Significant other's response to newbie gains

My girlfriend was overseas last year and we went about 9 months without seeing each other. I gained about 1/2” in length during that time. She doesn’t seem to have noticed (or at least hasn’t commented) but our sex life has improved.

That’s what I’d like to hear :D . Way to go dude!! ;)

Ironhammer

LOL. There’s a tell tale sign :D . Good job oneredone1 :) .

Ironhammer

I said nothing until I started hitting bottom firmly enough that I had to go slow at for the first minute or two for her to stretch out.

Then I said I had been doing exercises that made it larger.

You mentioned in another thread that you were contemplating future length versus girth gains. How does your gf feel about you bottoming out, or do you not bottom out if she’s been warmed up enough?

Damn dude, I can’t wait to bottom out. That will be a good day. The only time I’ve bottomed out is when I had my fist in some loose slut. I swear I could get my whole hand in there. What a dirty girl.

I got a different perspective from my girlfriend (and soon to be wife).

I remember we got into a conversation discussing vagina and penis size some time ago (can’t remember why) and asked her how big the biggest penis was that she’d ever had (not always a good idea guys ;-) ). She told me how, years ago, she’d met this young guy who had an absolutely exceptionally massive penis (from what I gather she could not get her fingers more than half way round his shaft and very long to boot). He’d told her that up to then he hadn’t been able to actually have penetrative sex with a woman. Well, it turned her on, a lot, and it hurt, a lot, and she came, a lot. The next day she had to visit the doctor. She only had sex with him once.

Although I’m 40 I immediately went into adolescent mode and was surprised at how jealous I was of that young guy’s member. Both my partner and I enjoy very satisfying sex, she often has multiple orgasms and we love one another. But I couldn’t get the thought of that guy’s giant penis out of my mind. So I started looking around and eventually found Thunder’s. The light went on for me and I started to PE on the 7th June this year. I tend to become obsessed with reaching my goals so the first thing that my girlfriend actually noticed was that I seemed to have a lot more on my mind.

To cut a long story short I explained I was terribly envious of that guy who’d been able to pleasure her so much (notice how conveniently I ignored the fact that she had to go to the doctor afterwards) and was doing penis enlargement exercises. She looked at me disbelievingly and told me in no uncertain terms that a penis that large was not something a girl would stay around long for. She told me she loved me as I am, exactly as I am and questioned my motives.

What follows paraphrases our discussion:

- “How would you feel if I just decided, without even discussing it with you, that I was going to get my breasts enlarged? Because I was jealous of an ex-girlfriend of yours, or just for the hell of it? Or is this a sign that we have a problem? That something in our relationship is lacking for you?”

- “You look great”, I answered. “I love you just as you are. I’m proud that you will soon be my wife and I want to share my life with you. There is nothing lacking for me in our relationship. If you absolutely wanted to do it then it would be for yourself. I’d probably remind you of the possible pitfalls of breast enlargement. I’d ask myself why. I’d support you though, if that’s what you really wanted.”

- “That’s how this makes me feel”, she answered. “You don’t need to do it - I don’t want you to do it. I want to have sex with you and not worry about you being injured or changing. I wouldn’t live with you and certainly wouldn’t marry you if I didn’t love *everything* about you. I want you to be able to focus on our life together and our plans. If you really want to do it then I’ll support you - but be careful. Don’t obsess with it. And as far as I’m concerned you’re great as you are and you turn me on.”

So I guess I have a new hobby and my wife is okay with it. But easy does it. Bigger is not always better. Food for thought ;-) .

PE does more than just make your cock bigger though. You get more frequent and harder erections. I’m experiencing better penis health because of it. Let’s just say that my sex life has gone from a 6 to a 9 out of 10 in a matter of weeks and it’s not because of my minimal gains. It’s because of my harder erections. I don’t say 10 because I’m leaving that for when my cock is the size that i want and feel very confident with it. You should keep doing the PE for the sake of your own piece of mind.

I don’t think doing PE is anywhere close to getting breast implants. Implants on a woman is a drastic surgical procedure that can’t be reversed with much ease. PE is basically exercising your unit with results showing over a long period of time. It’s like going to the gym to workout to get your body into better shape. Would she be opposed to you going to the gym to exercise? I would think not and I think that’s the type of attitude that she should take towards PE.

Except that she is on the receiving end of the penis. It’s part of her pleasure and her intimate experience. She’s decided to marry the guy for who he is. Now he’s gone and started changing that. She may not like the person he becomes as well as the person she had.

She also may be upset about his priorities. From her point of view, the sex is fine (“good enough,” to quote someone near and dear). She’s thinking about building a life together. But he’s still fixed on his dick. Since she’s said his dick is fine for her, she can only conclude that his head isn’t in the marriage the same way hers is. Maybe he wants someone else? Who’s he trying to impress?

I can understand all of those feelings that she could have. But when you get married, you better realize that people will change. She shouldn’t expect that he is a perfect man the way he is and he will never change. Guess what he’s going to change and so is she. She has to realize that he may have some insecurities that he’s bringing to the marriage and that having insecurities isn’t the end of the world. Everybody has them - that’s just the human condition. She should be supportive with his insecurities and not knock him by saying she wouldn’t just get breast implants on a whim without consulting him. I just find her feelings about the whole thing to be a little insecure on her part if she thinks he’s trying to impress someone else. It seems he’s doing it for his own piece of mind and for her eventual pleasure. I don’t see anything wrong with that and he has to communicate his intentions with her. I think that’s the most important thing. Once she realizes his intentions, she’ll feel better about it I think.

Dawnsong, if it caused her pain, why would you want to gain something that big to hurt her?

well im not super big by any means. I’m about 7.25x5.5. When I started having sex with my girlfriend i had about 6.75x5. She was a virgin, and had never really seen a dick in real life so of course she though it was big. But I felt as if I couldn’t really make her cum the way i wanted to so I started PE again. She could tell the difference right away. Just the other day she told me that i need to stop because it was starting to hurt. Oh Well.

Well***

Sorry

Right now I bottom out by between 1/8” and 1/4” when I’m at max excitement/length.
She is reacting very positively to the light bottoming out.
I do not want to become too big- i know there is “one time” size and then there is “everytime” size.
I’d prefer to be big, filling, but not too big.
However, I will see how it works out with her. If I get to 7.25” and it’s the same- then I assume I’ll have a little leeway to still bottom out when I’m not perfectly excited. I know some women really prefer 8”. I don’t know too many that like bigger other than as a one time experience. Really only “size queens”.

Worst case (no more gains) 7” is a solid size that I’m comfortable with given my body size. It looks “right” on me now instead of “small”.

I don’t :-) But I’m aiming for 8x6/8.6.5. And it’s mostly insecurity on my part - Modestoman nailed it pretty well I thought: my significant other’s reaction was mostly to what my priorities were - and are valid to a point. Always good to keep other perspectives in mind.