Penis size is not that important, my routine, goals
I actually believe that the penis size thing is in the head, a man’s head. Why? Let me emphasize:
When I look back and think of all the vagina I have been with, I don’t remember how tight they were, how they look, how big they were except for those that were very wide and bad. Women and Men are very different, but at the same time very similar. Our memories are similar and are men usually who pay more attention to physical attributes.
Also I feel that if you feel some tension with the side of her lips against your penis, then that is good and is a question of how hard can you get for how long and making sure your pelvis thrust her clitoris with every stroke. Talk to her find out what speed she likes. This will vary during sex.
Another problem I have identified is that men sometimes are ego maniacs. We want to lead at everything, and with sex this is not always the best approach. Let your woman tell you , move you, etc…and don’t feel as if you are a rookie because that is not the case. Women have very different likes and the same applies to what type of penis they may prefer.
When I think of what type of penis woman like best, I look at what type of things I like in a woman.
For example I like big butts, not very skinny women, but from time to time I crave having sex with a skinny girl I could just throw around the room with ease, raise her in the air, etc.. I like their breast soft, not huge nipples, and the list could go on.
I know other guys that love huge breasts, this is not my case.
Don’t you think the same must happen to them? I am sure.
When I first started dating my girl I remember she told me: “You are so big” to what I responded by saying: “am not that large, I think am average”, she the said: “yeah I know”, looking away feeling a bit embarrassed that it was obviously she was saying something to make me feel good (girls know guy like to hear this), or maybe she was afraid that I would think she was inexperienced. I believe in her head she really liked me and wanted to say things that will guarantee me staying with her. Nevertheless she responded you are perfect for me. Am I supposed to feel good about this? Yes, but I don’t like to blind myself .What woman that really likes you would say something different?
We guys tend want to hear certain things to cushion our egos even if they may not be true. I hate this. I remember a friend telling me that his girl told him: “I have never enjoyed sex before until I was with you,” and he believed it because it cushioned his ego. Now he didn’t’t have to worry about being the best she ever had or about the previous lover the girl may have had. I have worried about this childishly too.
The problem is that one day you may find out something that may contradict the white lie she said for your ego’s sake, and then your ego will suffer ten times the pain.
I hate lying to myself, something that occurs when we let our ego take control of our rational minds.
What is funny is that I always find myself questioning myself because it such a natural process for a man to want to hear what makes his ego feel good and acknowledging as if it was true with out any rational thoughts behind it. I am impressed how many times I find myself thinking:
“Ok you are trying to lie to yourself again”
You have to be careful when you seek the truth sometimes though; it can hurt, and could destroy a perfectly fine relationship. You may think you can handle the truth, but you really never know until it hits you.
For example when I told my girl that I thought I was average and she responded by saying she knew, I didn’t cushion my ego but now I have to deal with the possibility she may have had a previous boyfriend with a larger penis than mine.
On another day talking about male insecurities she said that she doesn’t understand why man feel the way they feel about boldness and pennies size. She mentioned hair is just hair and that woman really don’t care so much about the size of a penis. I jumped once again an looked at her, with an expression as if she was running a lie by me, and the she said: “Well yes, but only when is this small”, while she made a gesture with her hand indicating 2,3 or at most 4 inches.
This brings another reasonable question. Have you ever stopped to think how hard it is for man to figure out at first how to correctly your penis measures. Do you really believe woman care so much about this (instead of themselves) and have a good idea how big an 8 inch penis really is? I am sure some may, but that will be less than 1% in the population.
I like facts to base my doubts and I measure this by making a woman orgasm as many times as possible. At the end of the day that’s what is more important in my opinion.
More important than penis side is sucking pussy, and doing things in bed that are enjoyable.
How to know if your penis is a good size? There is no better way in my opinion than to see how many orgasms you make your girl have. Sometimes it might not be your fault, but instead her own inhibitions so don’t drive your self nuts. I’ll show you a quick trick that may work for some of you guys:
“Ask your girl I want to suck you’re a$$” and see how she reacts , if she is ok with it then you may know her inhibitions may not be the cause of the problem, if is like doubting this etc…you may have your answers in front of you. Remember though seeking the truth may leave you with scars.
I believe how attracted two people are two each other also plays a big role. It is not the same to suck pussy and enjoy it as to suck pussy because you feel you have to.
The penis is only an aspect of your entire package as a man. You should drive to improve in every aspect in every way. I don’t like to say “drive towards perfection” because it’s relative to the eye of the beholder, and can cause physiological problems like perfectionism ( which I suffered at a point) and narcissism which I believe some people here may have with their own penises. Let me give you some examples and you tell me how you feel:
What good is a homeless man with a 9 inch penis?
What good is an obese man with a 9 inch penis?
Would a girl prefer a 9 inch penis that doesn’t’t suck pussy over a 6 inch penis that sucks pussy?
Do you think personality plays a role?
How about your cardiovascular shape?
What good is a 9 inch penis with am man that can’t have sex for more than 5 minutes?
Does a girl prefer a 9 inch dick over 8 or over 7 or over 6 or over 5?
Does a girl prefer hanging balls with a 7 inch penis over a 9 inch penis with small testicles?
It starts getting pretty ridiculous in my opinion.
I honestly believe girls don’t think about the last 3 questions or really know what they really prefer in man even when they claim they do. So ill throw in a cliche: I think it really is all about confidence.
Can you imagine a woman saying she prefers big penis, and the reason being because she has never have had guys really take they time to turn her own, and suck her pussy well, etc…I can! How good is her judgment?
I have started a small program, after doing some reading. Everything I have written before it’s my rational thinking but as a man my ego is some what affected by the issue of large dick even if it doesn’t’t make sense rationally.
Imagine if we turn around the argument and put sexually inadequacy on the women, for being wide and frigid (not right at all, but stated for the purpose of the argument).
Would you prefer an ugly chick with a tight pussy or a fine one with a wide one?
I have decided to start a program and will test what you guys are doing here, but I will admit is scary to see people damaging their penises because of problems in the head. All this things usually are physiological problems in our heads, and if we don’t overcome them a bigger penis won’t either. You will have to face them sooner or later. Before I list my routine I’ll want to say that if your women ever brings out a problem about how your penis is small and she likes bigger penises leave her, she isn’t’t good for you, and not good for anyone in particularly.
2 days on and one off I do every AM and PM :
Warm up in a tub full of water
Stretch for 5 minutes manually
200 reps with power jelq ( home made).
Clamp( with cable clamp not to tight, just enough to see my veins like those of body builders) for 10-15 minutes while holding a strong erection the whole time by slowly jerking off.
Stretch manually for 15 minutes
My goals are also listed below. By the way I am completely against watching porn. I have been porn free for two months and I plan keeping it this way forever. I believe is bad for the mind, and I will probably write about psychological effects of porn in another thread one day.
Please guys be careful when doing this stuff. After my second day of jerking twice per day I felt my veins larger, but also the skin that covers the penis was softer, and seemed to be looser around the penis. My erections work fine but the skin is softer for some reason. I will keep you posted but it seems to be recuperating.