Right now I am right around 8” BPEL but my “functional” or insertable length is probably more like 7.5”. In girth I am around 5.5” at the glans, or slightly under, 5.75” mid shaft erect girth, and 6.25” maximal girth at the base.
My wife handles my size vaginally fine although at times she does feel quite snug. I just barely bottom out in her vagina which is not uncomfortable for either of us, but before she had two kids she was shallower and I would occasionally cause her discomfort by jabbing her cervix. She does pretty well by me oral-wise, but I do get occasional tooth scrapes. I think she likes me size. She has made comments occasionally about how “I fill her up so well” but she is not very vaginally orgasmic, only very occasionally having an obvious orgasm with vaginal intercourse so I’m not sure how much difference it would make to her if I was a little smaller. She does say that she has “little orgasms” with vaginal intercourse, however, and that it feels good so maybe it would make a difference. My wife has never had any interest in anal intercourse so I can’t comment there.
Of the 15 or so girlfriends and lovers I had before marriage I think most liked my size pretty well. Nobody suggested that I was not big enough for them, at least. At that time I was probably 3/4” or so shorter in functional length (just a tad under 7”) and had about 1/4” less girth. About half of the women I have had sex with have appeared to have orgasms with vaginal intercourse in the absence of direct clitoral stimulation, although not all did so with regularity. I had to be careful not to make forceful cervical contact in about half of them, at least in some positions. In the other half, I never touched bottom or touched their cervix. Several of these women complained of getting jaw fatigue when giving me head, and two in particular would sometimes complain of soreness after vigorous vaginal sex, and occasionally get little superficial vaginal skin tears at the back of the vaginal entrance which resulted in them begging off of sex for a few days. These two women would also not do doggy style with me because they felt like I was going “too deep”. For those women I suspect I was a little bigger than ideal.
I had about 3 lovers who very consistently had orgasms with vaginal intercourse without any direct clitoral stimulation, in that they came nearly every time and often several times. For these women, I think stimulation of deep vaginal areas was probably important in triggering orgasms. One of these women had another lover the whole time I knew her and she admitted she had an easier time reaching orgasm with me and that I was a little bigger. In other women in whom I reached bottom of their vaginal canals, some appeared not to notice and others seemed to find it a distraction, or be uncomfortable. Nearly all the women I had sex with found forceful cervical contact uncomfortable although a couple seemed to find grinding their cervix on the tip of my cock arousing during the times of the month they were most horny, but usually only after they became really worked up. Two women I have had sex with told me at the time that they had never had an orgasm during vaginal intercourse before, my wife and one other. Both had had sex with at least 20 or so other men before me.
I never had any women that I couldn’t penetrate vaginally although a few were pretty tight, at least at times. None complained of a lot of soreness during vaginal sex unless I accidentally boxed their cervix. I only tried anal intercourse with a woman once, at her suggestion. Years ago, it was not nearly as main-stream as now. We tried for about half an hour but she couldn’t relax enough and we gave up. After that she never suggested it again, nor did any other woman nor did I suggest it with any other woman except my wife. I think I asked her if she was interested once years ago and received a resounding “No” for an answer.