I want to thank those of you who are encouraging and guiding, spending time to support your bros and knit a community.
This topic has most likely been addressed many times over, including in the introduction to PE in this site. My apologies if this seems like a rant - which it is.
I’ve been on and off of PE several years without ever being consistent enough to make noticeable gains. Through this site I’ve finally learned to trust PE. I’ve been working at it for a few months with minimum gains, but from what I’ve read, it’s just consistent work, including continuous monitoring and adjustment. Patience will pay.. And this is all for another thread.
Negativity really doesn’t help. It really can’t. How can it? Am I insecure about my size? Maybe. I’m average. All ladies I’ve been with have been satisfied as I am a mature, caring partner - hell, I’m an eff’ing great catch. I used to be much more insecure about my size, as are most of us dudes. But information has been my friend; continued research has eased my mind. A positive attitude also has gone a long ways.
I’ve read so many threads with peeps in my shoes- they’re here for self improvement. And yes, size may add or subtract from my overall confidence. But, I know that using words like “pathetic” isn’t helpful.
If my self image is so low that I call my cock “pathetic,” no amount of PE is going to bring about lasting contentment and balance (I’m sure some will call BS on this. The fact that there are some with a 7”er that still refer to their members in a negative tone is evidence). True change takes time and dedication in all areas of life. This includes molding one’s self image - big shlong or not.
There are many people that believe that our thoughts influence events - that negativity and fear brings about negative and fearful events. Whether this be true, I would like to suggest that those of us who look down at their crotch in frustration learn to look down in gratitude. Gratitude that the member works and isn’t sick with cancer. That you can get off. That you have the time and freedom to do PE. That we can take a hot shower afterwords. If at the very least, less frustration and negativity will clear the mind to build better routines, pay closer attention to internal and external indicators, and in my case, make PEing an enjoyable adventure in a good life rather than a struggle to make life better.
And lastly, I firmly believe that confidence is the greatest afrodisiac and brain the biggest sex organ.
Sorry if I sound like a cocky jerk. I’m really a nice guy - promise.