Mindset of "not enough" penis.

Hi everyone, I wonder where is it comes from?
What I’ve noticed it is life or death situation, when it comes up to sex. I mean, when I feel really good, seeing my girl enjoying sex, moan, response, being horny, I literally feeling like a man, my confidence goes sky high, and I can make sex for an 30min -1 hour before I want to cum and my EQ is strong. But when the girl don’t respond really good from the beginning, it sucks( especially if its the first time) The first think which comes up to my mind - is it my dick size? She want bigger right? I knew about one girl, she had a boyfriend with big thick dick, and when I was having sex with her, I came in like 40 seconds when I was inside her. So I think having a problems with cumming too soon is problem of my confidence.

in about 3-4 weeks my “love of my life” will arrive and I don’t feel good about it, from the very beginning. She is beautiful and I don’t trust in myself and being scared,that I screw it up, its the first girl which actually mean something for me. We talked about penis size, I wasn’t trying hard to know all the stuff about her ex’s and all that beta bullshits,but she told me, that she don’t understand, why guys are so concerned about dick size, that the most of guys was pretty much the same. We come up to my size, and I told her, that I´m from 6,5 to 8 range which is a big range, but she was happy, talking about my size like it was 7 inches, which is my size without bone pressed. So when it comes up to sex, she wont be surprised about my length. My EG is average and I cant get that out of my mind. I started clamping and my temporarily girth jumped to 5,15 but I want to meet her with 5,5. I know my size is ok, but I cant get rid of that mindset which i created when I was a kid with small dick! believe that until I boost my girth I wont trust in myself and its suck, because I don’t want to wait.

I don’t know the point of this thread, but pretty much need to tell somebody.

Suckerpunch, if you have a 7x5.15, you’re above average of most guys in this world! I think us men really screw ourselves up thinking we’re too small, and we allow that to mess with us psychologically, which can mess us up in bed! I think you need to concentrate on how you have sex with your love of your life. When she arrives, have flowers in your hand for her; start showing her immediately that she is amazing. Awesome conversation, and a lot of foreplay will all be things that will get your woman wet and ready to go! Research different positions that may help you and her. Finally, have some confidence in yourself; a woman appreciates a man with confidence. I hope everything goes well!

Its not about you. You are right now low conciousnesss and very focused on yourself. Its very unsexy and doesnt attract at all..I guees you figured that out already..
With your mindset the biggest cock on earth wont help your ego ;)

This is your Ego playing tricks with you. Find your balance. Your ego is attached to the past.
Focus on your girl and enjoy her. She will like that more then you worrying about yourself or boasting about yourself. Its not about you but about your next one..in this case yor girlfriend.

Now, how about focusing on the future? What will happen if you enjoy the company of your girlfriend no matter how the weather will be? Focus on what that means for you after it happened. Its your conciouss choice.

Or you go with your ego and the past connection. Your ego and the past are obviously not able to solve this situation.
Its not your enemy tough. Calm it like you would calm your kid beeing upset over what happened.

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Hey guys, thanks for your answer, I used to read Osho (Zen) (similar to Alan Watts, Eckheart Tolle) who talks about ego. I know its ruining my life, I lost my ego in almost every aspects of my life, but penis. In my mind its the most important thing in the world. Because when I’m depressed about my penis, I cant do anything, study, work or what so ever.
I´m not concerned about my size, but about how it will feels to her. and if I dont see, that it feels to her good, then I’m ashamed.

Low self consciousness, yes I know that, but I didn’t talk with her about it, because I know its super lame. I wont talk about it anymore, I just need to accept myself as a whole, and not as like “me and my dick”.
Its a long way run.

Actually until I want to change my dick size in the matter of “not being big enough” or please someone else, I cannot escape from this mindset. So The PE needs to become my something else - something I dont do because of my sex life.

Great man. You are on the right way. I think I was in a similar situation. Always above average but interpereting everything said and done as the glass half empty ;)

Ego is OK and usefull when you treat it like a kid(beeing aware of it in opposite to beeing controlled by it). Its nothing bad per se.
If your will is to get another mindset..you will get it when you focus on what you want to get in the future(which will be the now).

The mindset will interpret her reactions as: “It doesnt feel good to her” . She will say “I feel good” and you will think..”she just says it so I feel good”.

So if your goal is to have a different mindset then you have to think and figure out how that mindset will play out in future situations. And what it will do with you.
You cant escape the mindset. You have to adopt a new one.

Of course your ego will resist for the simple reason that you are alive.(and thus what you did/think in the past couldnt be wrong).
So you have to teach the kid/ego that with a different mindset you will still be alive.

Its quiet absurd and unreal if you think about it ;) but how our mind and brain works.(so we wont go to play with the lion like its a squirrel)

I’m glad Osho got mentioned because I think he fits in neatly with what I have to say about this:

We are talking about ego and insecurity on a forum strictly about making cocks bigger. Specifically about how we need to be confident in what we each have and be happy with ourselves, but at the same time reconciling that idea with our need to have a bigger cock. Hypocrisy?

Osho: peace, love, joy, meditation, then his followers poison a bunch of people in The Dalles. Hypocrisy?

Ali Shariati: dedicated to Islam and building a better world, reinterprets Islam to allow for the Iranian Revolution, leading to carnage, bloodshed, and even worse oppression. Hypocrisy?

Is all that hypocrisy? Maybe. But Osho and Ali Shariati were both great men and progressive thinkers. I think we need to spend less time justifying our drives that provide the impetus to pursue PE, and less time thinking about all the reasons why we shouldn’t feel that way. We all know porn skews our ideas about “average,” we all know a bigger cock doesn’t make someone a better person, we all know physically satisfying a woman is completely independent of penis size, and yet we all KNOW we want a bigger cock. Having conflicting drives and doing conflicting things is all part of being human.

Roots

I know that this forum is build on insecurity, and it conflicts with my “beliefs” but :D . I know why I’m here and I don’t call it differently. actually it is really hard to get in that “state of mind” of don’t give a fuck or call it enlightenment.
Osho - he is not responsible for other people stupid actions.
The same happened as well in the history with Siddhartha Gautama(Buddha) then with the Jesus Christ which both standed for good things, but people corrupted minds and ego change it into stupid religions. Christians killed lot of people in the name of god, but I dont believe, that Jesus Christ would stand for it as well as Buddha wouldn’t.

Islam- I don’t know anything about it.

I don’t believe that woman satisfying is a completely independent of penis size.

Ya, my point is that Osho is still a great dude whether he was responsible or not. Or if he had too many Rolls Royce’s to ever possibly drive. He was a guru of a new, progressive anti-religion spirituality, and I think that is way cool. I’m not a follower, but I see his greatness. If he wanted to have an absurd number of very expensive cars or have sex with every woman ever, that’s cool too.

I think you are correct about satisfying women, a large penis can stimulate them mentally, like a fantasy, but my point was from a purely physical standpoint the mechanisms of female orgasm are pretty disconnected from penetration. Anyone with a small penis can still get a girl off with his mouth. :)

And I think you have the right mindset about all this. You have your personal values and spirituality figured out it sounds like, and you know you want a bigger cock too. Sounds perfect to me! :)

Yes he is, I dont care about that Osholand and those worshipers. Im totally happy about his books, thats all I need. I thing Im going now gandalf, and I wont show up here for a long time.

I regret to announce — this is The End. I am going now. I bid you all a very fond farewell. haha Goodbye.

Eleventy-one years was far too short a time.

For me its all about context..and then recontextualizing where its desired(for you or the greater good).

I started PE out of insecurity. Now its a hobby / sport / challenge.

My insecurities never changed due to PE specificly. Any “confidence” build on PE alone is merely pride IMO. And this will stand on wobbly legs.
Same with money or anything else outside(!) of yourself.

Balancing yourself inside(!) will most times lead to a balanced outside.
Basing everything on the outside will make you a slave to the outside(like beeing upset all day cause weather is bad all day).

Isn’t the penis half inside and half outside of you? So does that mean its a halfway good thing to base pride upon? ;) I’m just joking.