I think you have to consider too objectives: selection of men to reproduce a woman’s offspring, which carries the inference of traits directed at protecting and caring for the female; and selection by a small percentage for sexual satisfaction. I do not believe the two desires (reproduction and sexual gratification) align with the same search by women for attributes in a man. Same applies for men. For sexual gratification we might, in our youth, respond more to external flash, sensual behavior, sexual aggressiveness, etc but when we select for a mate to care for our offspring, and increase the likelihood that our seed was the one that actually fertilized the egg, many men will select females that exhibit characteristics aligned to trust, loyalty, and commitment. Sometimes we are wrong in our choices, but I still feel that we consciously or unconsciously , both men and women, consider the difference between pleasure and reproduction when our focus is offspring vs physical release. At least that’s my believe. For example, I consider my wife very attractive, but she was not the most sensual or sexually aggressive person I dated. Just my take on it.