One word

Isn’t crazy how one word from your spouse or significant other can send your thoughts in a million directions? That one mind bending word has hit me for the second time in our relationship.

“Full”. The reference of course is the “full” sensation my wife feels in her vagina. The first time it was mentioned years ago, very early in our relationship. One night I decided I would give three fingers a go while fingering her. I asked her how it felt and her response was “full”.

Flash forward to last night when we were talking about threesomes and how neither of us could really understand or be comfortable with another pleasuring the other. She said ” this may sound gross, but I couldnt imagine how full that would feel having two dicks inside me.”

It felt like a dagger to my dick. Right then and there lying in bed, I realized my dick in its current state would never fill her up. She’s had two kids which created a little extra room, but to be honest my Dick isn’t really a home run hitter at 6-7/8 x 5.

Now I’ve messed around with PE for quite a few years as you can tell by my join date, but I’ve never been dedicated enough to produce actual gains. Today that changes.

My routine will focus only on girth. My primary method will be clamping as many 10 minute sets I can in a day, hopefully around 5-6. I will also try to fit some orange bends in there with standard wet jelqing. I’m going to try and do some form of PE daily unless I feel I need a rest.

So here’s to filling that pussy up gentlemen.

You may have missunderstood her. Was she talking about both cocks in her vagina or one in each hole? “Full” for the first statement was obviously a good thing where it may have been a bad thing in the second statement.

Don’t break your dick.

I also agree you might be taking things in a very different way than she meant. Did she say your dick doesn’t make her vagina feel full? It’s stating the obvious, but however big your dick feels, it won’t feel as big as your dick plus another one at the same time. She said she can’t imagine what that would feel like, and unless she tries she won’t have any idea if she would even like it or not.

My experience is that more people like the fantasy of DP than the reality of what it feels like.

Oh I don’t think she was saying she wanted two dicks in her personally. But to clarify we were talking about her vagina. She hasn’t said that I don’t fill her up but then again she’s never said that I have either. Like I said, two kids, there’s a little extra room in there. I don’t resent her for the comment, I’m just looking at it as motivation.

I hope you take full advantage of this new found motivation to PE. ;)

I wouldn’t stress too much my friend, there’s a good chance you’re misunderstanding what she really meant. I’d bet she would be pretty upset with herself if she had any idea of the ego blow she dealt you. She likely was talking about having something in both holes at once. I suspect many ladies that are comfortable with their sexuality have wondered how that might feel at some time or another.

We would need more info to really know, though. Does she enjoy anal sex? Does she like her rear to be fingered while you’re having vaginal? What you should do next really depends on those questions.. But here’s what I would do if I were you. I would take the next alone time opportunity to go to the local adult store and pick up a dildo and lube if you don’t already have some. Don’t get anything too long or girthy, just something about the same size as you. Next time you’re going to get intimate warm that puppy up in warm water. Tell her how excited the thought of seeing her filled up is to you and tell her about her new toy and how you’d love to see her get off with you in one hole and it in the other. I would let her pick which goes where - that could be fun.
I’d just try to make two things clear:
1) She owns the idea - it was her idea! This may make her feel more confident about trying it and less likely to back out
2) The thought turns you on. This may make her more comfortable trying something a lot of women aren’t willing to try because it’s ‘dirty’

I know this response is a bit wordy, but I’ve always wanted to give this a go with the little lady, but getting her to open up on almost anything sexual is like pulling teeth. You should be glad that you have one with the confidence and comfort level to express these things. It’s very frustrating when there’s all the signs of a woman wanting something, but never being able to get her to vocalize it. I’m jealous

Now go do a little recon and get some.. And if it all works out you get to walk around with the confidence that comes with fulfilling a sexy lady’s fantasy ;)

I know how you feel, kinda ,, my gf had her son late in life ,,so I don’t think there was as much “snap back” as a younger woman.

Anyway, that is my motivation for some extra girth.

I’m 5.5 girth, and its a good fit, but I know she could and would enjoy a little more.My length is 7 NBP , but with my shitty curve, more length will NOT come in handy.

If you’re worried about her wanting to feel fuller then PE is a great thing for you. At the very least, you’ll have better EQ! You might also try bringing a cock ring into the bedroom to pick up a little extra girth.

But your wife can do just as much and probably quicker. I got my wife ‘Ami by Je Joue’ kegel balls so that we could both focus on our sexual health together. I like entering her after she’s done her kegel workout with it! But the larger point is, if ‘feeling full[er]’ is important to your wife, then the responsibility isn’t all yours. It sounds like you are both comfortable talking to each other, so I little background info on how kegels are good for promoting stronger orgasms and greater sensitivity would give you good ammunition for the conversation. You may just learn that you aren’t interpreting things quite correctly too.

Good luck on your PE journey now that it’s getting serious.

I hope you realize that this is an emotional and, I would argue, irrational response to what she said.

What she said, and intended to communicate, is clearly not what you heard.

I will also tell you right now that you have a perfectly fine and rather large penis. Is it going to set world records? No. But you are on the larger side of things for the human species and have nothing whatsoever to feel in any way anatomically inadequate about. In fact, your size is what some people can only wish for. You might consider that.

Next: two kids does not create “a little extra room” in a woman. It just doesn’t. Women’s physiology is designed to snap back, and snap back it does except in unusual circumstances. You DO NOT; I repeat: DO NOT need to increase the size of your dick because a baby has been born. That’s what is known as nonsense.

Next: as you, yourself, have related the story about the speculative three-way, as an impartial observer that has no stake in this whatsoever I can say honestly: it sounds very much to me that she was regarding two dicks at once as potentially making her OVER full and that this was not something she was looking forward to. Yet your heart sank and you imagine a dagger in your dick. This is projection. It is totally unnecessary and unfounded on your part. And all it proves is you are willing to be your own worst enemy. Knock it off. Seriously. This is one pity-party you don’t need to throw.

Just from your reaction to the thought of this it is clear to me that you are in no way ready for the reality of a three-way. Such an endeavor requires that people are emotionally secure enough to detach their self-worth from their sexual ego. My view is: you’re not there yet.

I very much doubt your wife is dissatisfied with your size. I would bet big money that it’s you that is the one that is dissatisfied. I bet your penis isn’t the real culprit either, if you give yourself an honest and, more importantly, fair assessment.

Lastly: this is crazy talk.

I’m assuming you want to end up with a dick that works. Jumping into an extreme clamping routine is a safe bet to increase your odds of injury and possible permanent penile dysfunction. Clamping is not something one does to excess. And one has to be very careful as this activity is one of the highest risk forms of PE that we have.

Does it work? Sure. A careful and responsible clamping routine has been known to increase erection size - particularly girth. But you can injure yourself (at worst) and you can easily fatigue the organ so that it becomes difficult for it to do its job.

Go easy. The dick you save will be your own.

The tipping point often comes before people feel they need a rest. By the time they feel it, they’ve already hurt themselves - particularly with regard to the sort PE routine you are suggesting.

The thing with PE is: slow and steady wins the race.

Going into an extreme routine because you’ve talked yourself into a feeling of inadequacy based on misinterpreting what your wife meant when she said something or other is just not the way to achieve your goals and have lasting sexual satisfaction.

It just isn’t.

I wouldn’t lie to you.

I’m in the midst of a reconciliation with my wife, and when I’m tired or stressed, her words can mess me up and send me spinning for hours unless I’m grounded and focused on the positive things we have together.

The message here is don’t start conversations about things you aren’t comfortable about.

And PE is a long process that will not fix temporary issues.

Your wife wants a confident man with a dick that works, not an insecure man misinterpreting her words and becoming depressed and anxious as a result.

Slow and steady wins the race.

And finally, do PE for you and if she notices and likes the change, great.

Otherwise bash on anyway.

I gained an inch and a half length and an inch in girth in three years, and my wife has never said one word except to make an OK gesture with her hand once, indicating that she liked the thickness.