Ever since iv been about 13 iv had a severe penis insecurities. Being 21 now, nearly 22 this insecurity has played a major factor in my life. It has hindered me from ever having sex and having a normal relationship with a girl. Iv had many of opportunity’s now to have sex in a one night stand situation but always made an excuse. Iv even tried to get over it by having copious amount of alcohol, but never been able to do it, as I think when the girl sees my penis she will think it’s small. I think people are starting to think I am strange being nearly 22 and never having a girlfriend. Recently Iv taken a girl out on a few dates and I am meant to be going to hers at the end of the week (and her intentions are not just to watch TV ). Every time I think of this I feel ill because I know when it comes to the crunch the anxiety will kick in again and I will end up making excuses. I feel as if my youth is passing me by and I am not having the fun that I should be. I don’t have a problem with my erect length as it’s 7.5” pressed to the bone. The problem is my penis girth, it’s 4.85” in the middle,4.75” at the base and only 4.1” at the end of the shaft where it meets the penis head. My penis seems very thin to me and being a big guy of 6 feet 5” does not help. I have two questions in which I hope some people can help me with. Is it normal that my penis girth has such a variance in size going from 4.85 down to 4.1? Does anyone have any advice on how I can over come the insecurity and anxiety?