My girlfriends opinion on my size

Well today I asked my girl exactly how she felt about my unit. Because I wanted to know. I asked to to rate me size from 1 to 10. 1 being smallest. And 10 being what she thinks as big. She said “definatly at least an 8”. Is that something to feel good about? Obvioulsy its not want I wanted to hear but I got the truth. And now I have to shoot to gain. It’s more serious than ever I gotta be a 10 in her eyes. And for my self.

Your penis being rated an 8, and is it something to feel good about?

No, you should be miserable, even with a 10 if you ask me, that way you can never fully enjoy a compliment from the person you love and always have a desire to pull your dick, day in day out.

Really though, my sarcasm aside, wouldn’t it make more sense to ask her about the sex you are having and how she rates it as opposed to your penis? I mean really isn’t that the aim? To be the best fuck she has ever had, as opposed to the nicest dick she has ever seen?

Very dangerous area to enter into.

8 is a great rating, but you want 10, very dodgy area.

My general view is I’m unlikely to EVER be the biggest ANY girl has been with. Remember, there are guys naturally blessed who still do PE. So you are probably asking can you gain 3” length (to 10”) and 1.5” (to 6.5”) girth to be a “10 rating”. I’d say very, very few get that level of gains, and even if you were predisposed to gains you would probably lose your girlfriend because you were PE-in all the time!

If you are doing this just to get a “10 rating” from someone else, I’d say think again.

Do PE for yourself, be realistic and pace yourself.

You gave her a scale 1-10, 10 being “big.” There’s a difference between big and ideal.

It was a loaded question. Except that you had the gun held against your own temple and didn’t know it. Or you did know it and was hoping she would take it out if your hand. Instead she flipped the safety off. Seriously, you probably couldn’t have done much worse to damage her view of you on an unconscious level,unless you were caught balls deep with her sister or mother.

Mother or lover brother. Leaders don’t ask if they’re leading right. People respond accordingly. But mama will tell you that it will grow when you get older. Are you with me yet? WHY do you guys keep doing this? On a not so unconscious level what you communicated was; I’m insecure. What about? Your dick. Two of the last things she wants to know, combined.

The fatality is that if you / we are doing this one level, we’re usually not aware that were doing it in other areas as well in other ways. Whether conscious or sub-conscious women become aware. This is not what she wants in a lover, and she’s too young to be your mother. In an abstract way, you created the test for her and then gave her the answer sheet to go with it.

Now I realize that you didn’t ask for my not so highly regarded opinion of the situation. So take it for what it’s worth.
IMO it’s the underlying psychology / philosophy at play when one inserts their own foot in their mouth. That opinion comes from a great deal of past personal strife.

Hmmm, I guess 8 out of 10 ain’t bad. Truth? I’m thinking somewhere between what you wanted to hear and her not wanting to answer.

Don’t equate the inside with the outside. Inside out people are difficult to watch. It makes wiping a chore too.
Seriously. Stop asking these questions. Resist the occasional weakness. Learn to gauge the answer from other indicators that don’t require questioning. This way you don’t wear dysfunction like a badge.

We all like to hear “big dick” validation from the person where sticking it to. Asking for it is akin to jumping from the freeway overpass during rush hour. If you really have to, do what she would do. Spread some bait out.

Bingo.

How could there be a problem with the tool if there is no problem with the sex?

Everything is wrong with this post, including your sentence structure. Just PE for yourself and shutup about it to your girl, it only makes her lose respect for you, and you’ll never be happy till you make your gains anyway.

RootCap,

Your response is one of the best things I have read anywhere. You are wise.

MD

Excellent observation.

I’d also add that you asked her about your dick - not about how she feels about you over all.

Why is how she feels about your dick the most important thing? Answer: it’s not.

Free advice:

Stop competing with some imaginary perfect dick and appreciate the girl in front of you who is willing to play with your dick with you.

I dunno but 8 sounds good to me, I mean you’re obviously not huge, but you have a nice size, so why disillusion yourself into expecting something like 9 or 10?

I just wanted to know her opinion. She says sex is great and I know exactly how to make her feel good. I dont tell her I think it’s small. I make it sound like im happy with what I got. I dont show insecurity about my penis. Im confident about my size infront of here cuz I know how the phycological shit works. She’s never commented about my penis so I just wanted to know what she though of it. We were joking around and being all giggity before I asked her. I know the 8/10 is a real rate from her cuz I told her either way i’ll still feel the same so tell the truth and she said “at least 8”.

I never knew how she felt about my penis thats why I asked. And thats why im asking you guys if thats an answer to feel more confident about.

Either way im peing, but at least I know that im not 10. This will help me more.

I strive for a challange and to be the best at everything. I wake up everyday thinking how can I better myself. Now I know I gotta work on my penis a little more. Because If I were to rank my penis I would have also said an 8. So me knowing im a smart guy and I know easly how most ppl think. I may not put it in words correctly so you exactly know who and what I am. But me and my woman think a lot alike. And a 10 to me is what my goal is on the bottom. And I feel she’ll see that as a 10 also. I came up with that goal not her. This is for me, not her. Shes just the one fiddling with it so I wanted to know her opinon, just like i want to know yours.

I guarantee that you spend infinitely more time thinking about your dick than your girlfriend does. I promise you than unless your penis is disappointingly tiny or painfully large, and as long as you know how to use it, she isn’t even thinking about it. At 6.5 inches you have more than enough to work with, and she won’t have given it a second thought.

This is a bit harsher than I would have said it, but I basically agree.

My point was basically what Beelzeboss said. You’re not a bad size, but you have to know you’re not a 10 on the size scale, so why ask? It’s like being out of shape and asking her to rate your body 1-10. Don’t ask if you don’t want the answer, or were you secretly hoping for something lower? Masochistic?

Well said, Irishman.

kazooplayer is right as well, albeit with a less delicate ‘tough love’ approach.

Now let’s look at the chart.*

The red dots indicate where you’re stats place you by the most conservative estimate. The blue dots are your BPEL and your base girth.

Your length appears to be in the low 90th percentile by the most conservative estimate, and the mid-90th percentile by the most generous estimate (BPEL); not much of a difference in the big picture. However it does reveal one thing: big dick.

What it means is: out 100 guys there might be 10 or so guys who’s dick is longer than yours, i.e. you have a big dick.

You report your mid section girth at 5". Some guys would like to say that’s ‘average’; it’s actually 70th percentile: out of 100 guys 70 will be thinner, 30 will be thicker. Basically it’s pretty solid size - and definitely above average.

However you base is quite thick. With a 5.75" base you can definitely wear Magnums, by the way.

Girth is not quite as simple however; with girth it’s actually more reasonable to average those two measurements with a third measurement taken just below the glans. If that is done. I think you’ll find your girth is in the mid 80th percentile.

Just so you’re not confused: 80th percentile is also a big dick.

True, not the biggest, not likely to win an AVN Monster Cock Award, but a very healthy, big dick. Nothing to be ashamed of, but rather something you have good reason to be happy about if you could see your way clear to cutting yourself a break.

So let’s review: All in all, if you’re 90th for length and 80th for girth YOU HAVE A BIG DICK.

And your girl has it about right.

But you know what? None of that matters.

What matters is she likes you and she likes having sex with you. That’s what matters. Right?

Physically the vaginal cavity may vary from 4” to 8” the normal depth considered is 6” but the area of concern related to sex is just 2” as only the 2” of starting of vaginal cavity has sensation and the rest part is made up of tissues which are flexible tissues but do not have sensation.

My point is realistically most women would prefer a penis with more girth then length. I used to work in an adult novelty store and I sold more 7” dildos that had 6.5” in girth then selling 8-10” that had 5-5.5”. Of course not all women are the same but to my experience women do prefer girth to length and would gladly sacrifice an inch or two off the top if it is made up in girth. Also to my experience most people have difficulty in estimating size of a penis. Many customers I have seen in the store I worked at noted toys that were below 7” to be 8-9” and ones that were 8-10” they though were 10-12” both men and women seemed to have been inaccurate in estimating the size of a dildo with out actually looking at the size on the packaging. I have a friend who has stated to me that his EBPL is 8.25”. Girls that I know that have slept with him have all stated and brag about his ” 10 inch” dick. It boots his ego but he knows their estimates are inaccurate.

I think it would be safe to say most women would be satisfied with a man who has 7” in length and 5.5” and anything bigger would be a great bonus!