Size perception: It's role in your goal.
There is A LOT of misinformation in the world about the size of your penis and its’ importance in your sex life. I haven’t written a thread here in a long time, but I’ve been paying attention over the last few years and thought a perspective thread may be in order. I haven’t searched the topic recently, so I apologize if there are similar threads out there at the moment. My goal is this thread is to tackle some of the basic issues concerning penis size and your perception of it. My hope is that it will provide you with a better baseline of comparison as you endeavor to make your penis bigger and give you some perspective as you gain or compare yourself to other sources. I’ll start with the basics and move on from there.
According to recent studies, the average BPEL of a man’s penis is about 5.16” Note that the measurement is in fact bone pressed. Like myself, many of you have probably seen that number and thought “Wait, really? Bone pressed?!” Others among you may have thought, “Wait, that’s what I am. You mean to tell me I’m average? I’ve always thought I was small!” Still others may see that number and think, “If only…, I wish I was that big…”. Regardless of your length, there are many people who look at that number and think “Something is wrong here. The BPEL is 5.16”? That seems way shorter than it should be. I’m sure that average is much higher than that!” The average girth is in the area of 4.5”, maybe a little bigger. Therein lies the reason I’m writing this. We have become so inundated with misinformation that when presented with scientific studies using repeatable methods, we actually think THEY are lying rather than the people on the internet.
I’m pushing 40 now, so my personal experiences may be outdated. As a kid, I remember talking to friends who invariably said that the average penis was 6” long. The basis of our estimation? Some random person who may or may not have some idea based on whatever they may have heard from who knows who else. I literally have no idea where that number came from. It’s not like it’s discussed in sex ed classes. But I would venture a guess that your experience growing up was similar. “Here’s a number, run with it.” How do you measure that number? Bottom, side, top? What if you have a curve, upward or downward or to the side?” Should you measure the shorter/longer curve along the top/bottom? It’s not exactly the conversation my dad had in mind when he interrupted my game of NBA ‘93 on the Sega Genesis, and probably not the conversation anyone talking to you thought about either. So when it comes to length the accepted measurement is along the top, bone pressed, penis held straight out from the body 90 degrees. When I say “bone pressed” I don’t mean “push the ruler in a little”. I mean jam it in. Push it as far in as it will go. You’re not cheating, you’re not lying. You are measuring your penis in a method that is repeatable to yourself every time you measure and comparable to other men who use the same measurement method. If you’re in shape and have little body fat, you might only get an extra 1/4” to 1/2” in length. I’m out of shape. When I bone press I gain nearly 1” to 1.5”. It’s not because my penis changed lengths, it’s because I’ve spent too much time playing World of Warcraft and sitting at a desk job all day instead of exercising.That inaccuracy in the ability to convey an average has contributed every bit as much to misunderstanding as the next topic which is…
Porn is an awesome fantasy playground. An awesome. FANTASY. Playground. But for many of us, it’s also the sole reference point we have for sexual activity. Let’s be honest, how many of you have encountered a sexual problem and thought “Hey, I should totally ask dad about this!”? How many of you have sat in a locker room and compared your erect penis to those of other men? How often have you had a single frame of reference for the size of your penis outside of those you see on the internet? I’m sure many of you have, but most of you haven’t. I can count on one finger the amount of adult erect penises I’ve seen in real life. Mine. That means the ONLY reference I have is the penises I’ve seen in porn. About that….
Porn is designed to be a fantasy and play to your desires. It isn’t a representation of reality. When it comes to penis size there are multiple reasons that porn uses men with larger penises. First, there’s a cultural perception that bigger is better. That’s why we’re all here. We want to be bigger. We hope that it will give us more confidence, satisfy our partners more, or at least take us out of the range of “small”. I’m not trying to dissuade you from that, but you should consider the reference point. That leads to my second point. Men in porn ARE bigger. That’s why they’re in porn. And porn uses a variety of tricks to make those large men look even larger. A 7” penis on a 5’6” man looks longer than the same length on a 6’2” man. A 7” penis in the hand of a 5’1”, 90lb woman looks bigger than the same penis in the hand of a woman who is 5’9” and 170lbs. Guess which woman you’re more likely to see in porn.
But you may say, “what about all of the amateur pics I see? it seems like every amateur picture out there is some young ripped guy with a giant cock!” If you were young, ripped, and had a giant cock, you’d probably throw up some pics on the internet too. But you aren’t, so you don’t. That is exactly the reason why it seems like every amateur pic you see is some ripped dude with a huge wang. It goes back to the perception that bigger is better. Guys with big dicks are more likely to post them on the internet, making it more likely that you are probably going to see bigger dicks. In reality, you’re seeing a disproportionate amount of large men on the internet in comparison to reality. If you want to see small or average penises, you have to actively search them out. Otherwise, you’re left comparing yourself to the onslaught of bigger guys who parade their shit around.
Imagine being yourself, however tall you are, but the only frame of reference for height you were given was players in the NBA. Sure you might be similar in height to a few, but most of the time you’d be saying “WTF these guys are all huge!” That’s what it’s like comparing yourself to porn. If you want a fun homework assignment, google “greg oden penis”. You’ll probably be able to find some pics of the dude with his wang out and a lot of unimpressed comments. Consider that he’s 7’ tall and 273lbs, then consider the “background effect”.
I could write more on this topic, and I probably will, but I’ve been at it for awhile now so I’ll stop and post. I still plan on relating everything back to your goals in PE, so try to reserve your harshest criticisms until I can finish my thoughts.
Thanks for reading.