Originally Posted by JuanHungLo
Are you a psychologist? Or are you living the same hell lol. I do listen to these thoughts in my head. Most of them are sensible and I try to make sure that I’m completely honest with myself.
I guess my greatest fear is being blind to what is going on around me. The problem is my paranoia has actually led me to find out about women cheating on me enough times to make me really wonder. So is it worse to be miserable because of paranoia or run around being confident and secure but blind to the signs that she’s cheating then being blindsided when she leaves or you accidentally find out about it? Every woman I’ve had a serious relationship with has cheated on me and that has led me to believe women are always searching for something better, whether it be in the sack or just in general. I don’t want to be the blind trusting fool but I don’t want to be the paranoid cell phone checker either. Juan out.
The secret is taking good care of yourself emotionally, spiritually and physically. You can’t count on someone else to make your life happy. That’s called a codependent relationship , it’s a recipe for disaster and leads to all kinds of manipulation, passive–aggressive behavior etc.
Do you love yourself? Do you suffer low self esteem? Do you think most of your happiness depends on external factors? Do you feel not in control?
That shit right there is very likely the reason you are the weak link in your relationships. Women’s subconscious picks up this stuff like a sponge, that’s how their brain is hardwired. Many women begin a relationship with all the best intentions but if they smell this shit, their survival instinct goes banana and they often don’t even realize why they feel this urge to cheat.
If you don’t love/accept yourself how do you expect someone else to do it for you? Your mum is not around anymore, unconditional love except from your parents in fact is just MEGABULLSHIT good for Disneyland!
People who are happy with themselves don’t feel threatened by external factors, because they don’t need them to be complete, and this is what actually attracts women, friends , good relationships. Shit happens to them too of course, positive thinking is not a shield..lol
Im 43 and I’m still working on it, it’s not easy so don’t be too hard on yourself but start doing something NOW!