Quitting porn same as edging?

Sorry if the title is a bit confusing. I’ve been off porn for almost six months and feel great mentally and physically as a result. But one issue that has just recently surfaced is some loss of sensitivity. It’s not a real loss of sensitivity but that I need extra motivation to cum.

Before quitting porn I was hypersensitive; I could jerk off without using any lotion and with slight rubbing. Now, even when getting a handjob I still need to be kissing her to get off. As a result, I couldn’t cum at all from BJ! That was such a surprise to me to be honest. Even though the girl wasn’t all that good at it :)

Now, I’m making this thread really to find out if I should consider this a blessing or be worried about it. The thing that worries me a bit is that I couldn’t even get as hard as I used to when trying to jerk off. Could it be that the porn fantasies I had in my head are wiped from memory?

Are you asking if its ok to edge and is it the same as porn?

If thats your question, no edging isn’t the same as porn, unless you are edging TO porn.

There may be other parameters causing loss of sensitivity other than your cessation of watching porn over the last 6 months. You might think of other investigations like pulling your dick differently or wrongly, taking perscription drugs that are adverse or even some supplements or the lack of them that you used to take. Many report an increase in sensitivety after quitting porn. That is what is usual.

Supplements you might try are: Ginko biloba, for nerve mylar and circulation; Lecithin for nerve and jism health; Biorutin for cappilary repair. and of course a general inclusive vitamin daily.

P.S: The phantasy scenarios I conjure up by myself are ever so much stimulating and fetching than the typical porn themes and scenes that are usually just so much flopping breasts and speedy thrusting penises. But that’s just me.

sparkyx I’m asking if quitting porn leads to loss of sensitivity. Before porn I used to cum within 10 seconds when jerking off; now, the girl who was giving me a BJ was complaining of jaw pain it took so long.

Maybe what I’m asking is too complicated for just one thread because I’ve been thinking about it for quite a while. Me being a rookie on matters of sex, I have nothing to go on. Let me try to ask in a different way.

* When you guys last in bed is it a result of having less sensitivity or your brain disregarding the feeling?
* Is it possible to get this ability from mostly quitting porn with negligible amount of edging?
* Is it normal to not be comfortable with a girl after a long time being without a girlfriend?

I might have other questions but can’t remember them just now :(

That sounds cool :D
But in my case, I went from one extreme to another over a period of 3 months or so. I was a premature ejaculator before and now I can’t cum without kissing or other stimulation. I wonder if this how everybody is and that I shouldn’t worry about it.

Interesting question. I find that usually laying off jerking off and porn makes you MORE sensitive, generally. I think that you may have a bit of performance anxiety kicking in, not reduced sensitivity due to laying off porn.

IF for some weird reason you become less sensitive when you don’t jerk off, you can just jelque or pump without porn for EQ primarily and that should take its place nicely and also increase your EQ. Also, you could edge without porn also, if needed.

This is a thread I wrote on performance anxiety;

Psychogenic Impotence or Performance Anxiety

Give it a read and see if you think thats whats happening. IF it is, then its because of really HIGH EQ from laying off porn and jerking off, that it just manifests as loss of sensitivity rather than out and out impotence. Just my thoughts on it.

Thank you so much sparkyx! That has eased my mind a bit. That reminded me that I’ve been doing a length only routine when this issue first showed up. I was fine (morning wood, erections all times of the day over the littlest things) before when I was doing stretches and jelqs together. It was all after I decided that if I didn’t jelq at all I might get length gains faster. I’ve still got very little libido and can’t achieve 90% erection.

Thanks for the advice.

Bruna:

In post #3 above, I allude to “pulling your dick wrong” and now in post # 8 you do declare that your length only regimen of exercises marked the beginning of your loss of sensitivity. That effect has been manifested in lots of guys including myself—stretching, hard, in a way that is damaging, with possible microtears, the nerve mylars and nerve themselves in the glans-corona area. After taking Sparkyx’s test run on psychogenic disorder, and if finding it not applicable, maybe you should consider it physiological and change your routine accordingly. One negative thing about manual stretching is that there is little control and self control as to how hard you are pulling and also where on the penis you are gripping. These are two negatives that are brought under control with hanging. The exact pulling weight is known and the grip is perscribed and always, safely, in the correct spot.

Is there a section about edging, honestly, the search engine for this website is awful and often leads me to threads that are not what I’m looking for, should probably start doing advanced searches.

TopsyS: Scroll up to “Edging 101”, today’s frequent threads.

TopsyS: Scroll up to “Edging 101”, today’s active threads.

Were you having sex when you were watching porn? Could you cum quickly from sex/bj’s then?

Sounds like you’ve never had sex, watched a lot of porn, quit the porn, & now that you can’t cum with a woman you think a lack of porn has made you less sensitive.

If that’s the case it’s not stopping the porn that’s doing it. It’s just a lack of experience from how a women feels & too much jerking off before that so now you can only cum quickly from your own hand

I have to say you are somewhat correct with your analysis Yataghan. But I did mention that I can cum when motivated with kissing or any other * so it might be part my brain. The thing with the BJ is that sadly she cant be kissing me while shes doing that :) I’m now trying to incorporate back jelqing with the stretching to fix the EQ and eliminate that as a possibility. I just wonder if I somehow acquired too much control and should be happy about it; but I’m just unsure about everything to rejoice at the moment

Yeah, that makes sense. I’d say though since you’re used to jerking off the closest thing to that is a handjob, so that’s the most likely thing to make you cum when with a woman. Kissing probably gives you extra relaxation & intimacy making it easier. Do you think kissing is the key thing, or just that it’s her hand? Can you ejaculate while kissing & having sex? If you haven’t had sex yet or just have a few times & didn’t cum it will just be a matter if practice. I was the same as you, I could never cum. Now I can, but first of all it took a lot of practice. Then, once I’d finally figured it out, I found it was much easier when not watching porn, or better yet not masturbating at all.

When I was watching a lot of porn & didn’t have much experience I’d enter a woman & feel nothing much at all. I’d be hard, but didn’t feel close to orgasm at all. It felt dull. Sometimes I’d eventually will myself to an orgasm, but the pleasure really only lasted for that split second & it was an effort to get there.

Now, I find that when entering I can quite quickly bring myself to the edge of orgasm, & at this point sex is very very pleasureable- each stroke feels awesome & like I could cum from it. Now I ride that feeling for as long as I can, like edging, & it’s great, & the pleasure lasts for however many strokes I make rather than a few seconds. it’s made such a big difference to how much I enjoy sex.