Problems with EQED for sex. HELP

Hey guys so up until maybe a year or so ago, I would have frequent erections often, think about women and all the other dirty thoughts that came with that. Nowadays I hardly ever see women I nthe same light.. I never have the thoughts or urges I used to have; this is a problem for me. It’s a problem mainly because I have this girlfriend and have been dating her for maybe 11 months or so. It wasn’t until last month when she finally decided to let me take her v-card and give mine up too.. Embarrassing as it was I was drunk at the time and couldn’t get fully hard; also couldn’t get the small condom on properly so I dismissed it. I tried maybe a week later elsewhere sober, and still the same problem I got hard up until the point where the moment of truth came and I had to put it in, I couldn’t get hard.. I was like wtf.. Ever since then I’ve been going on a porn detox because I figured that was what had screwed up my perception of women & loss of sexual appetite. I can honestly say I feel no different then when I started 2 weeks ago, and just 2 nights ago I tried to lay my girl down, I made sure I was relaxed but I just wasn’t turned on and didn’t get hard. So far it’s been 3 times that I’ve tried to have sex with my girlfriend the 1st three times, and no success. All 3 times have ended up with me coming up with different excuses to her and seeing her disappointment and being mad at myself.

Can somebody please help me? I’m 18 years old and feel like an old man? I honestly feel like I will never know the joys of sex and I really do love this girl and want to express it to her.

Just extra info , I’ve been trying to go to the gym recently to get back into shape, I try to run once or twice a week, and I have school and I work. I believe my deficiency is actually a lack of testosterone since I rarely ever get as turned on by women as I had all throughout high school.

Could anybody PLEASE, please help.

It definitely sounds like a low testosterone issue but at 18, that’s strange. I would think your first step would be to go to the doc to get a checkup and a testosterone level check.

How’s your diet? Do you take supplements? You mentioned trying to exercise. Are you overweight? Also, how much sleep are you getting per night? All of these things will affect your body’s ability to function properly.

It could be anxiety man. The mind plays terrible tricks, you could just be psyching yourself out. I have had my ups and downs with my gf (4 years), in terms of EQ, and it has all come down to psyching myself out. Or something external things in my life stressing me out caused it. Porn detox is a good idea.

Can you get hard by yourself? Try to do some edging and see where that gets you, it should provide a good build up before sex.

Keep us updated!

How long have you been watching porn? Also, not to get too personal, but what kind are you watching? Just “regular” sex or stuff beyond that?

@Thelawnmowerman : I’m 6’4, 185lbs, not overweight in the slightest. Just recently I’ve been taking niacin vitamin c, and a minor multivitamin. And just lastnight took this natural testosterone boosting stuff. For the past 2 or 3 years I’ve had more under 6 hour sleeps then over 8. I really don’t have a consistent sleeping schedule. If it was the sleep that was affecting me how long would it take for me to get my testostetone back with good rests? Cheers!

Yep lol, not overweight at all. I know it will be hard for awhile but you need to get proper sleep. Try going to bed a half hour earlier than usual and gradually increase it till you are getting 8 hours of sleep per night. Also start taking a zinc supplement before bed. Twinlab makes a good one that is 50mg’s. Only take one per day. With proper rest, good food choices and a zinc supplement, I bet you can turn this around in a week.

Also, Tongkat Ali will help you out as well. Source Naturals makes a very good product.

Here’s a few links that you may find useful:

http://www.timi nvermont.com/fi … ss/boosttes.htm

http://www.live strong.com/arti … -levels-in-men/