did in 8 years of marriage. And doing so the first time you make love to her. It is sad for women, but most guys absolutely suck in bed.

As for specifics? We have a number of advanced, postgraduate, sex techniques threads around. If nobody links to them in a few days I will dig some up.

In the mean time check out the-clitoris.com - This website is for sale! - the clitoris Resources and Information., especially for oral sex and female sexual response.

And Dick Control: A Primer for advanced psychological kookyness about your willy.

Wow, way jealous here!!!!

Yeah, that’s why there are so many “romance” novels. You ever pick one up? It’s pure smut! :)

Thanks a lot for the encouraging words and those web resources, iamaru. I will take a look at those links.

hahahahaha @ giggity…

By the way, that was hilarious, UM1991. hahahahahahahaha

This dick control thing seems interesting. I’ll see if I can incorporate some of this training.

Yeah, Travesty’s question does sound a bit like “What if I’m starving hungry and there’s a delicious oven-fresh pizza on the table in front of me??” :)

Also, kissing IS foreplay. Foreplay is anything that helps get you in the mood - it doesn’t have to be anything as direct as rubbing her clit or going down on her. In fact women often find it a turn-off if you jump straight in at the deep end with that kind of thing without doing less direct stuff first. So foreplay could be kissing, a massage (back, legs, wherever), even just dirty talking.

hahahaha

Okay, okay, I get it…I’m trying to stop worrying.

And this will be like having a delicious oven-fresh pizza topped with extra cheese, pepperoni, bacon, mushrooms, pineapple, chicken, tomato slices, and spinach right in front of you.

Gotta put some olives on there also. :)

You are correct, sir. I forgot the olives.