Premature Ejaculation

“Generally from now on NEVER have a “quick wank”, I think there is some truth in the psychological factor. Time yourself, only come after you have earned it, at least fifteen minutes even if you have to stop and pause for the sensation to lessen.”

This is definetly a major factor, last december I had been single for 3-4 months and was masturbating quite a bit, when I hooked up with someone I definetly suffered from premature ejeculation. However, when I stopped masturbating entirely(while having sex) I found that after about 3 weeks to a month of zero masturbation I had regained control of my dick. I know how it feels, there is nothing worse than prematurely ejaculating without orgasm, it’s embarassing and neither of you enjoyed it, but you can get a handle on it by stopping the handling of yourself.

For years I have also suffered from premature ejaculation. My reason is that when masturbating as a teenager, I always would fantasize about a lady having an orgasm, and that would turn me on and I would ejaculate. So now, when my wife starts to feel it, I immediately go past the point of no return in a very short period of time. My wife dosent like the stopping either. I know I have to make a mental change somehow, but havent quite figured out what to do. Im thinking about getting some desensitizing cream and give that a go. Alcohal has definately helped in the past, but who wants to get blithering drunk every time they want to have a fulfilling romp in the hay?

Buy or read this book “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams.

One tip for you though is: when you feel that you won’t be able to go much longer without cumming, pull out and rub her clit with the tip of your penis, or finger if this is too stimulating for you. This will keep her stimulated while you get your pause.

Premature ejaculation is tough to cure. You need to hone your concentration skills to learn the tantric methods; learn your ejaculation stages and timing intimately to use the Kegel method; the stop-start-squeeze method works best with a cooperative partner who helps retrain you.

I have a psychiatrist friend who treats this with very low doses of an SRRI anti-depressant since SRRI drugs, like Prozac, are notorious for delaying or preventing ejaculation in many users.

RWG had wonderful success with acupuncture and he used to be very hair-trigger.

As someone who has suffered from this for a long time (since the first time I had sex in fact) I now realise that you need to talk to your partner about your anxiety. You are going to have to make her understand that if she doesn’t go with the pausing idea, it may just get worse. It only seems fair that she help you on this one, unless of course you want to fix this on your own.

The more it happens the worse you will feel, and it may get to the point where you don’t want to have sex because of it, and that is not fair on either of you.

The stop-start method worked for me to a certain extent, but it has not totally cured it, Sometimes I still cum within 30secs-1min although those times are pretty rare.

good luck deuska
murph

Well I did notice something while doing a bit of PE the other night.

That I had sort of gotten into the habit of kegeling quite a bit to make my erection get harder faster….and well it seems that is what tends to make the head so damn sensitive so fast. (or at least part of it).

As when I made a conscious effort to NOT kegel at all during PE or masturbation I could basically last as long as I wanted…..now who knows if this would work with the girl……but I guess it cant hurt.

Thanks again for all the great replys!

Good luck man, let us know how it goes. :thumbs:

Hey Deuksa.

Here’s a couple of plans, take them with a grain of salt, as I am a couple cans short of a six pack.

Desensitizing cream: A female friend of mine, said her Husband “took a little longer to finish” a few times in a row, and she asked him about it. He said he bought some desensitizing cream. She found it in the sock drawer and threw it out.

Naura Haydens book, “How to satisfy a women”: She wrote a short book, basically all the information is on 1 or 2 pages, make them wait a long time before you insert all the way. Make movements like you are going to insert but dont, i.e. teasing, then insert a little and pull out, and yadda yadda yadda. You would have to be the Dominant personality to work this. Possibly try, in a “gentle way” hold her hands down over head, i.e. role playing a tough guy, and work this angle. The theory is she will orgasm quickly because you made her wait and beg for it.

Learn some awesome Oral skills, have her so orgasmed out, that it doesn’t matter how long you last, which will probably make you more relaxed, and last longer. They have some “ben wa” type balls, they are plastic, and have ball bearings inside them, if you insert them in her vagina (there is a string, so they can come out easy) while orally pleasing her, I guarantee she will feel something that she has never felt before. The movement of her hips, move the ben wa’s, plus you can light tug on the string…. An altoid in your mouth during this will send shivers thru her, although some woman are too sensitive, and the altoid might have a burning sensation that doesn’t feel good, so be careful.

I also heard Prozac desensitizes it the point where you last longer.

Old Man theory: Pretend you are in your 40’s, have 2 smart-ass teenage kids, have been married for 20-plus years, that you are concerned daily with your job being outsourced offshore, work out enough to stay in shape yet feel exhausted all the time, and you will last a long time that way also :)

Sixer, is this supposed to help with premature ejaculation?. Jeez! it would turn on the most jaded appetite and while there is nothing wrong with this in itself :bigwink: , I think this is not something which is actually troubling Deuska, somehow.

BTW, You had us believe you left that adult store with nothing at all and now, here’s me thinking, you completely emptied the shelves!

Wait…so you guys are saying not to kegel during sex? I was under the impression that if you kegeled hard right before you the point of no return you can withold your orgasm. Now I’m confused. I always kegel during dry jelqing too. Is this incorrect? I thought that is squeezing more blood into the unit.

LMAO! Okay, I left with widget or 2. I think if you warm up the frying pan before you start cooking, there will be less pressure to maintain. In my humble opinion, if you can give her a satisfying orgasm before intercourse, there will be less pressure to maintain.

I’m not sure, I premature ejaculation can happen anytime.

I too could have written this post. I have been practicing kegels a few times a day and have been edging while masturbating to try and gain more longevity and control. I haven’t had sex in almost 2 years so I am really worried about when the time comes again because I don’t want to lose it. I’ve tried desensitizing creams before and they did work. I’d last alot longer with them but there is a drawback. This one time, I put on the cream before I was with my girl and she wanted to go down on me right away. I didn’t expect this and she did and her mouth went numb! So be careful!

As far as premature ejaculation, I’m curious to know something from the guys that have and do suffer from it. When you masturbate, is your goal to orgasm right away? I think we psychologically train ourselves to masturbate only because we want the quick satisfaction of an orgasm. It definitely also includes the idea that most teenage boys learned to masturbate by deception, meaning that we would lock ourselves in a room with a dirty mag and quickly rub one out so no one knew. I did it. And I notice that to this day whenever I feel an erection coming on my first urge is to want to have an orgasm.

I don’t think I suffer from any “physical” problem of premature ejaculation. There have been times where I went for a good half hour or times (rarely) when I didn’t orgasm at all! But then there were times when I’d pretty much orgasm when putting a condom on. I don’t know why I get so sensitive at times but I do. So this lends me to think that it’s mostly psychological. If anyone is a pysch major they may understand me here. When I get an erection I want to feel the amazing feeling of an orgasm and I become obsessed with that urge and it inevitably happens. But when I am concentrating on making the girl feel amazing and I take my mind off of my member, it tends to last longer.

I wish I wasn’t a “quick trigger” but I still am to this day. I just try to remind myself that sex is enjoyable (it’s been 2 years, I almost forgot!) and that the longer I last the better it gets for both of us. It’s just hard during masturbation because I want to get the quick satisfaction and get it over with.