Scared of approaching women because of my small penis.

Size doesn’t matter, even though we’re on this forum hehe.

There has been a lot of fantastic information on this thread. I have felt the same way as the op at times and this thread made me feel better too. Just gotta keep on trucking brother, If you were a professional athlete you would strive to be the best you could be, which would involve strengthening weak points. Do the same thing with PE and you should be golden.

I TOTALLY agree.

If you are confident good things automatically happen to you, including getting laid. If you’re low on self esteem because of your dick, read up on eating pussy or how to satisfy women in other ways using you hands and every other part of your body.

If you aren’t confident, act like you are, and work on your confidence. With training you can learn to be confident, just as you can learn anything else. The best thing for you to do is to use cognitive therapy on yourself and just subject yourself to all things you are afraid of. This will make you a better and braver person. It worked for me, it can work for you too :) . And while you’re working on all these things, including getting laid in the process, just keep working your dick with PE.

Remember; when approaching a woman you have nothing to lose, if she rejects you don’t take it personal. Since she doesn’t know you, she has no special facts to base the rejection on, right? Just move on to the next.

Stay confident and good luck!

I don’t want to steal his thread but I as well am very bad at approaching women but not because of my penis size but because I just don’t know what to say or how to say it. I’m a very good conversationalist when I’m approached with conversation but starting one with a random woman I seem to not have the confidence or just freeze up when talking and ramble as oppose to making a natural transition of meeting someone new. I also feel as if the woman is waiting for me to ask her out or for her number when I start talking which give me the impression my conversation seems force which I think makes it uncomfortable. Right now there are a couple women at my job that I’m interested in approaching, I see them every day but have never said anything to them unless they said something so basically what I’m asking is does anyone have any advice to help me in this situation or in any situation with breaking the ice.

Spaces do wonders to break things up in posts. Like separating a couple sentences or paragraphs. Makes it easier to read and comprehend. You can translate that to the real world when starting a conversation.

Take it easy, breathe, relax and gather your thoughts.

One thing I would do, only because I am a bit of a joker; while carrying a cup of ice, walk by the girl’s desk and drop a couple of ice cubes on the floor and say, “oops, I broke the ice.” Look in her in the eye and smile like a puppy as you kneel down to clean up. Hopefully she will laugh and join you down there….

Just a thought or two.

Jett_J I’d go into it at first with the idea that you actually just want to be friends with them. Get to know them a little and then you’ll get the clues about whether or not you really have a chance plus you’ll know a little more about how to have a conversation with them so you won’t freeze up or ramble as much. Unless she’s the office slut you’ll probably never be 100% sure so that’s where you have to face the music and literally go for it. Getting turned down is hard but you’ll forget about it in a day or two. Never trying will stick with you for a lot longer.

Really just try and meet a lot of them just as friends. A lot of girls actually like the insecure type and are willing to make the first move. So if you meet enough of them, your sure to find one, or her find you.

Although, it is hard for alot of people (including myself) to put themselves in your shoes, I think I can say this.

1.) There are people that are smaller still getting laid, and often. I have read anecdotes on here about it, and other places.

2.) I have heard of people with 8 NBP inches plus and over 6 in girth get called small at some point, and they are in the upper 0.5% or even less of society. So, it’s really not something you can run from, but if a girl cares about you she will never make you feel that way. If she gets pissed at you for whatever reason or is just immature, it won’t matter when you meet that 7BP mark, or even if you far exceed (as elmm said) girls will just do it to bring you down, I’ve thought about calling an anorexic girl who pissed me off fat once, because I knew it would hurt her, it’s the same deal.

3.) The important thing, and something I often lack is patience and faith. Sometimes I go on streaks measuring every day and get so frustrated. Learn to be disciplined, when I began PE, I thought there was no way it was even possible. You will see gains over time if you keep with a routine. Much like Andy in shawshank redemption, you may have to go through a mile of shit, but on the other end you will feel much more confident, so long as you never let PE/your penis take control of your life.

I don’t doubt that it is completely possible for you to be one of the big boys some day, and it would not surprise me one bit if you exceeded the average (6 BP) after a year. In fact, if you are extremely dedicated, It wouldn’t be a shock if you were 6.5-7 by June 2010.

Best of luck!

Thanks guys I appreciate the advice, I suppose I just have to approach them as a friend first and put myself out there a little since like anything else practice is the only way I can get better and more confident.

Why don’t you break it down into steps? First, just focus on becoming good at meeting women and starting up conversations without the pressure of trying to ask them out or figuring out if they’re into you (which may cause you to revert back to your usual awkwardness). After you have built up confidence doing that, then move on practicing further skills like flirting, asking out, etc.

Social skills and self confidence are much, much more important than dick size when it comes to impressing women and having them want to sleep with you. It only takes one or two good experiences with women before you realize how relatively inconsequential penis size is. This was the most shocking thing to me once I started having sex—my dick size didn’t seem to matter that much.

Of course, there are some women who seem to be focused on dick size. My advice to you is to avoid them. The vast, overwhelming majority of women don’t care about it very much at all. In fact, the few studies I’ve seen show that, although women show a preference for medium-large penises in general, they would much rather be with a guy with good oral sex skills than with a guy with even a perfect dick.

I don’t usually recommend that guys who are worried about their size watch porn, but there’s some porn, particularly some coming out of Asia, where the guys have small to very small penises. It’s interesting to see that they can do most of the same moves that the big guys can, and the girls seem to be enjoying it just as much. It’s also instructive to see some of the big guys who are clearly too big. They never get full penetration and it looks like they’re having sex by remote control. Receiving oral sex for these guys is virtually impossible. I find myself feeling a little sorry for them. They can’t get a decent blow job!

But at your size, you certainly can! And it could be fun for a woman to really be able to please you that way! At your size, anal sex could certainly be on the menu too, if you’re interested in that. Lots of the big guys are simply too big for anal.

Every size comes with its own set of pros and cons. With your size, you can put it in any hole you want, and it will fit. You’re still big enough to hit a woman’s G-spot, so women who are capable of coming vaginally can come with you. And there’s always oral sex, which almost all women prefer over fucking anyway. If you get good at that, you’ll be a champ in bed and no one will ever utter a harsh word about you.

Sex is 20% dick and 80% fore play? Go buy some books and study up on the best test you will ever take.

Dude.

Don’t worry man, 4.5 inches isn’t that small.

Think about it, you have a penis that can get hard, 4.5 inches inside a woman can drive them wild.

I’m sure you know how to use it right?

All you got to do is get all sexy with a lady, IF you are insecure about it just make sure you give it to her with the lights off, or just make sure you do a lot of oral on her and then quickly climb ontop and give it to her, my advice would be ram it all home quick, and the initial shock of the penis could trick her into thinking she’s got at least 5.5 in there.

This is the 17ml theory anyway, when making love to a chick, if you ram the meat fully home on the first go ( as long as there is lubrication) she will scream out and remain sore ( a nice kind of sore) throughout the whole sex.

Thus, thinking she’s been banged by an 8”, she might think someone invited shorty mac to the party.

See my friend when you look at what you got and not at what your missing, things can seem kind of bright.

Good luck, and remember ram it in my son.

PS, send me pictures of you doing it.

( Joke)

Master the art of cunnilingus my friend. You can NEVER go wrong with that.

Most of the girls I have been with were fine with my size, but I have had a few mention that they’ve had much much bigger, and somehow I let that get to me. And because of that one girl making that comment, I felt like I was inadequate.so I did my homework and a lot of experimentation in the bedroom in eating pussy. And don’t think you’re just gonna get away with using the tongue. Clit sucking, using one or many fingers, milking her gspot, and finding all the “special” places inside of her with your fingers will be the best bet if you feel your size is inadequate.

To this day my wife tells me that if she could insure my tongue, fingers, and dick, she’d do it in a heartbeat.and for a joke, when we hit up AAA for a quote on insurance, I just had to ask our agent if that was possible. Never saw her blush that much :)

Meanwhile, stay the course on an uber PE routine and see how you do.

A lot of people here mention performing oral on women. This is a fine suggestion on girlfriends or girls that you know are clean, but what about one night stands, or girls that you are not sure about? Are you guys not scared of getting STDs? I guess I’m not sure what the exact risk of getting STDs from performing oral is, and websites seem to show rates that are all over the place. Does anybody have an idea or have a website that has true objective risk rates?

It’s all in your head dude. We have members on here (not mentioning names) who are as big as 8.75 x 6.5 or something ridiculous who think they are “not big enough.” Learn to enjoy life. While it’s easier for bigger members to say this, it will be your truth if you allow it. Good luck brother.