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Pumping Gains And Hetero Sex Intercourse Act Duration

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Pumping Gains And Hetero Sex Intercourse Act Duration

I’m getting kinda worried about my pumping gains because I’m having problems with how long I last until I have my climax moment and then I’m done for the night. For hours after I pump, I’m like a hair trigger and can only last 20-30 seconds inside before I have to finish. Before pumping, I can last a good 60-70 seconds more.

A friend recommended using toothpaste as a lube. Aquafresh to be specific. He said he found out about this in Holland where the stripes of the toothpaste resemble the national flag.

My wife has been getting on my case about this. She loopooovvvveesss the sick gains in girth, but is very frustrated that I finish so quickly.

Any try the toothpaste?

I hope your not serious. Do you have an idea how bad that would be for your wife? Terrible idea don’t do this to that poor girl.

Toothpaste promoting girth gains? Or is it delaying ejaculation?

Originally Posted by Golfclub
Toothpaste promoting girth gains? Or is it delaying ejaculation?

Delaying tactic.

I think the mild abrasive and spearmint oil is to dull the nerve endings a touch.

Don’t put chemicals on your cock and in your wife’s vagina.

Why don’t you start an edging program? Once you can go twenty or thirty minutes by yourself you can go as long as you want w your wife.

Edging 101

Originally Posted by sta-kool
Don’t put chemicals on your cock and in your wife’s vagina.

Why don’t you start an edging program? Once you can go twenty or thirty minutes by yourself you can go as long as you want w your wife.

Edging 101


That would be a good choice in my opinion. It won’t work overnight but it will help eventually.

Originally Posted by kingscounty
That would be a good choice in my opinion. It won’t work overnight but it will help eventually.

Agreed it is a real solution. I don’t like the idea of killing pleasure with a chemical “deadening agent”

Dave11686, Here’s a more detailed description of the “program” I used to learned to edge:

Here are the basics:

— Use a good lube.

— Try to masturbate for 30 minutes without ejaculating. Focus totally on the sensation.

— During that period try to come close to ejaculating 4 or 5 times or more, but either stop stimulating yourself or change the stimulation so that you don’t ejaculate

(at some point you will figure out how to keep yourself on that “edge” before ejaculating — the feeling that you are just about to blow your load. Basically you will be able to prolong that from the usual couple seconds to as long as you want to)

— At the end of the thirty minutes KNOCK YOURSELF OUT! or just stop and let your erection subside.

— Don’t feel bad if you make a “mistake” and come before you have hit your time goal. Just enjoy the orgasm and better luck next time. It is all a learning experience.

It really is fun when you can prolong those feelings you get when you are just about to blow right before you actually have an orgasm. (technically called the “emission phase”) That usually lasts only a couple three seconds. If I can do a good job I can hold on to that sensation for a long time. It is a crazy feeling.

The best way to figure out edging is to focus totally on your body’s sensation. NO PORN, for example, it will distract you. If you want to watch porn to help get hard, go ahead. But turn the porn off once you have an erection.

There used to be a great website with GREAT instructions on how to learn to edge, but it is gone. I know I posted a chunk of it on thunders’ someplace. Will find it and post the link to that post.

Oh here you go, a little more elaborate explanation from that dead website

The site was https://www.orgasmicedging.com

There is a long section that explains the ejaculation process, I am skipping that because you can probably google that up. Here are the instructions the author gives:

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HOW TO EDGE

Since emission and ejaculation are two distinctive processes inside the male body, they can be separated with the edging technique. This enables men to have several (half) orgasms on a row without entering the PERT phase. Separating both requires some practice, but most of all a lot of discipline.

When emission starts, our body wants us to continue stimulation for a few more seconds in order to start the ejaculation trigger.

You’ll need to have the power to say ‘no’ to your own pleasurable feelings, which is not easy at all in the beginning. Most men automatically ejaculate after emission, simply because they don’t have the power to stop stimulation since it feels too good.

Edging is not difficult at all once you know what the emission phase feels like. Some men can feel the tickling sensation of the fluids moving from the ampulla’s and the seminal vesicles towards the prostate. All men, however, feel that their pelvic muscle (the so-called ‘pee muscle’) contracts during the emission phase. This feels like you need to go to the toilet, but you squeeze your muscles and try not to pee. The muscle is contracted, and pulled upwards. Try to stop peeing when you’re going to the toilet, and you’ll feel the muscle that comes into play. When this muscle contracts, emission begins. This is the key moment in edging. As soon as you feel this muscle clamping down, immediately stop all stimulation. If you were touching your penis, pull away your hands, if you were stimulating your nipples or other body parts, stop doing so. Timing is crucial. If stimulation goes on a second too long, ejaculation will occur.

What you need to do now is to release the tension of the pelvic muscle. Instead of pulling the muscle up as if you are trying to stop peeing, push the muscle down, like when you’re farting or making bowel movements. Try this out first a couple of times without masturbating, while sitting on a chair for instance. The switch has to be done as soon as you feel the muscle tensing.

Remember it won’t be easy; your body will tell you to continue stimulation and will try to contract and pull up your pelvic muscle. You’ll need to do the opposite: stop stimulation and push out. Continue pushing till you feel the orgasm fade away. This will take about three to five seconds. Don’t stop pushing before the feeling you’re going to ejaculate subsides. Don’t
worry if it doesn’t work the first time, just keep on practicing.

Sometimes your muscles in your abdomen will contract once or twice, which may feel like ejaculation is going to start, but eventually these contractions will stop. While you’re edging, small or large amounts of fluid may run out of your penis. If the fluid is clear and sticky, it’s most probably produced by the Cowper’s glands. If the fluid looks like egg white, it’s accumulated sperm that’s being pushed out.

If you successfully performed the edging technique, you will have felt the beginning of an orgasm, but a full ejaculation did not occur and your penis will stay erect for a while. At this point, you’ll feel a slight pressure inside your abdomen, caused by the sperm ready to be released. This feels like you have to pee, but you can’t. Some men report this as a frustrating feeling, which can last for a day if at the end of a session no full orgasm occurs.

After waiting a short while, you can continue to stimulate your penis. Your might have lost your erection in the mean while, which is normal. The goal is to start masturbating again and to go for a new half orgasm, repeating this process as often as you wish. During every emission phase, more fluid will accumulate inside your prostate. Pressure inside will build up and once you decide to let yourself ejaculate, the force and the amount of semen will be enormous.

You don’t necessarily need to finish your masturbation session with an ejaculation. Some people find it erotic to edge in the morning a few times and go to work with the tension in their genitals, caused by not ejaculating (blue balls). In the BDSM world, edging without ever ejaculating is known as orgasm. denial. Don't edge too frequently without ejaculating,
because it is known to cause infections at the prostate.

ELABORATING THE TECHNIQUE

W hen you’ve mastered the edging technique, you can even ‘fool’ your body even more with the ‘double- decker’ method. Instead of one orgasm with ejaculation, you can have two full orgasms on top of each other in a few seconds time. The downside of this technique is that after the second orgasm, the PERT phase will start.

In order to have two orgasms in a row, stop stimulation during the emission phase, but don’t push out the pelvic muscle. Just relax and let your body contract the muscle, as if you were having a normal orgasm. If the timing is right, ejaculation will start without you touching your body (a so called handsfree orgasm). Between the third and fourth spurt of semen, continue stimulation of your penis. If you do it right, a second (and final) orgasm will occur on top of the first one and a new (less powerfull) ejaculation phase will start.

Another trick is to continue stimulation during the emission phase, but to limit the stimulation to very, very, very light touch. This enables you to ‘surf’ on the orgasmic wave, going from a firm stimulation to reach the emission phase to a light stimulation to avoid a full orgasm and so on.

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Good stuff SK, thanks for sharing.

Edging is the way to go. I can easily go an hour (intercourse) with no need to release although I can release quicker if I need to. Edging has given me tons of control.

“For hours after I pump, I’m like a hair trigger and can only last 20-30 seconds inside before I have to finish. Before pumping, I can last a good 60-70 seconds more.”

Did you mean minutes and not seconds???


Current: 7.5 BPEL, 6 BEG, 5.5 MSEG, 5 NBPFL, 5 FG, 8.25 BPFSL

Long term goal: 8 BPEL, 6 BEG, 6 MSEG, 5.5 NBPFL, 5 FG

Originally Posted by iceman67
can only last 20-30 seconds inside before I have to finish. Before pumping, I can last a good 60-70 seconds more.”

Did you mean minutes and not seconds???

My thoughts, too. If seconds, this is positively alarming. That would be a maximum of 30 + 70 = 100 seconds, or about a one-and-a-half minutes.

Younger guys blow their nut faster. So, if you’re young, that might be one of many factors. But even young guys shouldn’t be cumming that fast.

Follow sta-kool’s recommendations for ejaculation delaying and edging. Deadening agents, even the kind designed for that purpose, are not the way to go.

Originally Posted by sta-kool
Agreed it is a real solution. I don’t like the idea of killing pleasure with a chemical “deadening agent”

Dave11686, Here’s a more detailed description of the “program” I used to learned to edge:

Here are the basics:

— Use a good lube.

— Try to masturbate for 30 minutes without ejaculating. Focus totally on the sensation.

— During that period try to come close to ejaculating 4 or 5 times or more, but either stop stimulating yourself or change the stimulation so that you don’t ejaculate

(at some point you will figure out how to keep yourself on that “edge” before ejaculating — the feeling that you are just about to blow your load. Basically you will be able to prolong that from the usual couple seconds to as long as you want to)

— At the end of the thirty minutes KNOCK YOURSELF OUT! Or just stop and let your erection subside.

— Don’t feel bad if you make a “mistake” and come before you have hit your time goal. Just enjoy the orgasm and better luck next time. It is all a learning experience.

It really is fun when you can prolong those feelings you get when you are just about to blow right before you actually have an orgasm. (technically called the “emission phase”) That usually lasts only a couple three seconds. If I can do a good job I can hold on to that sensation for a long time. It is a crazy feeling.

The best way to figure out edging is to focus totally on your body’s sensation. NO PORN, for example, it will distract you. If you want to watch porn to help get hard, go ahead. But turn the porn off once you have an erection.

There used to be a great website with GREAT instructions on how to learn to edge, but it is gone. I know I posted a chunk of it on thunders’ someplace. Will find it and post the link to that post.

This is good advice thank you.

Unfortunately, my wife does not approve of masturbation. So I will have to sit down and talk to her about about this therapy. I think if I offer some guidelines about what I can, and cannot think about during this edging therapy, that she may cut me some slack.

Originally Posted by Dave11686
This is good advice thank you.

Unfortunately, my wife does not approve of masturbation. So I will have to sit down and talk to her about about this therapy. I think if I offer some guidelines about what I can, and cannot think about during this edging therapy, that she may cut me some slack.


I think if you explain that PE and bating are two totally different things, especially the desired outcome of both. PE is about penile health and potentially a way to prevent ED.

My wife would be real upset if I were to bate. I’ve never been a fan of bating, I’d rather have a female play with me.


Current: 7.5 BPEL, 6 BEG, 5.5 MSEG, 5 NBPFL, 5 FG, 8.25 BPFSL

Long term goal: 8 BPEL, 6 BEG, 6 MSEG, 5.5 NBPFL, 5 FG

Be clear you are training yourself to last longer. Maybe you two can edge together?

Speaking of which:

Another option is to get this book and work thru it as a couple. It is a tantric sex book but without much talk about monks etc. It is a great book, easy to understand. Goal is long duration partner sex. One of the exercises for both partners is edging (by themselves).

ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of *Extended Sexual Orgasm Paperback – April 1, 2001
by Alan P. Brauer (Author), Donna Brauer (Author)
https://www.ama … /dp/0446677620/

By a husband and wife team of sex therapists, husband is also a physician.

You can probably find used copies on eBay.


Last edited by sta-kool : 08-01-2018 at .

Sta-kool is giving great advice as are the other guys here. If you can explain to her about PE maybe she will understand especially as was said if she would help with edging. My wife knows I do PE however she doesn’t know I pump, clamp and so on. She thinks I only use my two hands, and she’s been the beneficiary of my PE journey.

Is it out of religious beliefs that she wouldn’t approve?

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